Being Under Minded In Your Relationship

Yes. Guys tend to have weaker minds then women (actually 3.4 times weaker) and try to trick them with different strategies such as this. But don't let him trick you. The best way to fight them is to find a counter buzz word against his. Anyways have a nice day. :)

Hi MoonGypsy, the simple answer is if he speaks to you like that and tries to undermine you then he obviously does not have enough respect for you for you to waste your time on him. I would imagine that a man who resorts to this has low self esteem and if you put up with him long enough you will have to. I can't speak from personal experience as I just wouldn't have time for that kind of remark at all but I've certainly seen girlfriends being put down by their partners like this and they end up unhappy and approval seeking.

I would agree that it isn't the right way to be happy. I wouldn't want to say not the right way to live because I see people really enjoy arguing too. Sometimes when you are together far to long and you guys argue once in awhile but from long term the arguments become more internal than just fun verbal. It isn't fun to have that type of relationship especially from long-term indirect effects. I should suggest finding happier things. In life there aren't too many fish out there, less than what people really tell you. But we only one life which is a lot less than the fish out there, so live it the best you can you might not get a second chance in life again. God bless

My ex-boyfriend was like that too. He will start hurling similar insults. And when I talk to him about it, he doesn't see anything wrong with it (he claims he's joking and doesn't mean it) and doesn't understand why I feel hurt and bothered. Do guys have to do that to show that they have the upper hand in a relationship? Or is it just inferiority complex? Communication is of very much importance in a relationship, and quarrels do make us understand each other better, but not when it gets insulting and berating. Imagine if both of you are like that when in a relationship, what will happen if you get married and live together and face each other everyday? Your kids will suffer too (but that's too far in the future i guess right ;) ). Anyway, hope you and your boyfriend are able to work things out! Cheers!

It probably just his personality. Maybe he does it so he can feel good about himself or to feel superior over you. I wouldnt say that every guy does this as I surely dont. He probably lacks respect for other people or maybe for just women. How does he act when he is around other guys? If he acts the same as he does towards you then its probably just his personality and if you dont like it I wouldnt stick around with this guy. I know some guys who just act like this in general to everyone it must be that they are insecure of themselves and want to make everyone feel bad so they can get enjoyment out of it. Just start turning things on him more cleverly when you guys argue. It would probably show him that you do have the ability to play mindtricks on him also. He probably wont like it and might start showing you respect or he just might get mad at you. But what I am hoping you will do is show him somehow maybe not up front but imply it somehow verbally. Now just dont lose your temper and resort to violence as nothing will be solved with violence and it can either get you into trouble or make you look bad. Oh and to answer your last question I dont think what you are doin is wrong because nobody should be exposed to this kind of treatment its better that you try to stop it or end it completely rather than take it and say nothing. Hope this helps you a bit. :)

moon, life is a period of time. and it sounds like this guy is wasting yours! If you already think you might break up then it also sounds like you should do it now and find someone else who will appreciate you more. It sounds like you have the right attitude not letting him get you down or take advantage of you. so make like a jay and walk away. any man who does not like and even love you for who you are is not worth the time it takes to um, kick him out the door! happy whatever...

moongypsy be careful there, thats one early step in a control freak and a wife beater, to undermine the woman, make himself feel very powerful and her to feel belittled, then he takes it to the next level pushing the rebellious woman around physically, then the next step is the beating, the hitting to make her submit and make him the powerful one. believe me, he will soon move on to shoving you around.,end it before he gets physical

If he is constantly cutting down your opinions and belittling you he does not belong with a more submissive woman. He doesn't belong with anyone. It's a bad habit he's better off losing. I'm glad for your sake that you don't just take it. If you really think this relationship has a long term future I would sit down with him and tell him to stop or risk losing you.