Do you ever feel that people are lazy?
By Seppy1984
@Seppy1984 (2145)
United States
August 7, 2009 12:16pm CST
Ok I am starting this discussion because I have noticed something a lot lately and it bugs me. Well when I go and respond to discussions, I tend to make it long and make it be quality and quantity every time if possible. Well I have noticed that when I do that my response gets skipped and does not even recieve a comment. Well to me I feel left out when that happens. I wonder if it is because I make mine long and others don't. Could this be it? Do you ever feel like you are left out when you don't recieve a comment to your response? Could I be right when I say that they are lazy and just don't feel like reading the long responses? How do you feel when you run into this type of problem here?
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10 responses
@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
7 Aug 09
Hi Seppy, I also comment on every response and expect to receive comments back to my responses. Often no comments at all are received which certainly gives the impression that the responses have not even been read. But today I has a firs at, I responded to a discussion yesterday and for some reason went back into it today to find the other responses has all received comments except mine yet I had responded to the question with a full answer, about the same lengths as the other respondees. I left a remark on one of my friends responses drawing attention to it but I certainly won't respond again to that poster.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
That is the same thing here. I agree with you with not responding to the poster ever again. It seems like as if they like certain people more or something and I feel that the only way we know that we are doing great is if they were to comment us back just so that we know that our responses is good enough.
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Well that is a very good point there. You are such a great responder and I apperciate that.
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@thea09 (18305)
• Greece
8 Aug 09
You know Seppy it was actually quite funny as the poster asked for the name of the person we most admired and had inspired us the most and I actually think she was probably stumped and had no idea at all who I was talking about which is probably more or less what I would have expected.
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@webearn99 (1742)
• India
8 Aug 09
I do know how you feel. I too have the habit of scrolling through the responses I get and, for some reason feel good when someone comments. I feel validated. "Yes someone cares about what I have to say!"
As for the short comments, they are satisfying. I tend to think that they might be busy, but then they care enough to respond!, which is a good thing! It might be simply a case of not being skilled enough to elaborate verbally, on what they wanted to say.
Now, if there were no comments, I go through my response and try to find whether i had not made it interesting enough to evoke a reaction! Too bland a response, no comment is the result.
To comment or not is their choice. I respect that.
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I know that I do respect that they choose wether or not to comment. It just would be nice to be told what they feel about my response. I know that I try my very best to comment on everyone's responses to let them know if I agree or disagree or if I find their response interesting because I see it this way, by doing that it helps both myself and the responder to get a chat going so that we both benefit from it. But no big deal I just go onto a different discussion and see what takes place with that one. But I do see your point of view all the way.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Although I've felt left out before, at least when it comes to asking questions that have gone unanswered, I don't let it get to me and I move on. There could be any number of reasons why the original poster overlooked the response. Maybe they had nothing to add to it, maybe they got caught up with other things, or maybe they didn't even seen the response in the first place. Everyone on here mylot's differently. It doesn't mean that they are being lazy. Try not to worry about it.
Happy mylotting!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Darn it! Sorry for the picture. I suspected it was going to show up on this response and not the one I responded to last (the one it had been intended for). Even though I was extra careful and made sure I uploaded it in the correct discussion it went to this one instead. That's mylot for ya!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
10 Aug 09
The only mistake I made was not refreshing the page when responding to this discussion (or closing it and opening it up again). Because I took extra measures to make sure the picture had uploaded in the correct discussion. If it had been an error on my part I wouldn't have went to such lengths to explain myself. Instead I would have just said something like "Oops, sorry for the picture" and left it at that. But that's just me.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Aug 09
You are very much right. Well I did get over it, I just thought it would be nice to recieve a comment so that I know that they appericiated that I responded. No big deal because I went to the next subject that I wanted to answer. It's ok about the picture, I am sure it happens to many people here. I know that a friend of mine did the samething just the other day. Things happen by mistake and I don't care because all people make mistakes.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
7 Aug 09
I read a lot on here - but then I am me not someone else so I can only speak for what I do. When I start a discussion I comment on every single response it receives no matter whether it is a long one or a short one.
I can see what you are talking about though because I see on many discussions that the longer, more interesting responses, are left without a comment many times.
