My baby is falling down from the bed!!!!:-(

Germany
August 8, 2009 4:07am CST
Hello my friends, My baby is about 5 months and 2 weeks old. This morning, my husband and i were so shocked and frightened because of our baby boy falling down from the bed. This was the first time, and i hope it would be the last time too!! We did not know how he could fall down from the bed. He slept with us together in the same bed, it is a king sized bed. He slept between us. Both of us slept deeply, until we heard a "Bomp"!!! Our first thought was Timmy, our little boy!!! He fall down from the bed! This was a scary thought for me, but it did happen! My husband quickly jumped out of the bed, and hold him up, at that time, Timmy was already crying out loud!!! It must be painful for him!!! He fall down from the end of the bed, that's why we still could not find out how he made this, i mean move to the end of the bed. I felt so bad and sad that he fall down. He is just a baby, i am afraid the knock on his head and body will damage his brain or his body. It was indeed a scary experience for me, i just told my husband that we should let him sleep on his own and in his own bed. Does anyone has experienced this?? What did you feel at that time and what did you do?
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@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I personally don't understand why people sleep with their babies in the bed with them? Isn't that what a cradle is for? My boyfriend and I both toss and turn. The one time we had to sleep with the baby between us was when my friend left her daughter with us and she decided to not pick up her daughter and we were visiting and in a hotel room. The hotel didn't have an extra crib so we put Eva between us but neither of us really slept because we didn't want to roll over on to her. Plus I would be so scared that the child would fall off the bed or crawl and fall off the bed. That could really hurt them when they are that young.
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• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
oh, my god! i believe your baby is fine now. i do not have such experience. It was an accident, so do not be too sad. i think maybe is better you let your baby sleep on the baby bed, instead of sleeping together with you and your hubby.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
It was an accident. But make sure this does not happen again. Some thing we can do to prevent accident no2 to happen. I also think of a baby cot is the safety way for baby. They will not easy get out from the bed themselves no matter how they roll and roll on the cot.
8 Aug 09
My baby is six months and he just done it a few weeks ago. We don't normarmally take him in the bed but he wasnt well and I woke up with the thump of him falling and I got such a fright. He cried for a few minutes but as soon as I distracted him he was fine. Your little one will probably not suffer anything long term from this but I think you know now why he should be sleeping in his own cot.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
8 Aug 09
I know how you must be feeling. My son is 1.5 years of age and he fell from the bed three times.First time when he fell from the bed,he was just 4 months old.We were sleeping and in the middle of the night we heard a bang and a cry.We were fast asleep and we knew that our son had fell down.He cried aloud but by the grace of almighty he was alright. Second time when he fell down he was 5 months old.I had arranged pillows on all corners and went to the kitchen to wash utensils and again he fell down by jumping off the pillow. Third time he fell when he was one year old .Again he fell down from the bed when he was playing. I have a homeopathic medicine which cures internal injuries with me whenever he falls down i give it to him.
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@webearn99 (1742)
• India
8 Aug 09
It is horrible isn't it! At 5 months babies experiment with movement. You will notice their kicking in the air, trying to lift their butts in to air and such. They also try to try to turn on to their sides and bellies all a part of their learning process in mobility. These cause them to slide to one side and fall from the bed. You can attempt to stop this by putting heavy pillows on both sides of the child. I say attempt because my son usually managed to push the pillow and take the dive right after it! Alternately line the floor either side of the bed with cushions to soften the fall.
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@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Aug 09
You are right that at five months the baby is beginning to experiment with movement (which is why he should be in his own bed). I don't know but I feel that restricting that movement by packing pillows around him is not right. Put him in his own bed where he has room to move around and still has the protection of the crib walls.
• Germany
9 Aug 09
Exactly, my baby is currently in this stage. He is a very active boy. We always place the pillows around him when he sleeps in our bed during the day time. Just in case he wakes up and then we are not around him. But this time is we sleep together and i don't know how he made it. He moved himseld to the end of the bed, it's the only way to fall down from the bed as he was between us. We did not hear any sounds at all. From this lesson, we have to be more careful about this and place the bolster in the end of the bed when we sleep together. As i said, my baby is very active. So letting him to play by himself in his own cot is not really good choice for him and us. He needs much more space to move around (and ours are king-size bed). Everytime, we place him to his playpen, we have to go to him very often. He cries every time when he reaches the barriers. Another reason is he likes to kicks his legs and make him move when he is lying on his back. And when he reach the barrier, the head always knock the barrier and he cries like hell...We are worried this will hurt his head too.
• China
8 Aug 09
I am so sad to hear that.It reaind me that my brother hurt his head years ago as the same experience.It's obvious ,there's a deep wound in my brother's forehead,~~~~~en,it's forever ...hurt. Little baby always climb here and there no matter where,and i am afaid that you must buy a baby bed that it has barriers arround the bed.That's safe ,when you sleep or far from the baby you also feel relieved. Happy mylot!!!
