Do you speak from the heart,or tell people what they want to hear????

I always seem to be like an agony aunt to people and i used to be very honest about what i thought and at the time i did not mind them asking my opinion at all until one day i needed a bit of advice and well they could not make the time for me with my problem so now i just say i do not know or its up to you.

I think when we ask for any advice to a friend or anyone else, we do so with the intention to tell us what we want to hear. Because we know that the truths hurts. So when it comes to me to give advice I let them know that if they want I can say what they want to hear, but I always try to go by telling what I think about the situation.

Well, I don't think it is good to be dishonest with people, although I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings either. We just had this discussion with a few friends over the weekend. We determined that if you ask a question, and it is about something important, you're going to get the truth. If it is something like, do you like my new shoes, and it doesn't hurt anyone, who cares. I hope this makes sense to you. An old expression might be somewhat helpful "If the truth hurts....". Good luck to you and your friend!

hi cloud kicker speaking from the heart is the most honest way of giving advice, telling someone you like just what they want to hear really doesnt help much. Its best to be honest with your friends and loved ones, even if it means hurting them a bit because anything else is self defeating.if you are going to help someone, then do it.I am here because,.as my son himself said, my best friend gave my dear son a verbal kick in the pants,we were in a bad situation, little moneyand we were homeless, I am 82 with diabetes and a lame foot.he was worried about my health and us being on the street.my friend said firmly you are your moms guardian, get her into a retirement home as she cannot sleep on the street. I didnt want to do it but we had no other alternative. life isnt always fair, in fact seldom so we did what we felt was right. she spoke from her heart and we really didnt want to hear that.

I love to talk what people want to listen, by which I can understand their nature. Then only I can operate them according to me. I tell people truth wahtever they do on face. But in friendsliness. not like unnecessary involving in another chat. I like to tell people on there face, instead of their back. If I tell them they are good they become happy. and I love to see smile on peoples face.

It depends but i always try to speak from the heart. Telling someone the truth is always the best option all it is said that TRUTH HURTS.

I only hurt by others,do not hurt other people,so pathetic ah!

For me I will just try to twist the sentence just to tell them the truth of my heart. Sometimes if you don't tell ppl won't know what do u think. Do you agree with me...

I usually try to tell the truth but not tell it in a way that would hurt someone else's feelings. The truth will hurt but it's worth knowing rather then getting fed a lie or false statement.