Take a note of the user and avoid their discussions in future if that helps but remember that unless THEY comment on your response, the only one to earn from it is you
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
7 Aug 09
MyLot tell us to ''
'generate discussions that engage other users and provide insightful responses and comments to other users discussions to further the topic'.
http://www.mylot.com/o/faq/faq6.aspx#14
Those users are not getting the best out of myLot and neither are they helping others too. MyLot is teamwork - you respond then I comment then you comment back and so on then we all benefit
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Yes that is the best way for everyone to benefit. Now only if I was able to make discussions better.
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Wow you brought some very awesome points to this topic. I will avoid thoes people as much as posible and you are right the only one earning is me. I never thought of it this way and that makes perfect sense. Thanks for bringing the light to me and giving me great tips.
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@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Long discussion make readers become bored and because others tend to be fast and want fast respond and comment, they do not want to read long discussion. When they do, they are just sayign one or two sentence and then it is done. Moderate long is much better as long as it is understandable.
It is also a waste of time to keep long discussion that other's skip it too and prefer short discussion.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Well, I feel that if it is too short then I just can't respond because there is not enough there for me to respond. I like to have it be about a good 6 paragraphs or so, so that there is for me to write. I feel the more you write the more that people can understand each other along with getting the most out of mylot.
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@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Yeah, the more you write it is understandable but others do not want too long.
You can still write not too long so that it is easy to read on.
Sometimes i want long post too especially if it is an interest to me.
The more sentences you are writing the paragraph is relating and you can also summarize it into short paragraph.
Longer response or post is good because you can say something back.
If it is only one or two sentence you have no idea what to respond back too and your option is to answer or ignore it.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
You have a very good point here. I wish that I was able to make my responses short but very meaningful so that I get comments, but when I try I fail at it. That is why I tend to do long responses and discussions. But you are right though.
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@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
Well first of seppy it is never your loss if they dont reply to our comment specially if we post long ones... sometimes they just are not into a long ones or
they are just afraid to get another long response from you again just kidding on the side my friend. well I love long comments and I encourage all my friends to do just that and respond to the discussions I make to make it a real discussion and I do the same to there discussion as well. what I try to do is be selective on the people that I make long responses specially my friends and who I know who really takes time to read and do discussion to you... well I will add you up as a friend and hope to see you on your discussions hope you will accept. happy weekend my friend.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Hello, you are very much welcome for the friendship acceptness. I can't wait to see what kind of stuff we answer from each other.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Hello, my new friend. I so understand what you are saying now. You are right it is never my loss when they don't reply because of the fact I am still getting paid. I am going to do what you do then. Keep my long responses and comments to my friends that really don't mind taking their time reading them. I too encourage long responses and discussions. It may take me a while to comment back to a response when it is long but I always try to respond back to everyone. The only reason it takes me awhile is because I want to make sure that I respond pretaining to the discussions plus I don't want to miss any detail at all. I accepted you as a friend because I feel that we hit well on every level of interest.
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@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
same goes for me my friend seppy I may not respond instantly but i really do try to get back to it during my vacant time and respond to the comment I get.
thanks for the add see you around my friend.
@sutent (1060)
• China
8 Aug 09
Hi,
Yes, you are right. I also feel left out when my response receives no comment. As to the question if people are lazy or not when they do that. I am not sure of it. Maybe it was not because your response is too long to be read or commented, but because the discussion owner do not care about the substance of the response. What they mostly care about is just making money from the discussion. I had found that many discussion owner never give his/her comments back on those response on his/her discussion. How do i feel when experience the type of problem? Just like you, i am also feel unhappy. And if find somebody never comment back on any responses, i would not care about his discussion any more.
Happy mylotting!
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Aug 09
You have a very great point here. All I know is that the person commented on everyone so far but mine. And all the other responders were shorter then my response was. I felt that I hit the nail on the head too because I felt that we had a connection with the topic. But oh well, I got over it.
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@ruzzel016 (241)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
Sometimes.. But friend a person is different in other person or should I say were all unique but sometimes do not expect a certain thing but rather expect the unexpected..
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Aug 09
That is a very unique way of saying it this way and I respect that. You have a very good point.
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Hello, did you even read the whole discussion? Because you seem to be talking about something totally different from the lazy I am talking about...LMAO
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Hello, that is OK. I know all people make mistakes. I got a laugh from it though.
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@chetrarath (53)
• United States
7 Aug 09
yes people are lazy even i'm lazy. i feel lazy at work,school, and jsut staying home makes me feel lazy.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Hello, did you even read the whole discussion? Because you seem to be talking about something totally different from the lazy I am talking about...LMAO