Drop-In Company

I love drop in company! dont matter if house is staright or not they have to over look it for I have other things to do and they understand this. was always our way but now it seems lik eya have to make an appontment to visit thats not fun I like to see the surprize on faces!

Hello cyrus, I don't like it when people drop in unannounced and don't encourage it. Also I would not drop in on someone without calling first. It's just polite. I usually stop it by asking why they didn't call first and to do it next time. We don't make a habit of it here though, generally an arrangement is made to meet up some place outside the house like the cafenion. House visits tend to be more by invitation for a family type meal but the rest of the time it's meeting outside.

i don't mind people dropping in without calling i am not a perfert house keeping and any one wants to come is welcome and if they come to look my house over they can stay away

i strenuously discourage drop ins or visitors, there is always that awkward moment when you want them to leave and there is no polite way to say go away now without hurting feelings. i prefer to visit because then i can leave when i am bored and i do not have to play host which can be exhausting. i am not a social person, i am more of a solitary creature. i prefer the company of books and to visit inside my own head regularly.

I really prefer that people call ahead of time and let me know that they're coming. Like you, I'm usually out and about and I spend lots of my time on the go or at work or whatever, so me not being home would be a chance they'd be taking. Also, it's my house and we're not always "decent" to have company over at any given time. I like to relax and while my relaxation clothes would be ok for some family to see, it's not ok for everyone. Plus, I like the heads up. We tend to stay up late and sleep in late (we usually don't go to bed until around 2 -4 in the morning and get up about 10 or 11) and my family likes to get up around 8 usually, so if they stop by there's no way I'm going to be up and able to greet them. Plus, it'll just start a fight because they didn't let me know ahead of time. Not to mention that it's just common courtesy to call ahead of time and let someone know to make sure that it's actually ok to stop. We've had family that no matter how many times we tell them to call ahead they refuse to and it's very frustrating.

Kinda depends on who it is. Mostly I live kinda laid back and my house is usually "lived in" and not in shape for some people --- I I figure if they don't call, they really must want to see ME and not my house. I love company but there are some friends I'd rather give me some advanced warning so I could sweep the dirt under the carpet LOL

I prefer that people call before they come. I have a 3 year old that still takes naps and he's ill if he gets woken up from his nap. I also like to make sure my house is picked up and cleaned up before people come over. One time my husband's grandmother stopped by before she went to her appt and I was not even ready yet. It was early in the morning and I was still in my pajamas and had not had a shower or anything. So if company calls before they come at least I know to be ready if it's early in the morning.

I think dropping in unannounced is very rude (excluding of course an emergency). My family and friends know not to do it and if someone did do it then I would open the door, tell them to call me first and send them away. If my actions sound rude that's ok because they were rude and inconsiderate to me by coming over uninvited.

It doesn't really matter to me. I try to keep my house straight so i want be embarassed if someone drops in. right now my kitchen is a mess w/fruit jars & dishpans etc. i have been making peat preserves . they would just have to look over all that if they came. U can't can & have a neat kitchen, lol.

People should definitely call first. I might not be home or I might not feel up to having company. I wouldn't want them to just show up, that is rather rude.

Oh I prefer that people call first. My relatives and friends all know this. Now, if my sis is coming over she will normally give me the heads up and its no problems but if she is bringing someone with her like her bf or a friend she will give me plenty of notice. I don't mind if she comes over and the house is a mess but I don't want other folks to see it that way. It just depends on how close to the person I am. If I trust the person and know that they are not going to walk away from the house thinking bad thoughts (if it is a mess) then I am fine with them being over here. A few years ago my then best friend was also my neighbor. She started dating this guy on the internet and they were going out on their first date, well she dropped by with him out of the blue. I was in some shorts and a raggy tshirt with my hair up in a pony tail canning strawberry jam. I looked horrible. She did at least knock on the door (most of the time she just come on in the house) but I didn't invite them in! I was rather upset that she would surprise me like that. I stepped out on the deck and went through the whole introduction process and then told them I had to get back to my jam. Needless to say I told her not to do that anymore. LOL!

people should definitely call first. i work 2 part time jobs and study full time, im hardly at home, and home is just a place to sleep for me.. so my house is like a war zone.. i prefer to tidy them up first before anyone visiting...

nowadays we do not have too many friends .we live our own lives. when i am lonely ,i want someone to come to me and talk with me ,but it is hard, maybe in this world happiness is meant to be little.

I think people should call at the very least. Dropping in is a very country thing to do, I think, and I'm not a huge fan of it. Don't get me wrong, I'm a rural boy to my roots, but a little courtesy is a good thing!

Immediate family could just drop in at one time... I had no problem with that and friends could stop by and be welcomed with no problem... It is always best to call and announce your intentions but there are times and relationships where no call is required it is known as an open door policy... I have nothing to hide...

Yes Kathy I agree. Now that hubby and I have split the sheets my place is usually pretty much spotless, as he was a hard man to keep house for. I do however appreciate a call first because I tend to be a bit of a slob when it comes to lounging in my P.J's all day. I live in my P.J's and I need to get out of that habit and dress properly. Call first please.

It really depends on who it is. If it's one of my best friends, I don't really care because they've seen my apartment kinda messy before...but if it's an aquaintance or someone like that, I would definitely prefer them to call me before they come over. I'm lucky that my boyfriend is a really clean person so the apartment never gets that bad.

Hi Kathy, I really don't have a problem with my friends dropping by. They're my friends and if I am busy with something, then we are close enough that I can tell them and they'll respect that. They also know that I am in and out...not always home so if they stop by unannounced, I may not be here. What I really, really don't like at all is if they call or run into me and say they are coming over and don't. I have one friend who does that consistently. I used to end up stay here waiting for here....no more. I tell her not to even tell me when she is coming over....just show up.

Oh I hate it so much when somebody just drops in without letting me know first. I consider that very rude and inconsiderate as there is no way I would show up at anybody's house (whether my relatives or friends) without me calling first or they giving me an invite. Most times if you show up at my place uninvited chances are I won't be that receptive towards you and I would totally hate you for that moment as I wasn't prepared to have you come over. This is why I always make sure my place is all cleaned up as there has been an increase in the number of people just showing up without letting me know first. They should be a law that bans that really..