Would you give up everything for your soulmate?
By sweetsatabdi
@sweetsatabdi (80)
India
August 7, 2009 3:55am CST
love is a beautiful feeling..thers nothing that can bring more pleasure in life than this..but will you give up everything for your partner's sake?will you compromise?can you sacrifice?suppose your partner doesnt like your friends that much..so suddenly you feel you are getting detatched from your friends for your partner's sake..will you give up your friends?maybe you like partying a lot..but your partner hates it..will you stop partying??..can you give up your most prized possesion for the one you love??are you selfish or can you deal with this??
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20 responses
@firyagni (42)
• India
8 Aug 09
its been two years since i have been in love and trust me i want to be in this same relationship over and over again.and in this two years i have indeed sacrificed many things for my love.if not everything i can bet that it is nearly everything and there are more to come i guess.still counting and going strong.ultimately i will turn up ti be the strongest man in this category of giving up everything for my love.wish me luck all of you
@eikonsamala (34)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
No I will not. To be able to love others is first to love your self. Let the respect and trust grow in your relationship. There are things that you should stop doing because it's a no no for relationship but there are things that doesn't need to be sacrificed. Give and take relationship really works. Try it!
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
12 Aug 09
There is no way I would drop anything for anyone and I wouldn't expect my partner to do that either. It's not fair I don't think to expect someone to completely give up their entire lives simply to please you. I think relationships take a lot of compromise to work and without it, the relationship won't work. I think it's selfish to expect someone to drop everything.
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
7 Aug 09
Partner Is Someone you Share your Happiness And Sorrows With .. Friends are Around Only When You are Happy .. Now Tell Me Whom Do I Need More .. Can You feel What A Partner is .. Friends Come And Go, But you Do Stick On To One Partner If All is well .. Thank You ..
@sweetsatabdi (80)
• India
7 Aug 09
yess i agree with you..but how can you call those people friends who are only there in your happy time??i wouldnt definitely call them friends..yes your partner will lways be there to help you out but i dont think i will ever give up my friends to make my partner happy..
@suparnodatta (362)
• India
7 Aug 09
Its a very difficult question ,puts in you in a dilemma actually ,If i really love her then i should be ready to sacrifice anything for her,But i am not sure about friends,If she likes me i think she should like my friends or at least she will try not to dislike them,other than friends and my parents i am ready to give up anything.I remember one of my friends gave up smoking and drinking totally for a girl,which seemed to us very stupid back then but now we realize how much he must have loved her to that....
@aznbeast4life (91)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I would have to say that your true partneer would be someone who understands what you like to do and who you like to spend some time with. Your partner would want you to have what you want and they would try and do it and enjoy it with you, despite if they don't like it. They wouldn't want you to give up the things you like to do just for them. That's just my opinion though, Happy myLotting!
@sweetsatabdi (80)
• India
7 Aug 09
thanks for responding..i agree with you to some extent..but its quite true sometimes maybe you and your partners liking may not match..maybe your partner wont force you..but he/she may imply that
@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I would say that I will not give up everything in this world for my soulmate. I know that its very rare to meet your soulmate but I would not compromise things like abandoning my family or friends. I can sacrifice other things like relocating into another country for him or changing some things. If he really loves me, he must know how to deal with my family and friends. Being in love should be a give and take scenario for both partners so that they can live together harmoniously. My mother and father's families have a family feud. We grew up not knowing our relatives in our father's side because of my mother. I met them when I was a grown-up already. I have experienced it before and I don't want it to happen all over again.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I think it depends upon the things you're supposed to be giving up. If just your hobbies or things you used to do that you enjoy most, can be but to give up your dear ones, family and good friends, I think I just can do adjustments. even in soul mates there's should be understanding. Hard to say, though as when it comes to love others sacrifice everything but as much as possible if in my case, I won't.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
i think only if he's really worth it... :) uhmmm... i think it's better if my partner would learn to understand that i have to be with my friends also... i'm lucky to have a boyfriend who's very much understanding... :) he's very much close to my friends and i'm so satisfied with it... :) my former boyfriend was like that, he used to make me choose from my friends over him... he wants me to be with him always rather than me being with my friends... i broke up with him... :) he's not worth it... he's just a selfish dummy
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
When someone is totally heads over heels in love, I guess words like "I'll do everything for you..." is very meaningful. This line is also popular in love songs, but in real life, there are many things to be considered such as give and take. If I give up everything, would he? So, I think it's better to sit down and talk so that both parties will be happy.
@rlaknar (616)
• India
8 Aug 09
Of course I will. Other than her there is nothing special for me. So I would consider to give up anything for her. Before her partying does not matter and if she hates I would give up that too. And I for me the most important thing is computer and I would give up that too. But all I do only if she loves me more like this. She should have mind to give up anything for me.
Best of Luck. Happy Mylotting.
Best Regards, rlaknar
@ravirai8616561 (824)
• India
8 Aug 09
I don't think so.For me my parents are the ones that I love the most and no one in this world would be so great that I can leave my parents for that person.
@grundmang (112)
• Israel
7 Aug 09
ofcourse i wold..what am i without the people i love? as i saied before loved ones are the mist importent thing in life...
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
8 Aug 09
The moment you call someone a soul mate, you have already given up everything! If you have any hidden attributes then no one is your soul mate! What do you think?
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
7 Aug 09
I really don’t know where a line can be drawn to ‘everything’…guess it depends from person to person. In my case, well I believe I have given up a lot for my soulmate…not because he asked me to, but because I felt it necessary and I have never regretted my decisions. Now I am sure he would never ask me to do anything which my conscience wont support…if ever that time comes, I don’t think I can do it. So, NO…I don’t think I can give up everything for my soulmate.
@noahark (21)
• China
7 Aug 09
in my opinion,i think a true partner should love your merits and your faults.
as your partner likes you,he or she must understand you and should know what
you think.i don't think love is doing so many things or sacrifices but understanding each other.your partner likes you because you are yourself,not the
one who wants to be changed for him or her.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
7 Aug 09
this is very deep problem,i could not give up everything for my soulmate.i think that the life is very realistic and impersonal,if i always live for my matirial and could not waste my time for my soulmate,maybe you said what you think is crul,but i find that nobody can help me,i must depend myself learn why to live,sepecially men,they hope that their women can work and don't always depend in them,what they have done is very realistic,so if my partner hope me give up everything for him,i could not do like this,i hope that i can leave the part of them,not all,it is not realistic for me.
@cxtcliuyi (14)
• China
7 Aug 09
ha, It is a dillema.I will be subjected to immense pains from it. we are human ,we have many diverse feelings .we value them ,but if we have no choices but to choice .I will choice my parents .because they bring up me .it is a merit in our country.
@frugalchick1986 (22)
• United States
7 Aug 09
My husband is a marine and I have left my job, family and friends behind to move where ever he needs me. I would do almost anything for him. However now that I have children, they are a higher priority.