How many parents here who homeschool their children?
By jlamela
@jlamela (4897)
Philippines
August 9, 2009 9:20pm CST
Do you home school your children and if you are still single, are you planning to home school them when you got married and have kids?
I planned to do this set-up in educating my future children, but only at preschool level. I dreaded the system for preschoolers in our place, it seems the school did not cater the true need of this age level. Most of these pupils have a horrible behavior when they got home. Home schooling through a finishing school approach focused on good manners and right conduct and values formation rather than rigorous academics.
I read a book about the late Princess Diana that one reason she and Prince Charles decided that to send Prince William and Prince Harry to Mrs. Mynors, a nursery school just across Kensington Palace, is the focus of values and behavior formations and not rigorous academics set-up.
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@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
10 Aug 09
It seems like yesterday that I faced all the things that you are now thinking of. That was about 22 years ago. I could give you a detailed discussion on this but suffice it to say that I home schooled for the first ten years of our daughter's life. There were many reasons for this decision and it was re-evaluated every year. Here are some of the reasons I home schooled.
1. To give my child a better academic start in life.
2. To socialize my child in a broader more balanced way than the schools provided.
3. To be able to encourage my child in their given talents.
4. To have a consistency to my child's education since work caused us to move to various states.
5. To be able to have the time to teach a subject thoroughly enough for a child to grasp it.
These were some of the reasons. There were many questions and stresses along the way. There were also many blessings and good results. It is not for everyone, but it definitely worked well for us.
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@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
hello!well nice, I admire you for that. Me too dreaming to homeschool my children if ever I got married, even during preschool years only, I want to mold their values which is not really emphasized in a proper preschool. I want to use the "finishing school approach".
I want to learn many things from you. Thanks for sharing. You are great!
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Thanks for sharing valuable information about home schooling. I am open to the idea of home schooling. What kind of textbooks are you using for your kids?did you seek permission from the department of education before having a home schooling set-up of education for your kids?thanks a lot.
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
10 Aug 09
It started out as an experiment doing this in preschool and kindergarten for us. This worked so well for us that we continued through the eighth grade for many reasons. We prayed about what we should do every year. You are more than welcome to ask questions, etc. I have a basement full of information and learning ideas. I was involved with the local homeschooling groups in three different states and did the newsletter in one state. There is so much to do for a small amount of money and such a good support system in most places in the United States. It is important to know the laws of your state and adhere to them. The group can help a lot and there are also schools that will back you up and give you advice on what programs may be right for you. The groups are also good for sale of used home school items if your state does not provide books. Some states do provide free books for home schooling. God bless you in all of this.
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@mces0925 (195)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
Teaching good manners and right conduct should come first in the house. Remember that kids are greatest imitator, they don't know what is right and wrong. As parent we should act as a role model to the kids, every members, adult should act properly and kids would follow what they see and observe. I'm working online and stay at home mother, so I have time to train and discipline my child. My child is turning 2 this october but he already familiar with numbers, alphabets, shapes. 5 years old is the best time to send a cild in school to develop their social skills. I don't think homeschool is applicable in my country. Happy myloting!
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Thanks!that's why I am working hard with my online works right now to establish myself with online earning process so that when I get married I can be a full time homemaker, I don't want somebody to take care of my children or do the household chores, though housemaids are good but I dreaded the idea of putting my future children at the care of other people. I don't know if home schooling is acceptable in my country too, but I want to give it a try even in preschool years only.
@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I don't and WON'T! I have too many kids in too many grades to do that all on my own, not to mention that when I don't get that 'break' from them, I go crazy!!!
Ha, you probably think I'm horrible, but my kids have 2 days till school starts and I'm going to throw a party! I can't wait!
I like the way you think though and if I had the time, energy and patience... That would be great, but I don't. And sending them to school is the right choice for me. I look forward to reading some more of the responses you get though :-)
Have a great day!
@princess07031980 (5412)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I think this is the most honet-yet humorous-post I have ever seen on Mylot. Props to you! I agree-I have 2 school aged kids but I couldn't have the patience to home school and take care of my toddler son who stays home with me. I think kids need that social setting and the earlier, the better. I think every child can benefit from at least one year of preschool and then moving on through life with knowing an array of peers. This teaches them to understand and honor other people, how to deal with problem solving with others, and also knowing that you can't always be first, or the only ones-as there is much failure (trial and error may be a better term) in life. Also along with that thought-other people can make life unfair to you at sometimes, and it teaches them how to deal with hardships caused by others. (Teasing, bullying, etc.) It also teaches them how to respect several figures of authority and how to recognize them.
