When you say I LOVE YOU, do you mean it?
@aznbeast4life (91)
United States
August 7, 2009 2:58pm CST
I indeed do mean it when I say it to my loved one, I could not say that I love her more than I do now. If I told her I love her and I didn't mean it, then I would kill myself for that because I cannot lie to her. I know that some girls out there say it all the time to their best friends and people close to them. Thats different than what I am trying to ask. Do you mean it when you say I love you to your partner? If not, then why would you say it and not mean it?
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@x_Jo_x (1040)
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7 Aug 09
I say "I love you" to my friends, i would mean that. But to me it is different to saying it to a partner. When saying it to a partner for me it takes on a different meaning. If i was going out with a guy, i wouldnt say I love you unless i really meant it, not even if i just loved them as a friend because they might take it the wrong way. Its cruel to say it when you dont mean it because it will get their hopes up! You cant say "I love you" one night then the next morning say "I dont think its working, sorry!". In a relationship you need to be open and honest and for me, even being truthful about what you dont feel is still important!
@x_Jo_x (1040)
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8 Aug 09
I couldnt deal with the pain i caused that person unnecessarily! Which is why i would never tell someone i loved them if i didnt mean it! I agree with you! Part of being in a relationship and letting people into your heart is knowing that there is a risk you might get hurt, but taking that risk anyway! I would hate for someone to lead me on then let me down so i wouldnt do it to them! Being open and honest is what i will be with any body;Friend, family or lover. There is no point hiding the truth, they will find out eventually and the fact I lied will hurt them 10 x more!
@smellytrampsfeet (146)
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8 Aug 09
i try to mean it as much as i can but sometimes i really dont mean it my ex i said i loved them when really i hated them so much it gave me the will to live
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I mean it whole-heartedly when I say I love you to anyone, not just to my partner. I'm not one of the people that says it to my friends because I don't really love them, and if I do say it to them then that means I do. I've had some friends that I've been really close with for eternity, but they're a very select few and I don't think I've even ever told any of them that I love them.
I don't understand why anyone would tell someone I love you without really meaning it. I know a lot of people use the excuse of not wanting to hurt their feelings, but lying to them isn't going to make it better and at some point or another the truth has to come out, which just makes them feel worse because you've been lying to them all the time.
