How do you find JEALOUSY, sweet or annoying?

@jazzbabe (166)
Philippines
August 9, 2009 12:59am CST
During the first few months of my relationship, I find a little jealousy from my hubby sweet. Later on, when he still gets jealous over my old and new guy friends, I seem to get annoyed. I find it a gesture of lack of trust. How about you friends? Do you find jealousy from your partners sweet or annoying?
6 responses
sagnik42
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
9 Aug 09
I really get annoyed. Like you say it, it is really 'a gesture of lack of trust'. More over it sometimes gets very irritating and a hard thing to deal with.
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
I can so relate with you, sagnik42. So what do you do when he shows his jealousy and you get irritated??
sagnik42
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
9 Aug 09
Well,first of all I am a male and secondly I am not married and do not have girlfriend right now. Now it is really hard to deal with jealousy.On one hand it shows you that your partner loves you and on the other hand it irritates you.I used to ignore her sometimes.There were no other alternatives.But it entirely depended on the situation on how to react.
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
Oops. My bad. I'm sorry. My question should've been, 'So what do you do when SHE shows her jealousy...' Yeah right, it would depend on the situation. Like if she's/he's been jealous over and over again with the same thing, even if you've already explained to her/him a thousand times and still gets jealous again and again, then that's probably a sign of 'lack of trust'.
shhheila
@shhheila (1845)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
in general, I would say unhealthy.Jealousy left to fester can cause a rift in the relationship.However,some couples enjoy a bit of jealousy,some like to see their other half flirting with other people and vice-versa-they think it is a fun game.Notice I say some.
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
Are you saying that there are some couples who would want their partners to purposefully flirt with other people?? How horrible is that..
eM
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
jealousy is said to be annoying if it's already too much in a sense that you can already feel that the person you love no longer or does not trust you... it's sweet in a sense that they're doing it for the sake that they want to make you feel that they loved you... :)
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
That was very nicely and sweetly put eLsMarie..:)
suprad1
@suprad1 (251)
• India
17 Aug 09
I find it hard to handle. It is really irritating and you get into a fix trying to convincing your partner. It is all the more frustrating when your relationship with your partner/spouse is a few years old.
yogambal_64
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
9 Aug 09
It depends on which cause he is jealous about me, yes my hubby too sometimes jealous about my social contacts and comments about it. It is really very annoying to hear and see him behave. I just ignore him sometimes.
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
I do ignore him sometimes too. But sometimes when there are issues not resolve, the tendency is the next time another issue arises, the previous issue is always raised up again!
advokatku
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
9 Aug 09
jazz, jealous in a relation male and female, for me, is a sign which proof that pair has loving. Jealousy can mean sweet or annoying, depend you feel and appreciate that your relation with your partners
jazzbabe
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
Yes, jealousy could mean love. But when it's too much already, it really gets annoying.