I can't imagine what life would be like if my kids had never gone to public school. They groan and complain and they really don't like to get up in the morning, but it definitely is a social and learning benefit for them and I know they would really miss it if I took it away from them.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
i do agree with you both. though home schooling is appealing because you get to bond more with your child and you get to monitor them yet there are things in school taht you cannot teach them. like how to handle bullies or being able to solve things on their own...it teaches them to be more independent and of course as a parent it also becomes a challenge on how to monitor them when they are already exposed with the outside world.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Thank you Princess! And very good point Jazel!
One more day, one more day... Party is at my place! One more day.... YEAHHHHH
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I do teach my kids at home. We have a public charter school online here as do many states and I will never send my kids back if I can help it. Behavior was one of our least issues with the school system and now that I see how well my kids are doing at home I feel guilty that I left them in that school as long as I did. See my oldest has a learning disability and I thought that I wouldn't be capable to teach her at home. Then when in the 4Th grade the school told me that after 5 years of extra help she was at a 70% accuracy rate and since that is passing (that would be a C average) she no longer needed help. Now we had been pushing for more help as she was completely lost in math and still having problems with her reading. I was horrified that they would stop helping her. I also asked how she could go to college with a grade average like that and I quote her teacher "children like her do not go to college..." My husband has a learning disability and after years of being told this just realized they where wrong and started college now in his 30's. We where completely enraged. We looked for new options and found that since this was a public school and that we would not need to pay anything as our taxes would go to this system instead of the one in town.
Now our other child we where told was exactly mediocre in everything. Though we doubted it in reading and pressed them for help as in 2nd grade there was still issues with letter identification. When the cyber school gave her placement tests she came in at a kindergarten level of reading (now they told us she was doing as good as her classmates meaning all where 2 grades behind) while her math was high 3 rd grade level (she was being held back with her class for no good reason".
After only 3 months both girls had caught up to where they should have been in reading, phonics and math (or got ahead) and the history and science classes where so much more interesting I am learning things I never did in school. No I will not send them back to brick and mortar school at least through middle school. I would like them to have the social aspects of High school but if the school cannot give them what they need they will have to stick with there extra curricular activities.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
I really admire parents who painstakingly took special care for their children through homeschooling, I think it is a wonderful job. I want to learn more about home schooling. Are their any guidelines to follow when homeschooling?what textbooks are we using then?
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Yes, yes, and more yeses! My daughter and I both had a learning disability and that is one of the reasons that we continued to home school through eighth grade. It turned out that if she had been in school, she probably would not be able to read at all. Our vision therapist found that she could only track across a written line at 1%. Dyslexia runs in our family. The dyslexia has been corrected during my daughter's college years and when I was in my 50's but just homeschooling her through the eighth grade brought her to college level by the time she was ready for the 9th grade. She took science, acting, Spanish, art, geography club, and gym classes with the homeschooling group and had a ball and learned a lot. She was also on the volleyball and basketball teams. Her volleyball coach worked with her specifically to help her with right and left issues. What school would do that? By the time she did a basketball camp at the local community college, they were so impressed with her abilities that they wanted her to do high school at the community college. She felt strongly that she wanted to have a regular school experience and chose high school. That was a good experience for her because she was ready for it but it was very hard because she took her studies very seriously and wasn't into the party scene. She started a writing club at the high school and made many friends. She worked as a library aid for two years instead of the one year allowed because she did such a good job. She never gave up and worked hard in every subject (music) even if the dyslexia limited her.
She was accepted into the high school of her choice even though they were full. Once they saw her Stanford Achievement Tests, they did not hesitate to admit her. The teachers were really scratching their heads at how smart and mature she was and the high quality of her homework when she had problems marking locations on a map in geography or could not sight-read music. Her counselor told me that she was not college material. That counselor was no help whatsoever. I found the schools to be more of a hindrance than any help when it came to her self-worth and we sent our daughter to the top choice high school in town. Through all of this she never gave up and treated some of the adults in a more mature way than the adults treated her. I am glad that home school prepared her for all of this.
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I am glad to hear how well your daughter did outside of the school system as it helps solidify my own feelings. There is a growing amount of homeschoolers all over our country because the school systems just are not doing their jobs. They blame large class rooms and little time but really it is more of a concern to meet the next government standard then it is to actually teach the students. Teachers are aggravated parents are aggravated and the system just continues to fail.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 09
My going into first grade daughter was home-schooled through the preschool years and she is now very much ahead of her fellow students. We just did stuff as it appealed to her, not on a rigorous level. She never set foot in a preschool and she excelled well both academically and socially in her first year of school last year.