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• United States
9 Aug 09
I think everyone has had a baby fall out of the bed, at least one time in thier life. You baby is growing, and starting to move around some, so naturally, baby is going to get some bumps and bruises from time to time. Now is the time that you will have to be more watchful of baby, and perhaps even get a babybed or a playpen to put baby in, while asleep.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Aug 09
oh my goodness no never have a baby that young sleep in your bed with you. babies have been known to suffocate that way.it is just not fair ,he should be in his own crib so he learns to sleep in his own bed.I know many cultures think its okaybut from a medical and safety point is not okay. a small baBY does best in his or her own crib.you mayhave a baby monitor attached to the cribif y ou wish but its notnecessary. babies are too fragile to be put in a large bed between two adults,it is just not safe.cuddle, hold your baby but he should sleep in his own little crib.I never have done this as I come from the medical profession and I know the dangers in volved.baby needs hir or her own crib.
@jwiz512 (78)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Dear I don't mean to hurt your feelings but sleeping with the baby in the same bed as you and your spouse is a NO NO ! I don't think there is a single mom in this world who hasn't attempted or wanted to sleep with the baby in the bed but as a mother of 5 I can tell you it is wrong. The baby should have it's own space which is the crib. There are so many reasons for this and because we love them so much we want to be so close to them. We also have a ton of fears thinking if they are in bed with us nothing can happen to them because we will be next to them to save them but that is not the case. We do more harm and take more serious risks by having the baby in bed with us than we realize. I'm not just talking for a year or two I am talking about a lifetime of problems it can cause. Another thing by sleeping with your baby between you both makes it difficult to intamite relationship with your spouse. This time is for you and him when you go to bed. Even though the baby may not know what you are doing at this time as the years go by you will find there is no time alone for you and your spouse to have a normal love relationship when you go to bed. The baby will always want to be in the bed between the two of you and you will never have the time alone that husband's and wives need to be close. You hold the baby and love the baby all day long but bedtime is for the husband and wife. It's a really bad habit to start and honestly speaking if you talk to the babies Doctor or your own Doctor they will tell you the same thing. You also need this space to regain your strength from taking care of your child all day. You may not realize it but your not getting the quality sleep that you should be getting while the baby is in bed with you. I also had one son who would sleep between my husband and I as he got into his 2's and we no longer had a love life at night. On top of that, he became too close to us and he is now 23 yrs old and can't stand when Mom is not around. We all love our children and want to be close to them but sometimes this closeness can cause long term problems that we can't correct. My son now has panic attacks and other things because when I am not around he is afraid something is going to happen to me and he would never see me again. God bless you all and please put the baby in the crib and get a good nights rest. The baby will cry at first but within just a few days the baby will be fine and most likely happier because it has room to move around the crib without having two people blocking it in. You won't be worried about the baby falling out anymore. I know you don't want to spend many years with your child in the same bed and not allow you and your spouse to have this time for each other.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
11 Aug 09
My husband works as a police officer part time and he just recently worked a call where a mother had rolled over on her infant child. The child did not survive. I don't think I could ever live with myself if this were to happen to me. But yes the safety of the child is really important.
@patgalca (18366)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Aug 09
I totally agree with this. You are not getting a good night's sleep because you are aware that your baby is there. God forbid one of you should roll over on top of him. As my children got older I would not allow them to come into bed with me and my husband unless it was morning... time to get up. So we could have a little snuggle time. Or in the case of the child having the stomach flu (need to be close by for that). Children need to have their own beds and parents can not be good parents if they don't have a good relationship with each other, and that includes intimacy.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I think everyone has this problem at some point. For starters, though, if you sleep that deep you really need to put the child in his own bed. Mine actually rolled off of a counter where I was changing her. I dropped the diaper and bent down in front of her. As I was going up, she was coming down.
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@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
10 Aug 09
Well, I have 2 kids, and both had fell down before too. I was very worried when my kids fell down, especially on their first fall. I do remember that the first fall for my elder one was around 6 months plus when he fell down. Like all parents, I'm also very worried about him, and was worried that there will be damages to his brain, etc... I end up watching him for the whole day, and luckily nothing bad happened. It's really scary when they fall down, especially the crying after the falling down really makes me feel uneasy... Well, till now, I will still be worried, especially when my younger daughter wants to sleep with me on the bed. I will end up waking up often to look at her and also make sure that she does not fall down from the bed when sleeping. She has the habit of rolling around in bed when she sleeps, and there are no railings on my bed. Thus, I end up not being able to sleep well and feel very tired on the next day...
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I haven't experienced such because I don't have any baby yet. Though I remember my mother telling me that I used to fall down from the bed,she felt the same way as you did,scared and cried with me. She said that she can't stand seeing me crying and in pain. She also said that I was such a crawly baby even when I'm sleeping. So what they did was bought a crib so I won't fall from the bed anymore. I think all babies experience this for babies are so flexible,they will learn to rise as they fall. ALthough I know how parents feel when they see their baby on the floor and just fell out from the bed,it's excruciating to see your baby cryin in pain.We can't really avoid such incident to happen,all we can do is to prevent it from happening again like what my parents did to me.
