How do you deal with rejection? Is it still hurts?
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
Indonesia
August 7, 2009 1:12pm CST
Hi myLotters, at some time you must have felt rejection. Either it is rejection from someone whom we like, rejection from company we wanna go work with, rejection from our boss of our work; even in myLot - my writing tasks has been rejected several times! 
For me, I still remember few rejections. For example, I was once being interviewed by a company I really really wanted, but in the end they rejected me while I am already at the final stage of the interview. After it happened, I reflect through that experience and realized that it was my really first interview after graduating from uni and am really nervous at the time. Luckily, I learn from my mistake, improving my interview skills and getting an even better job from that. So, rejections bring positive impact for me.
So what about you myLotters? What rejection you remember the most? Do you still feel hurt by it? Do you learn something and how do you deal with it?
For me, I still remember few rejections. For example, I was once being interviewed by a company I really really wanted, but in the end they rejected me while I am already at the final stage of the interview. After it happened, I reflect through that experience and realized that it was my really first interview after graduating from uni and am really nervous at the time. Luckily, I learn from my mistake, improving my interview skills and getting an even better job from that. So, rejections bring positive impact for me.
So what about you myLotters? What rejection you remember the most? Do you still feel hurt by it? Do you learn something and how do you deal with it?1 person likes this
13 responses
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
I think rejection is always disappointing especially when you put so much hope in the outcome. It is true that after a rejection, it will bring the positive energy in a person, by reflecting oneself, aiming to put more efforts and whatsoever. However, not every people can deal with rejections. My latest rejection was the article that I have submitted, which has been rejected. Of course, I felt a bit disappointed, but I accepted it. I think one of the best ways to deal with rejection is to expect the unexpected. Meaning, to be prepared mentally before it happens. In that way, it won't feel hurt so much.
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Hi corry, you give a very good advise, expect the unexpected. Sometimes when we think or losing hope of something, then something positive would come and we got we want, but the opposite things could also happened. Thanks for the response, happy Mylotting!
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Hi! Thank you so much for the BR. 
Sorry for not getting back to you earlier.
Sorry for not getting back to you earlier.
@justbeingtiffany (1156)
• United States
7 Aug 09
well i'm kind of in entertain ment so i pretty much set myself up for rejection all the time. especially since i do so many contests i always tell myself i'm the best out there but when other people win it kind of hurts my self esteem so i don't know what to do anymore. i been trying for long to make it and i never win so i feel like i should bow out and give up. i don't like feelings this way all the time. like a big fat loser....
@Archie0 (5652)
•
8 Aug 09
Prayer.
Ask God to heal you of your hurts and shift your focus to the things He desires for you to focus on at this time. Let Him heal you. : )
i don't know what grade you're in, but as a mother - i want definitely want my children to be focused on the things that are appropriate for them at this time.
Be healed and be focused in Jesus name.
: )
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
9 Aug 09
Hi justbeingtiffany, I think you're the first person here I met working in entertainment. But from what I read especially in the industry, people will often get rejected. That's a lot of competition out there and while you maybe do not win the contest now, just remember there are other opportunities waiting for you out there in the future. I'm also still quite young and I embrace every opportunity that come to me, a matter of win or lose is not a problem to me, just put my best effort into it..Thanks for the response!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Being rejected from something you are really wanting can be hard, and can cause a lot of hurt and heartache, but at the same time can be a learning process and the start for something Great as well. Overall I think if more people could look at more situations with a thought that no matter what happens, this is not the end, there would be a lot more Happier people out there as well. Yes, rejection is not Fun and does hurt but it could also be the Start for something better as well.
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
9 Aug 09
Hi KrauseHome, yes I think people must see in life in a positive way and bringing that spirit to every aspect on their life, in that way people got affected and the world will be so much better. So yes, being rejected try to find a reason behind it and learning if there some lessons we can take...Thanks for the response!
@kukaisiton (702)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
it's difficult especially when that thing where you got rejected is something that's really important to you. it's difficult, but i dont wanna mope around. so i immmediately cry my head off, until i fall asleep, in the morning when it still hurts i still cry it, but eventually everything gets better cause youve released all the sadness. it also really helps when you pysch yourself that something else is coming along that's better and would make you more happy.
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
9 Aug 09
Agreed. To be rejected in something really important really hurts, especially if you work hard for it and already put your best to be accepted. But I'm hoping everyone here to gear up their spirit again if they get rejection. Always remember, if you ever get rejected by something, there is always something good will happen to you in the future. I always define rejection as a way to success. Thanks for the response!
@tia_sweet (154)
• India
8 Aug 09
mine was the same sort of case as yours..i got rejected in an interview which was conducted in our campus premisis..i was too immature then..and got too hurted from that rejection..but i feel rejection teaches better things..and everything that happens..adds for our goodwill...
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Yeah, I got rejected also because lack of experience in doing interviews. My mistake is, I supposed to be telling them the truth that I did not know the answer of the question, instead of telling them the completely wrong and unconvincing answer lol.Thanks for the response!
@klwheretogo (230)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
rejection? i treat it as normal in life. If you want to survive then you must be able to tolerate rejection. i believe everyone here being rejected before. i do not remember any rejection that really hurt me, maybe i forgot.
@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Rejection is a normal process in life that we must go through. Not all rejection hurts, but I am sure there's some rejection that we still really remember cause we expected positive things so much. luck for you to forget all the rejections you got. Thanks for the response
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
8 Aug 09
Hi sophisticated_boy, Rejection as you rightly said is a part of life.there have been many instances where you have been rejected sometimes , you feel was unfair or sometimes you may not have deserved it.I still remember the hurt I felt while I was in school and was in the NCC. There used to be a selection made for mountaineering camp in the Himalayas sponsored by the Central commitee which I had applied to it. But I got rejected because I was underage by a few months, and I felt very bad, since I could not have the opportunity again.
But as you grow older , rejections make less and less of an impact and you are able to take them as any other happening in life and move on. That in my opinion is the best thing to do - all the best and have a great weekend
@hwoarangpoy (196)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
Rejection comes in all walks of life. I guess being rejected is an emotion that is normal but what is more hurtful. Knowing that you got rejected from work or being with the father of your kids who despise you for boring him children?
@vzerocool (76)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
Rejection is never been easy.It always hurt someone when they were rejected.But if you will just make rejestion into a positive way.I think it will be more easy to accept.
@UTKARSH777 (82)
• India
8 Aug 09
hello everyone..
my friend is here to discuss about the rejection but can he please tell me that what is rejected either the man or its work,either the person himself or its abilities.I think the value of rejection is known because of the known value of acceptance.Yes...I still remembers a rejection which was made by my sports teacher for the volleyball team but it was not the refusal of mine but it was the way which reminds me of working more in the field and as the result I was selected for the team in the next year sports meet.
@DiwansSong (16)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I think the best thing to do when you have been rejected by a person/boss/company is to take up a new hobby/skill/job. Do something productive that you wouldn't have done otherwise; this tricks your mind into thinking that the rejection was somewhat of a positive thing since you wouldn't have ventured into this new hobby/skill/job if not for that rejection.
