Toddler Complaining About DayCare

I work at a daycare with children 3 years old and up. We have a few children who tell their parents that they don't want to come to school. Some have been with a us for several months. One possibility is that she misses you when she's at school and she would rather be home with you (which is a compliment) but she will have to attend kindergarten in 2 years or so and you don't want to have to battle with her to go to school then. Another possibility is that there is a child or possibly a teacher that she doesn't like. Maybe there is a child who misbehaves and takes her toys. I wouldn't coax this kind of information out of her because some kids tend to just agree with you because it's easier or they don't want to tell you. I wouldn't pass what she's saying out of your mind. You could approach the teachers and observe some of the kids when you go to drop her off. If she takes naps maybe she would rather not. I'm not sure if the daycare is a home daycare or a chain or private daycare. Maybe if she is with younger children she would rather be with more mature children to play with. I hope this helps. Feel free to ask me any more questions.

My older son used to go to a child minder when he was a toddler. As soon as he learned how to say it he explained he didn't like her. She was quite strict and had a 'naughty mat'. He didn't like the food she gave him. He went to nursery school really happily. However in Year 2 at school he hated it. He had to go though and he soon adjusted to the hard work. I think your daughter will grow out of not wanting to go to the day care center. She would rather be at home with you feeding in the natural way. I think that you should praise her for doing anything positive there like a painting for example. You could talk about the staff in a lovely way. Good luck.

hi vkondrad I would also be concerned because she just says cause, have you asked her if anyone has touched her where they shouldnt, put it in words of course she can understand at her age. I always worry about child molestation,maybe because I was a vicim at a tender age . also could you stay at the daycare for a visit to just sort of watch what goes on? I know you probably leave her off and go on to your job. I do think there is something that bothers her and shes afraid to tell you or just doesnt know how. ask the people who watch her if your daughter has had any problems with any of the other kids, maybe someone is picking on her and told her not to tell. kids can be mean.

I am wondering if she is just getting to that age where she really doesn't want to be away from her Mommy/Daddy??? If she isn't getting very upset or paranoid or crying or anything before she goes there or when you pick her up, I am not really sure what else could be wrong? I am really pondering on this one. Maybe there is another child there that doesn't like her? Or one that she really doesn't like because they make her feel very uncomfortable? I think maybe you should talk to the daycare people and ask if anything is going on while she is there.