My younger child is 2.5 years old. We are going to be starting home-school preschool this year. Probably after his third birthday, which is in October. I want him to be right there like his sister was when she started school. Already, though we haven't started any academic training, he still blends better with the children that will be starting school a year ahead of him than those that are just a couple months younger than him because I do try to work with him on things as he is interested.
I'm planning on doing the alphabet, numbers, shapes and colors with him this year with the goal of him being able to at least write his name by the time he turns 4. I couldn't begin to tell you how many of Kathryn's classmates last year couldn't even write their name when they started kindergarten.
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@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Because I am a teacher and have been for many years, in areas all across this country, I advocate home schooling as the only rational choice for parents who truly want to protect their children and have them learn anything of value. Our schools have become sewers and cesspools. No real learning takes place, except for the political and economic agenda the government and NEA wish to advance. My first area of concern is safety, then academics. Both are lacking in our public and even private schools. This is largely due to the lack of morality and character training in both home and school that our society has fostered as we decline into secular humanism and third world status.
Parents were the first teachers until we turned our children over to a system that has progressively lowered every standard, academically and morally. Our children are propagandized daily in the schools and, at best, the only thing they learn is to "game the system" - regurgitate whatever they are taught or what will give them a good grade, but never learn to think.
Our schools have also contributed to the destruction of the family and parental rights by trying to assert their right to raise our children and indoctrinate them
according to "politically correct" madness rather than morally correct accountability.
Home-schooled children do significantly better than public schooled children academically and even socially, because their conduct is supervised and guided, which does not happen in public schools; children and their safety are largely neglected; this is just one reason their behavior is so horrible. They are also angry because of the deception in the school systems and the loss of family relationship at home. Many teachers today cannot read, write, and spell, so how could they possibly teach children to do so? Many are morally bereft as well.
I was in a first grade classroom in which the teacher had written a story on the board. It was about a cat who jumped on a table and a woman who said "Oh, know!"
Of course, it should have been, "Oh, no!", but try to tell the children that when their teacher had already taught them incorrectly. There are many more stories, but, enough for now...
@kidswanttechn0 (136)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I agree but at the same time, to the other extreme if you baby kids in home school and don't allow them to make friends or at least interact with other people with all backgrounds then when you "release" them into the real world they are going to get pegged with all the negative influences. There is no escape from this, and it's good to learn how to deal with it and tough it out. However, I'm not suggesting "sewer" schools are good either, just saying that there needs to be a balance.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Re KidsWantTechn0 : There are many places where a child can meet others of varying backgrounds and socialize. There are a myriad of activities, including sports, dance, art and other classes, social events of all sorts, the library, etc. While it is true the extra attention at home is not what most children get at school, I'd rather err in the direction of over-protection than under-protection and lack of attention, since nothing in this life is perfect. Also, you may have noticed that we live today in a dangerous world, largely because of the lack of morality we have spoken of, and safety is my prime concern, as well as my function re guidance and academic excellence, which prevails among homeschoolers.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
I have two boys and I would really love to home school them. I want to be able to personally impart my principles and ideas to them. I want to make sure that their character is developed and not just their knowledge of things. But for now, it is not yet possible because I have to work to provide for my family. I hope to be able to do it soon since the developmental stage is at its heights only until the 6th year of the children.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
i admire your patience but homeschooling is not part of my plan unless i could hire a housekeeper to do other chores for me..from laundry to washing dishes to removing all the cobwebs to hanging the clothes to ironing them. with two kids both toddlers, it would be crazy if i would home school them. my daughter is now in kinder 2 and i am liking the results, she is even learning good manners and she is learning well. there are things in school whihc i cannot teach her all at home. even though it means additional expenses for us, it is all worth it.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
I am interested of homeschooling, but here that takes very high costs, so i decided to send my kids to ordinary school.But someday when the time and money is more than enough,i will choose homeschooling for my kids.
@kidswanttechn0 (136)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I think preschool home schooling can be a good idea. The mother/parents of the child teaching him/her one on one is better then an over crowded for profit "educational" daycare. However it's important to try to get them to interact with other kids their age, maybe neighbors or your friends kids or something that way when they go into public school with lots of other kids and other adults instructing them it won't be so strange or scary. This is especially important for naturally shy kids, otherwise getting them to go to school with a bunch of strangers will be traumatizing and school will have a negative connotation in their mind. My sister had a lot of interaction with kids, and she is now in 2nd grade and has no problem going to a new day care or new class or anything. My brother is still young and naturally shy, but he HATES new people/environments. Just be sure to teach them even if you are shy, it's not that bad to interact with other people.