Could you live near your family?

I have been moved out of my parents house since i was 18--but I still live literally a mile away! I love being close but not too close. I don't know if I could ever move too far-- i would miss my sisters!

I don't think it sounds bad. It can be hard to live with or near your family and it can also be very difficult to live far from them. I moved from California to New York after living with my parents for 24 years. Living far from them was liberating at first, but you start to long for someone that knows you and understands you. Who better for that than your parents? I think that most parents annoy us by doing things and making suggestions that they genuinely think will help us. If I don't agree with what my parents opinions are I either choose not to listen and lead my life the way that I want to, or if it's something that I feel strongly about I discuss it with them. You may not ever get your parents to agree or see things your way but you can make small gains by having discussions about your disagreements. Living far from your family may be the right choice for some people. If ilving too close to your family is causing a strain on your relationship than space may be a good way to remedy that. However, I do think that there may be aspects of a relationship that need attention to be paid that are not related to you geographical location. If you have disagreements with someone physical distance won't change that.

i could live near and with my family as i come from a large one and very close-knit. there are sometimes disagreements but it's only natural because not everyone in the family think and act the same with everyone else. but even if i could do that, i still prefer to have my own place wherever my work brings me. and as an independent/freelancer, i could basically work almost anywhere there is a good internet connection. not being able to live close to your family does not necessarily mean or sound bad. there are some family members who rub each other the wrong way when it comes to personal issues and private affairs. one of my sisters is like that with my parents, they couldn't stand each other most of the time. hehehe as for my relationships and private affairs, my parents and siblings have respected my decisions, actions and choices made. they have never interfered because they know i'm responsible enough to do what i need and want. they are supportive even if at times they don't agree. i also wouldn't want to marry into money and i won't be as socialy accepted thin as the magazine figures we see. hehehe i left home for the first time when i was sixteen to study in another city away from home because of a scholarship. but i always go home whenever i can. i have never had any issue with any of my family members so living with or near them was never a problem.

I can and I really want it badly. I the only daughter of four sibling and also the youngest. my parents are old,and they need someone to be by their side. My mom just discovered th e wonder of shopping with a girlfriend, and because I'm far away, I unable to assist her. She don't know to go to big mall and she can only do shopping at the roadside. Moreover I love my parents so much and I'm willing to compromise the freedom that I got while I was away from them.

You should be more diplomatic with every one. Think rationally and respect the sentiments of every one. Be little more careful and understand the need of a good support system. To sustain a good relationship is very difficult, to break any relationship is very easy. So take extra care.

No, they don't want me to live near them. So i live as far away from them as possible. I'm an aunt and my sister doesn't want me to live near her.

There is no way I could ever live close to my mother. I do however vacation with her from time to time, and when she comes up north to visit, my house is the one where she always stays. Last time, she did spend the last night with my brother because it saves her about an hour off her trip. I don't think that it is right for your parents to ask about your financial situation, that is unless you are asking them for favors. The way I usually handle questions like that is by simply responding that it is kind of personal. My family used to ask me about my income and how much this or that cost, and then once I finally responded like that, they quit asking. Good luck to you!

Hey, No way! To tell you the truth, I can't wait until I leave this house where my parents live, they just always like to yell at me, and it is driving me nuts. For example, when they call me to eat, it hasn't passed 5 seconds, and then they say 'hurry up, what are you doing?'. That is what really annoys me, but yet I have to do what I am told, and get yelled at every single day of my life. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

Nope! I moved as far as possible away from them haha...

I wouldnt want to live nearmy family!!! i m happy where i am, 2500km away from them...the distance gives me enough space forme n my husband. n it also helps me maintain the cordial relation with some of the relatives...it would ahve een other ways had we lived near my family.

My family are very close and we all live near to eachother. I live the furthest away from them all and i am a 20 minute car journey away. My mother, cousin and aunty all live in the same street as eachother. As i say we are a close family anyway so we all like to be near to eachother and to be able to see eachother all of the time and healp eachother out.

Hi dreamr! It was fate that made me live too far from my family. Right after my graduation in college I tried my luck in a city where I landed a job and got married. As my husband was working abroad I had to join him there, even more far far away from my family. Much as I wanted to be with them, I can't go home but only once a year for a limited number days. If given the opportunity, I would be happy to live near my family as I've lost so many years being with them. I don't have any issues with them and I'm always happy to extend whatever help they need from me. Good day!

