what precautions do you take if you meet some one irl from online?

well in my opinion i think its risky meeting up someone that u met online but i admit i have done it myself and it actually went well and i m sure he will like u for who u r if u r a nice person & if he doesnt its his mistake and i know i get shy and nervous when i m with a guy i like but i m sure u will b fine.. well thats my opinion!!

i, like you, used to be horribly skiddish over meeting people face to face that id met online. until i did it a few times.. now its really no different to me than hooking up to get together with someone i met face to face and traded numbers with. most of the time i get a sense of folks just simply talking to them.. like i am here with you. an usually tell by the language used, a persons mannerisms, if theyre "genuine" or not etc etc. ive been wrong a few times, but not very often, and usually after a one visit i just dont invite the person back if they arent the type id wanna know. but most of the time.. ive met the most wonderful people ever, my best friend is one of them. weve been running together for well over a decade, she moved up from texas right down the street from me (now is living in missouri /cry, so we dont see each other often anymore) and we met in an aol chat room. my advice? trust yer gut.. if you feel something is "off" with a person, dont go setting up a face to face meeting. you can run into serial killers at the church picnic just as easy as ya can online.. only difference is, the online folks cant just randomly follow yer butt home without you knowing

I have met so many people from the internet and I am pretty lucky that I have met more of nice persons than the bad ones. There was one girl that I met two years ago. She seemed to be nice at first and then later on, she started to blackmail my friend so that she can get some money from him. I didn't believe her at her stories since I know my friend so well the girl was not consistent to her stories so basically she is only making it up. I decided not to see her again and I change my mobile number. Its good that she doesn't know yet where I live. I heard from one friend of mine who introduced me to her, that girl always get into trouble so I understand how she gets into trouble. I told my other friend about it and we stopped talking to her anymore after that.

I have met a few people that I have gotten to know online....and always took someone with me...just in case....the only time I was nervous was when my son's wife found some bathroom fixtures on craigs list and my son and I drove to the cities to pick them up....we did however have a plan if it appeared to be something not normal.

You are about the only person i meet irl and i showed up by myself...whats that say bout me??? But we did meet in a crowded mall so. And we talked for months online before actually meeting. I would rather talk to a person online or on the phone for awhile before meeting them..and i do think having someone go with you is a good idea.

Yes, i agree that meeting in person, friends we have met online is cool. But i also agree, that we should be very careful.Seeing them on cam every time you chat is one thing, at least you'll know how they look like. Then, talking on the phone is good too, because there something different with just chatting online and seeing them and hearing their voice. Like you said, getting a feel of them is another help and then maybe searching on them on the net can also help. But having someone go with you surely will be a lot of help. If ever they have other plans than just meeting with you, if you have company, it would make them think twice.

I met my husband on line too, and i am making plans to meet three of my best friends in the USA one of these days, unless they end up coming to Canada first. I actually flew to the USA to meet my future hubby sight unseen when his daughter was in a near-fatal car accident. I didn't tell my mother I was going, because I knew she'd freak. I told a friend of mine here that I was going, and I told my grandfather. I had my return ticket, travel insurance, and another friend of mine had all my contact information etc. and I wasn't going to go anywhere witthout my cellphone incase I needed a way out fast!! I looked up all the emergency numbers in the area I was staying so that if anything "strange" started to happen, I could get out. As it turns out, I didn't need any of that "insurance", but it was great to have it.

Meet in a public place first time and talk on the phone first if you can. Take a friend to chaperone you, especially if the person you are meeting is the opposite gender. If you feel unsafe, make an excuse and leave. I have met people from here, all of them lovely. But if you can, why not meet as a group? In practice, these meetings tend to go well. But better safe than sorry.

I have met a few people irl after meeting them online... okay more than a few. I met my husband this way too. I suppose one thing I do is just not meet someone right away. After you have known someone awhile, months, years, it simply makes sense to meet if you live close enough, or if a meeting is set up. I guess the precautions would depend on the level of trust you have developed with the person. I met a few people actually at their homes, but in one event it was a whole group of us meeting at one time, so it went well. Meeting in a public place is always a better idea, and if you can't do that, it's good to have someone or a few extra someones along with to discourage anybody taking advantage or being 'not as expected' when you meet. I met one guy one time and I brought along my husband. It was a good thing I did because after the meeting (where the guy was very decent and respectful), he suddenly got weird and was talking about wanting to run away with me. It was totally bizarre. It wasn't even like that, we discovered he and his wife and son lived within 50 miles of us and he had a cd or game or book or something he said he could bring. I had NO idea he was going to go nuts after the meeting lol.

I've met quite a few online friends, and sadly I never took any precautions first. I'd just gotten to know them so well online that I felt they were safe, even without talking to them. One time I drove up to Canada alone with plans to stay the entire weekend with a friend I'd only known through the internet. She and I have been best friends ever since and we each take the trip once or twice a year to visit each other, but still I wonder how crazy was I to plan to stay with her at her house alone for a weekend?

Most of the people wear a mask on the net, so it becomes very difficult to find a true friend. So why take a risk and invite problems. Let them be where they are.

as everyone knows in 12 days i am meeting someone in person that i met here on mylot. we've used webcams, talk on the phone everyday and have spent the past couple months really getting to know each other. while i'm pretty sure he isn't going to kill me and stash my body in a freezer somewhere, i will call my mom everyday that i'm gone so i can let her know that i'm still alive.

My husband and I also met through the internet. So if it wasn't for overcoming the fear of meeting someone from over the internet I probably wouldn't have been where I am in my life now. The first time that we met IRL, I had a friend with me, he was much braver and was by himself, but we hit it off immediately. I've also met three other people IRL that I had previously only known from the internet. In all of the cases I was never alone, I always made sure that I had someone with me. In all of the cases I made sure what the other person looked like before I went to meet them. I agree that it could be a very potentially dangerous situation, but luckily for me it has never turned out to be that way so far.

I am also confused. Somebody today wants to be my friend and want to give a try to our relation. But I am scared. Can you help me out. I will be thankful to you

I've met a few people from online. Each time its been someone I've talked to for longer than a year, used the cam with quite a bit (that way i know its the same person and how to find em)and the phone! I also make sure to either take a friend with me or let someone know where i will be and when i intend to be home. I make sure to call when i get home to let them know i'm safe. I take my cell phone with me and leave it on so the person can call to check on me. The few times I've met someone from online have turned out really well - i had a blast and nothing bad happened.