Is it easy to fall in love when you are friends?
By sweetsatabdi
@sweetsatabdi (80)
India
August 9, 2009 4:29am CST
friendship and love are quite related according to me..one completes the other..but can you find love in your best friend or you think its better to fall in love and then make friends with that someone?i am sure there have been lots of instances when someone has fallen in love with a complete starnger and then got to know him/her and then frienship have bloomed with love but for some people maybe it has been their closest best friend with whom they have been forever before realising they are in love..so which one is it for you?which one works better according to you?
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46 responses
@NikkiLuvsAlex (319)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I don't really know what to say. I fell in love with my best friend as a teenager, I look at something like that as puppy love. My current boyfriend and I are best friends and I do love him very much, and we were friends for a little while before he became my boyfriend.
@rmorefield (941)
• United States
9 Aug 09
I agree with you. I think you have to be friends with someone before you can love them. I don't mean the "stomach in the throat" feeling. That is infatuation. I'm talking about true love. I think that yes, you can find love in your best friend. My husband was my best friend before he was anything to me. The love came when I wasn't looking for it. One day I woke up and it just hit me. Now we have been together for 7 years and have 2 children together. He is still my best friend, but he is also the love of my life.
@sweetsatabdi (80)
• India
9 Aug 09
thats so amazing to hear..hope you all the best in life..keep rocking
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@shankari_prabhu (321)
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi Rmorefield..........I have had a similar experience as you have. Its basic logic that if your husband cannot be a friend to you then he most definitely cannot be your husband. I think love is the next step to friendship and the marital bond remains strond due to the strength of friendship between the husband and wife.....
I cant really understand, how without understanding a person, one can proclaim love for that person...:-)
My guy will always remain my best friend, as he understands me best and that makes things much more beautiful between us!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
Like i always say "it depends on friends" some times it works, then doesn't work. but most often the other side won't approve or not even ready to commit. other's take years before they could put their relationship to the next level. I don't know what really works, it completely depends on the relationship.
@firyagni (42)
• India
9 Aug 09
well it is not only easy but it is the main criteria to fall in love.friendship leads the way to love and it is necessary.unless people become friends they cant know each other,talk to each other properly nor can they know each others like and dislikes.so its very very important to first become friends and then start a deeper relationship
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Hello sweetsatabdi,
I think for me, it is easier for me to fall for a stranger rather than my close friend. I feel it is just hard when you have some kind of special feelings towards your best or close friend. I am afraid that if anything goes wrong, it will affect the friendship too...
@renitaperrone (547)
• United States
15 Aug 09
My husband and I were best friends for 2 years before we were "dating." We spent alot of free time together, found out we enjoy mostly the same things and were very compatible. By the time he realized (I figured it out first)that we were meant to be, we were engaged and married within 4 months. We've now been married over 9 years and are very happy. When passion fades, as it always does, it's friendship and commitment that sustain a relationship. Without that, you have nothing but lust.
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I think it's better to first be friends with the other person. So many people confuse love with infatuation and they fall in love too easily when they're not really in love. I don't know that anyone has friendship at first sight. Friendships take time to grow and develop and both parties getting to know each other and sometimes that can lead to a lasting love.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
yes, it is easier to fall in love with friends since the mere fact of knowing each other lets you know already what the other person is like. also the fact that people are friends mean there is an amiable relationship already. what could be a better foundation for love than that?
@haiershen (1080)
• China
11 Aug 09
my opinion is yes or not, it depend on the feeling,not all of the best friends will be become a lover,when they know each other very clearly,they will know two fellings, one is they are friends at all, don't suit to stay together, when they stay together,the method of their lifes will be different as before.the other one is that when they fall in love with each other, the result is better as well. so no matter,they are friends or lover, both them know each other and considered with eath other. good luck and have a nice day!
@Wentyishere (31)
• China
16 Aug 09
for me,understanding is much more important than appearance.i love a guy in the premise that he has good qualities and share same interests and enjoyments with me.
@disneyboy (98)
• Myanmar
11 Aug 09
i think friendship gives attachment much in my opinion. i fell in love with someone who was my girl friend. she didn't know that i were loving her. when the times passed, we love to each other for the attachment. then i open and told her that i love you. :) thennnnnnn we were lovers :D
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Hello friend,
I think it is working if you got friends first before fall in love. Because if you fall in-love with your friend, that much better. Because you know already his/her habit or customs or others acts that she/he did that relate you in your personalities.
The disadvantage of to fall in-love with someone else that you didn't already know who she/he are, is that something you can't understand in the future. There are many questions if that person you choose is really that persons you love the most?
have a great day!
@bbpstudios (320)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Love just seems to take people by absolute surprise. I say, what is meant to be, will be.
@olepmis (840)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
It is better to be friends first before you fall in love. Being friends first you will know each other's likes and dislikes, your compatibility ratio. Once you both fall in love you will know that he/she is the right one for you. GOD BLESS!
@munizm07 (4)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I believe that it whatever god wills it to be, its the way he wants you to meet that special someone. In my situation I asked my girlfriend out on a date when we had just met through her cousin. And I enjoyed her company so we dated for about a year and that's when I realized I was in love, we were in love. And now we have been together for three years and they have been the best years of my life. So I just believe that it depends on the person and how they are destined to meet. Oh and by the way not only is she the love of my life she is also my best friend, so out of our relationship a great friendship grew as well. So it is correct that love cannot exist without friendship and the other way around.
@APPLEBOOTY1981 (10)
• United States
10 Aug 09
heres what i have to say on this subject
i have a best friend who is a male
weve been best friends since we were 2 years old
i would always fight his gurls or just didnt like him
and the same for me he would do
well we have been togeather for 20 years now im 28
and we are gettin married on christmas day
so i think its very easy to fall in love with your friend
@MinkeyBuddy (42)
• United States
10 Aug 09
To me, it seems better to fall in love with a stranger and then make them your best friend. I've been in an instance where I was best friends with someone, and then I realized how awkward it would be if we were dating. On the same note, in most of my relationship experiences, it has been that I was friends with someone and liked the person and none of those have worked out.