How Many Relationships Have you Had Your Whole LIfe???
By patofgold23
@patofgold23 (5069)
Philippines
23 responses
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
11 Aug 09
I have had relationship with only one lady and she has been my wife for 25 years now. The very conservative approach to life had ensured no contact with girls when I was young and arranged marriage was my first experience with a girl. It has remained the same till now. I am about 50 and don't aim to change now.
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@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
Waw! So that girl now become your wife? One for a lifetime, that sounds romantic eventhough it is arranged.. Hope you will feel happy and your relationship stay strong
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@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Wow, that's so sweet. Even i would like to have that same view on love. Luckily, arranged marriages are obsolete nowadays so i can choose whom i can marry. In Chinese culture, they used to be the one who look or search for your future partner. Like what happened to my grandmother. She was 20 years old when she was married *same age as mine (20 but not yet married)* She did not have any choice then. But if she had, she would rather spend her time with something else other than marrying with a young age.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
11 Aug 09
Thank you very much. Though romance is still there differences of opinion are also there. The rows and arguments we have are legendary. One of us always steps back and accommodates the others point of view. We hate doing that, but just a disagreement is too small to give up on good going in life. Sometimes "no choice" makes life simpler.
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@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
I'm 17 now and I've had 2 relationship. I'm a picky girl and I can't and don't wanna accept someone as my boyfriend if I don't have any feeling for him. I had my first boyfriend 2 years ago. At that time, he was a couch in role-play My school celebrated 25 years and I participated in role playing. We have 10 years gap in age. I love him but seems like he only played with me. He has a sister who is my teacher and she mix my private life with my school life. I can't stand it and we broke up.
The second is with my classmate until now. He definitely not my type and until now i don't know why I accept him as my bf.. But I start to love him and we will celebrate our 3 months at September I don't like have many relationship and I hope this one can be the best for me
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@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
Oh yeah. Just enjoy every moment with your boyfriend and be careful, ayt? You know what i mean. I used to experienced that too maybe because you're still a newbie when it comes to relationships. Don't worry, You'll get the hang of it. Stay in love.
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
@koalapenguin : Actually I'm too shy to express my feeling to him, so I never say "I love you" or those kind of romantic words I feel shy too if he holds my hands..it's so strange..and you're right, I'm still too young..
Hope we will get the best in our love-life
@patofgold : Yes, I know it's too early to me,,but I guess I just wanna think positively about everything that happen in my life..but I'm ready too, for good or bad things that will be happen
Hope you have a strong and lovely love-life
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
it's too early to tell at three months
but
i wish you all the luck..(=))
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
where's you get all these photos fwid!
(u've been stalking women with sexy high heels???LOLZZZZZZZZZZZ)
but you do know how to appreciate sexiness...
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@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
Hmmmm. I can still count them. fortunately.. lol. I'm 24, including flings I had *counts* 9... hehehe. I had 5 serious relationships, including the one I'm having now.
My first boyfriend was when I was only in first year high school, too young, but I never really thought about it that time, cause having a boyfriend then only means somebody to take you home and carry your bag, that's it. we don't even hold hands back then. LOL.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
wow how convenient... your bf does come in handy to you huh??LOLZ
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
I am 20 years and had 3 relationships. The first one was not that serious at all cause i was like 11 then. It started as "i like you" then the guy asked, "if you like me, then you should make me your boyfriend or i will be gone forever." Afraid of the "threat, i immediately said yes then it didn't last for a month cause my parents raged in anger when they knew it. The second was a more serious one with a guy friend. We used to be pals and i used to be "the bridge" between him and my girl best friend. They always quarrel with simple text messages. Then he realized, he liked me better. Though it didn't last that long, either because I was not yet allowed to have a boyfriend *(til now) yeah, all those relationships are pretty kept in a secret. sssssshhh..*We ended the relationship earlier in college. He realized he wants to have fun than being with me. The last one, is the one i am currently in. We're so much in love and happy *not yet allowed (keep it as a secret)* But we argued 2 days ago and haven't spoken to each other for 72 hours. But i have big faith in him. This is just a small misunderstanding that we can overcome. Ü
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
My parents are kind of really strict. My sister's are kind of scared to open up too. Thanks for your wishes chrysant. I also wish he would be. I also thought that my second will be the last one. But it turns out to be the other way around. He's happy with some other girl that he met in the same University as mine. They would make a really cute couple. Ü I feel shy, you read my response even if it's very long. Oh and by the way, please, keep it as a secret.
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
It's been a long time I see you there, maybe because our online hours different. It's nice to see you so I read your long response My parents strict too and all my relationships are secrets too,,hehehe.. I'm sure there's other man for you too, like now (eventhough you two in misunderstanding situation)..
