Are you married?Did your relationship changed after your marriage?
By Azaerus
@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
August 7, 2009 12:57pm CST
Many tells me that the relationship is better when the couple is not yet married. They say that both people involved in the relationship are both sweet in every way and both parties respects and do their obligations within the relationship. Love is obviously floating within the relationship of the couple.
On the other hand others say that ones you get married your relationship towards your husband or your wife changes.Many complains of how much nagging the other one does and many complains about how irresponsible the other one gets. Also,in some cases many complains that the love just isn't there anymore.Sometimes,because of these changes some marriages only ends up in a divorce.And yes it is very sad to see these marriages end up like that.
How about you??are you married??are you single??
If you are married,then did your relationship change after your marriage or is it still the same as you were not yet married??
If you are single,what can you say about this??Can you share your thoughts about this??
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3 responses
@lulumartin (963)
• Germany
8 Aug 09
Hi, azaerus.
Oh ya, our relationship did change after we got married. Marriage involves many things. The sharing of works and responsibilites come in after we got married. And this made me nagging my hubby all the time. I think this really destroy our love. Sometimes i feel regret to get married. But i cant go back to the past.
I think we are still immature to handle the marriage. I think of divorce too but my baby is still small. But, i believe everything will change to be better if we have the "heart" to make a change!
It should be double sided, other wise nothing will work out.
@lulumartin (963)
• Germany
10 Aug 09
Ya...divorce is indeed a bad idea, especially we have already had a child. We have a saying, it's easy to be in love but hard to live together. That's true, it's not an easy job to manage a married life.
But when i look at others' stories. I am still lucky to have a life like this. My problem of mine is just cannot adapt to the changes and i cannot control my emotions. I am a very emotional person that makes me happy sometimes but also sad and angry sometimes.
I would not want our married life to change my baby. I know how a family environment can influence a baby. I want to give him a happy family. You are right, i should take it as a challenge and i know i can do that!
Thanks for the concern. Have a nice day and happy mylotting!
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
Oh no..don't think of divorce no matter what happens. Think of what will be the outcome and the impact of it on your child. Challenges strengthens the relationship of married couples, just look at it this way,when your baby is all grown up you'll be proud to tell your baby that your marriage is successful and that you didn't let anything ruin your relationship with your husband.
Successful marriage is one thing everybody doesn;t have.It is also one thing a couple should be proud of.
Good luck with your relationship and I'm sure that your relationship will last just always be strong. Be tough I'm sure you can face everything that comes on your way.:)
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
i am married (now a single parent of four children), i was married with my abusive husband for seven years then i left him and tagged my children with me. i am 9 years living away from him. i can say that you learn more about the person when you both are married. traits that your partner can no longer hide from you because you are living together already. from sun up to sun down. you will know him inside and out. i learned in the early years of our marriage that he is an abusive person but i stayed for i was expecting that he will change. i was wrong so i with our children left him. there are a few who i know still stick together through thick and thin and people who are willing to change just for the love of their lives. i am hoping one day i will get into a relationship again with a person that is perfectly fit for me.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I am very sorry for what happened to your life with your husband after marriage. It is true that you will never know the true character of a person until you get to live with them. Even if that person is the one whom you're going to marry or have married.
Although,your husband turned to be an abusive one,do you sometimes doubt everything about your marriage with him?
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