• Germany
8 Aug 09
Hi azaerus. It was a scary experience for me and i really hope it will not happen again. We were anxious and worried when the baby was crying out loud. We were afraid it would be internal injuries inside his body. But for god's sake, until now, he is ok and no strange symtomps yet. Yeah, i think you are right. Babies are flexible, otherwise they will never learn to crawl or stand and walk. I think this happens during the process of their growth. But of course, in parents' eyes, we do not want anything to hurt the baby. Yeah, i will try my best to prevent this happen even though it cannot be avoided. Have a nice day!
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I'm relieved to know that nothing serious happened to your baby. The way I see in your picture your baby looks very much healthy and your baby looks really really cute. Now I'm beginning to wonder how my baby would look like in the future. I hope my baby will be as cute as yours. You are very lucky with your child and same with your baby,very lucky to have a very caring and loving parents. Have a nice day too!!:)
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• Germany
9 Aug 09
Hi, azaerus. Thanks for your nice words. I remember the period of pregnancy, i always imagine how my baby will look like. Isn't it nice to daydream about this? I am happy that i have such cute and lovely baby. I am sure you will have adorable baby too in the future.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 09
Hello lulumartin, sorry to hear about that. Hope your baby is doing fine there. My 2 kids too experience this before. And this was accident but of course can be avoid. I admit that I sometimes is a little careless. But 1 thing you need to monitor on the babies after they fall from the bed. Check and see if they have any vomit after the accident. If so, it is advise to see doctor. And a little helpful tips for you. If they fall and hit the head. Don't panic, get some ice cubes and let a cloth wrapped the ice and rub on the effected area. Then apply a cream. Stay happy mummy.
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• Germany
10 Aug 09
Thanks again for the tips. I had this idea too after the accident. Luckily we have a single size mattress so that we can minimize the hurt caused by the accident again. Of course i hope this won't happen again.
• Germany
10 Aug 09
Hi, vingyan. Thanks for the tips, i really appreciate these. As it's the first time facing this accident, i did not really know what to do. But lukily, my son did not show any symtomps that you said. Have a nice day!
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 09
Lucky your baby is fine! So you have to be more careful. I have another tips for you, which I forgot to mentioned the other day. If possible place a small mattress near your bed. If it happens that your baby falling down, he will only fall on that mattress, will not hit the floor. This is what I normally do.
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@warren06 (70)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
yup.. my aunties experience that her baby fall down but miraculously theres nothing happened to the baby..thanks God.. they told that the baby save by her angels..
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I have three kids and at one time or another they have all taken a fall. My oldest was little when there were no seatbelts in shopping carts. While standing at the register waiting for the cashier to take my money he fell from the cart as he was trying to climb out. I was really embarrassed and really afraid that he may have hurt himself really bad. But he ended up being alright and of course that wasn't his last fall ever. Kids really are more resilient than we would think. They deal with falls rather well.
• India
8 Aug 09
Small Children Are Tough to Handle .. - Only 1 Year Old ..
It is Indeed Annoying to See Your Little One Hurt .. Our First Child Had Fallen Down From The Bed Twice when He was Small, We Did Worry About It .. We Thought We Will Take Care of the second One Very Well .. But The Second One Also Fell A Couple Of times (just 1.5 years Old).. You Just Cannot help It .. Pray that everything Will Be Alright ..
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@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I thik all baby's experience this. lols! i have an adopted baby and my own son, they both fell from the bed. I just tuck my baby in bed, i turned around to get his feeding bottle and then i heard a big thub! mom said this happens when the baby starts to crawl. my adpted baby also fell when i went to the cr and she woke up and maybe she didnt see anyone she started to crawl. last week, my son, now 5 years old, was still watching tv in the living room, so i went to bed early, i didnt notice that he slept beside me, i just woke up in the middle of the night hearing him crying because he fell from the bed. It was funny because now that he's bigger, we always leave him in bed alone and its been years that it didnt happen,he moves around the bed though so its most likely to happen. In the morning i went teasing him and he said, because you stayed on my side of the bed. he still sleeps with me until now though.
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• United States
13 Aug 09
My kids never slept in the same bed with me becuase I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep. So, they slept in cribs at that age where they couldn't fall out. However, when my oldest was a baby, I set her on the bed and she somehow fell off while I had my back turned. I felt so awful. I never put her on the bed again unless I was sitting there holding her. We have bed rails you can put up to help prevent it, but they are usually used with older children who can't get stuck between the rail and the bed. Not sure it would be safe for a baby.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
8 Aug 09
I had experienced things such as you. I wept and was very anxious to know my baby fell from bed. I feel very sorry for not protecting my child.
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8 Aug 09
Im sure it was just an accident, a horrible one for a mum i know, my daughter is 7 months old and she fell off the bed last week for the first time and boy did she scream. As others have said they will all experience knocks and bumps as they grow up s its nothing to worry about, of course unless he is seriously hurt but they are usually ok.
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