How to get on well with one who has bad temper?

It is hard dealing with people with very bad temper but I guess the strategy of fighting fire with water might help. On the peak of a person's anger, the other should be the one to remain calm and composed until the other person's temper or anger subsides. It's not really easy because we each have our own tantrums sometimes but I guess if we really try, it might work.

my husband is the kind that loses his temper easily too so i just avoid him when he is in one of his moods and i also get what i need out of him when he is in a particularly good mood. it is like walking on eggshells sometimes but i am not going to get in arguments with him all of the time just because he is moody.

Bad tempers and short tempered people are losing out on so much. They lose the chance of making friends because the friend will/could get fed up with the tantrums when the bad temper sets in. I admire you for wanting to help your friend. Be patient with her. Take your time to have a talk with her when she is calmer and agree to have some sort of 'code' between you. Invent some sort of fun word that you can both understand and each time she 'goes off the handle' you mention this word. Over time she will realise that you are trying to help her calm her temper and she should also be thankful to you for trying to help. Get her to count to 10 when you mention that 'code', I do hope this works and I guess she is very special toyou if you are trying to help. Many would just walk away and dismiss her Good luck!

sunshineyunlong hi hatley here count to ten, then forty then 100 hopefully by then she will have cooled off, put her in front of a mirror when she is in melt down mode, let her see how silly she looks.or do what myhusband did when my son was little and threw a tantrum, lying of the floor,kicking and screaming. my hubby threw himself down on the floor, and kiced his feet and screamed at the top of his lungs.my son never had another temper tantrum again. wow.

I know many people with such kind of behavior, making their lives as well of others a hell, they just stick to what they say and lose their temper for everything, I think you should just ignore her for somedays without talking to her, and when she questions you about your silence you can very well say you just do not like this behavior of hers. If she fights and loses her temper very often how can you be friendly ?

There are really people who are like that, we can never changed them. My suggestion is to understand her. You must widen your understanding. If she is on fire you must be the water. Do not go with her anger. If you want to confront her then go,but in an easy manner. Let her calm down before you confront or talk to her, i'm sure she would not be angry the whole day. Happy Mylotting !

When she gets angry, just leave her alone and don't talk to her. I found that when you talk to angry people, they just don't listen. They are too busy getting worked up, so it's a waste of time trying to pacify them. When she's in a better mood, tell her that you would let her work out her own anger, rather than take it out on you.

If i am in your position , i would be just friendly remind my friends that maybe he/she can manage things in a smoothly and acceptable ways .There are lots of difficult things in the world ,but i always believe surely there are a good solution way at the same time .So nothing is worth to argue even fight .Of course , your friends must to know nobody can live aline ,she / he has to communicate and cooperation with others .So if you want to get respects ,you have to give your respects to others in advance .

Bad temper comes from bad personal situations, which for some reasons, she is not able to reveal. The desire to change her is not exactly right under the circumstances. Can u accept her for what she is? There may be moments when u urself will be at receiving end. Can u still find her warm-hearted, generous, and good one? If so, then never try to correct her, and continue to hold on to this relationship. If u do feel it is not possible for u to accept her temper with u, please move away. Her quarrelsome nature also has other deep rooted problems, which unfortunately are compounded by people who cannot understand her. It wont help ur friendship if u try to help her. She needs to seek help from right people, and u dont even have right to guide her towards such help. Think it over, whether this friendship is truly indispensible to u. If it is, then ignore her flaws and continue. I know that is not being a true friend, but it is better to be a friend than becoming enemies in process.

em..try to gv her advise..mayb u can help to control her temper..when she was angry try to cool down her.