When v r young, we always think our parents are out of step with times, and they are quite often. But what they do have is love for us. There is no other relationship in our lives that is as pure as this. We can never be certain whether a relationship with the boyfriend will last for our lifetime. We can never be certain whether jealousy will not creep into friendships, and amongst siblings. We can never be certain that our children would stay with us and want us around. I am not mentioning the relationships we have in worksphere. Look at the risk and transient nature of all these relationship and contrast them with what your parents are offering. They dont want ur money, they dont want to lead ur life - even though u might think so - they just dont want u to be hurt - ever, and be happy - forever. They will be there at this age as well to look after u when u r sick, and cook a nice meal or two. They will still get u what u need from another town, while ur ex may never even bother calling u. I agree they do irritate. But an intelligent talk with them will help. From the information given here, I feel u r not spending adequate time with ur family because of which ur bonds have weakened. If u stay with them for a few weeks, and not discuss any of the abrasive topics, I am sure the love that lies beneath ur irritated exterior will re-surface. And u will then realize that it is ur complex about ur fat and whatever more than their remarks.

I could live far away from my parents, but not for very long. I love my parents and i'm very attached to them, being so far away from them would make me homesick.

Hey there and happy day to ya:) Sounds like you need to set boudries right down and let them know you love them and appreciate them worrying about you..but your grown now and they need to let you spread your wings and fly..and you will fall but thats how life is..and u need to learn from what mistakes you do encounter during your life..thats what i had to do my mom is the same way..my dad has always let me do my own thing..which brings me to your question..im very close to my family and i did live far away for a time period when i moved from PA where i grew up..to Louisianna..that killed me being so far from them especially my sister and dad..my mom and i never get along..or see eye to eye..we fight horribly so thats why i only take Sky to see her on Holidays..well mostly..soo yea i live near them and wouldnt have it any other way..my life really couldnt be complete without them..

Nope. My immediate family seems to get along a lot better if there is distance between us. We do good online and on the phone but put 2 or more of us in the same room at the same time and it won't be good for more than an hour. There is way too much history for me to go into here but each of us has our own issues with each other and it's hard to let it die if we are together and talking in person. Someone will say the wrong thing and the war is on.

I am married. So, now I am living with my own family (husband, kids). My parents far away from me. I think that the family that live together including their grandarents is good because we can take care of our parents and also our children in the same time. And it's good for children for being warm. But, now there are many family that don't live together. I believe that they have their opinion to this issue. But on the other side, not all families are that homogeneous. It's sometimes bothersome too. They figure if they live by, why not go over. But there are times you don't want company and that's a difficult issue. You don't want to hurt anyones' feelings. Some times separation can be a good thing. People need to have their space.

I preffer to live far from my family and be independent. It doesn't mean that your living far from them is your living your responsibility. No, you need to have and create your life. How you will enjoy it and how you will face that dos and don't of life you created. Sometimes staying near your family is not practical. They think that your still your a kid. But at your age you should have an independent life. I have a daughter who is 22 years old now. I tell her since that she was already graduated have her first job to save money and enjoy her life. If she want to move out from my house I let her go. She need to create her own. She needs to learn what is the life outside her parents house. I want her to experience being independent. Bcoz I too live away from my parents house and live independent.

I'm 24 as well I have 2 kids I moved out when I turned 18 actually 2 days after my birthday and my mom didn't like the fact that I was moving in with my boyfriend that I had only been with for like a month and but shes got over it as of now I'm doing OK with someone else and working full time totally taking care of my stuff with out anyone's help my eldest sister is hocked by that cause or other sister is complete opposite of that struggling living day to day not know where baby's diapers will come from or if her husband is going to have work today she says her baby is to young to go to a daycare and uses it for a excuse any way my mom is proud of the fact that I'm able to care for my self with out the consistence help of her or my eldest sister But with the things are now I would love to live in las Vegas close to my mom she has been sick for a while in the hospital for 4 months so I would but just for my mom not for my sister too mouch off me or for my other sister would be expect me to bow down cause I live in her town so no it would not be fun but I would do it and deal with all that for mom

OMG! Do I totally understand where you are coming from. I love my parents dearly, but my mother......WOW my mother. I was married and now have a 10 year old. Upon my divorce we had to move in with my parents for a year (seemed like an eternity). I finally managed to acquire the funds needed to get us our own place. Well, my mother to this day still wants to be in control of everything I do or feels that she needs to know everything going on in my life in order to make her complete I suppose. I had always been the peacekeeper in the family. I am the oldest of 4 kids and my siblings were always more outspoken than I was and let her know that it was their lives not hers. I, finally at the age of 42 have put my foot down and made it very well known that I am now 42 & will live my life & raise my child how I see best fit. Well that hasn't gone to well as my mother has decided that she isn't going to speak to me and hasn't done so more than a handful of times since February 2009. Unfortunately for her she is missing out on seeing her grandchild grow as she has chosen to be pigheaded with this control issue of hers. I hope that your situation turns out much better than mine has. I am sure your parent(s) are not quite as controlling as mine. Best of luck to you.