What you will do when you are here?

@rlaknar (616)
India
August 7, 2009 8:32am CST
Hi dear mylotters, My friend is facing a critical situation. I am in need of you suggestion as he is expecting mine and I am expecting yours. He has just finished his graduation along with me. He has a cousin . The cousin's grandmother is very close to his parents. She is being respected by his parents. Recently grandmother asked his parents arrange a marriage of her daughter-in-law and my friend. She said that girl (daughter-in-law) is very passionate on him and eager him to marry him. His parents accepted this and having a mind to arrange marriage between them. The problem is my friend does not like her not only now even from childhood. He does not like to marry her and he is continuously avoiding and scaring to take decision against his parents. He is so sad and getting worried about this problem. What you will do when you are in his position ?? What he must do to solve this problem? Please share your views..
2 responses
bird123
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Communication is key in any relationship. Start communicating with mom and dad. Tell them your view. Finally, you do have freedom of speech. When the preacher asks will you marry her say NO! You might cause drama but you will also show that freedom to choose is worth fighting for!
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rlaknar
@rlaknar (616)
• India
9 Aug 09
That is right. But there is no preacher for him in his marriage as per his custom. Thanks for the suggestion. Happy Mylotting.
yelrihs
@yelrihs (298)
• Australia
7 Aug 09
i know its a really hard situation, but i still believe that love is what matters. no one can force you into marriage if you dont want it. after all its your life, you marry the girl, not your parents.. he should just open up and say he is not ready and he is not in love. it will be hard, but you gotta put yourself first in this matter..
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rlaknar
@rlaknar (616)
• India
7 Aug 09
Of course you are right. But the problem in him is he is scared to open this matter to his parents . And I think they do not want his acceptance that is just like compelling him. He is just like a bird in a cage. Thanks for the help. I will convey this to him. Best of Luck. Thanks for the response.