Why daughter in law dislikes mother in law
By bhanusb
@bhanusb (5709)
India
August 9, 2009 10:59am CST
From the very beginning of family life the conflict between daughter in law and mother in law is continuing.But is there any real cause of conflict between mother and son's wife? Recently a researcher said,to dislike husband's mother is a programmed tendency of daughter in law.The teacher and psychiatric of New ham college of Cambridge said in his book'Down Under' that the only cause of conflict between mother in law and daughter in law is both want family's main authority would be in her hand.But the son also some extent liable for the conflict between his wife and mother.He remains aloof and don't try to solve such unwanted happening.
4 responses
@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Aug 09
I am not sure this is a problem in the west. :-) I wish somebody from the other side of the world would answer this. I think it is because daughter in law rather her parents pay a hefty dowry in a country like India. Once this happens, the girl naturally treats her husband like a possession. Should not be surprising. When her rights are disturbed, she fights like the way we would fight with anybody who trespasses our real estate properties. :-) Now, it is time that the boys realised the truth and tried bidding goodbye to a custom unworthy of them. :-)
@liuchen63 (270)
• China
9 Aug 09
I think it's because of the son(and husband).Both of the daughter in law and the mother in law want their man(the son/husband).
The mother warries that her son will get closer to his wife than her and sight of her--his own mother.
And the wife may worry about the life between she and her husband would be disturbed by the mother in law.
Each family has its problems.
We can solve these with love,patience,and understanding.
@liuchen63 (270)
• China
9 Aug 09
warries-worries...
...lose sight of...
Haha,two mistakes in writing...
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
12 Aug 09
This could be true of 90% of the women. This is because the mother has complete devotion and attention of the son till the daughter in law walks in. Then she sees his affection being divided, lessened. This could be hurtful, but mil should learn to let go at some point. The son will obviously lean towards his wife, and the mother shoudl rejoice in this. My mother in law is a wonderful person and I have never differentiated between my own mother and her, so that is where the relationship is made. There is so much love and respect between us. She is a very understanding person and I have always loved her. Yes, the son becomes a scrapegoat at some point, because he is torn between the love of his mother and wife. Mils should let go, and life will be pleasent.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
18 Aug 09
After the marriage of son mother should give all her responsibility to her daughter in law.She should treat her as her own daughter as it happened in your life.Then there would be no problem.Once mother in law was daughter in law and daughter in law will be mother in law this reality should realize both of them.