Don't worry, I will keep it a secret
Have a great day
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@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
Your second relationship sounds like what usually happened in my favorite romance novel,,hehehe.. I wonder if I experienced it.. Really? Until now you still keep it as a secret? why? you've already reach 20.. Sorry to hear that,I hope you and your bf will talk soon and clear up the misunderstanding.. Hope this one will be the best for you
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@winddancer1323 (162)
• United States
11 Oct 09
I'm 22 and I've only had 2 relationships in my whole life. I'm still on the second one, and we've been together for over 2 years :) As far as the flings...as in one night stands, lol too many to count. I had fun in college, i had a new boy nearly every weekend.
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
there is always a time in our life that 'we have our moments'...i guess it is something for us to look back when we grow old and laugh about....
youth happens only once in our lives... it's not cool to sleep around anymore when you're grey and when your skin is loose right?
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
Hi there!
I guess you already have a brief info on how many relationship I've had hehe because of my previous post. Anyways, including the fling, I only had 3. Wow, that was hard to count hehe..
The fling I had was when I was in college. I was in my first year and the guy just kept following me at school so to have him obey me, I decided to give it a go. I think it was kinda naughty of me back then cause I would always tell the guy to just wait for me in one corner hehe. The relationship didn't last long and my parents didn't even know about it.
My serious relationships well, I have graduated from college when I had them and they were official cause everyone in the family knows about it. But that was more than 10 years ago.
Ciao!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
lolz....... 3??? wow,,, I could have tripled that heheheheh
well, the flings were fun anyway... but poor fling, he had to wait at the corner..lolz!
tnx iskayz!!!
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
23 Sep 09
Hey,
To tell you the truth I have had no relationships in my entire life. While I am only young, I honestly feel quite bad because all the friends around me, they all have their own girlfriend/boyfriend. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hello patofgold,
I am now 28 years old. And I couldn't remember now how many relationship I had that includes the flings. I stopped thinking of it when I got married. All I can remember is that I had three serious relationship, my husband is the third serious relationship. I still remember some of the man from my flings, some of them are still my friends.
happy posting!
@red_amethyst (3518)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
haha. Well the relationship was an "error" at first. I did have a lot of flings, I just don't want to get serious in a relationship that's why I just a had few.
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@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
sounds like you do know what you're in doing when it comes to relationships..
i iwsh i was like you when i was younger...
I was too young when i made a lot of mistakes..and I've been paying for those mistakes till now.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
hi again red!
wow...thanks a lot for responding to most of my discussions....
i truly appreciate it......
I am glad to know you ended up marrying your third relationship..most tend to go through a lot of trial and error before finding the right person...
you're lucky.......
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 09
Hi Patofgold,
I have 2 relationships before I married to my husband. My husband is my 2nd relationship guy.
My first relationship was not going well. The guy is very protective towards me. I don't have any freedom and has to be with him all the time. No trust from him at all. I can't stand with this kind of relationship and I broke off with him after dating for a year.
Then I met my current husband again, it was such a coincidence that we still keep our email address. I emailed him one day to say "HI" and that is the beginning of our conversation after lost contact for more than 3 years.
We started to talk on the phone and went out together. Chemistry started to sparkles between us and we decided to give a try. Being with him for 4 years, I really have a wonderful relationship.
Then we decided to get married and now we are a parent of my cute little son.
Some people said that first love is difficult to forget. It does not work on me. I can't really remember how my first love started and I don't wish to recall back too.
I am happy with my current life,a wonderful husband and my little son at my side forever,that is more than enough.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
hi shia...how i love your story!!!
it's like in the movies...but it does happen in real life...
oh...i could feel you're much in love and happy..and I am happy for you as well..
keep it up..........love is a wonderful thing!~
@involved62 (790)
•
23 Sep 09
I've had only 2 serious relationships including this one which resulted in marriage. Flings and for fun? only 2 as well. That's not difficult to count and it stops here. I am 47 and I am happily married for 13 years.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
23 Sep 09
wow involved... i'm turning 31 next month...and I do not know when i will ever get married... i have too much in my hands right now i can't just drop everything... my family needs me still... so I guess i will get married really really late.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
good if you think that way...you sure doknow what you;re doing...
i do hope the one you're into right now would work out...
I know how it s*cks to be always on a trial and error....
does feel great to have some permanence.....
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
I'm 27 yrs old. i have 8 relationships already and 2 had been declared serious. Now, I have a relationship with someone special but we're having hard time together. Because his far from me and his working in other country, but we communicate everyday.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hi feod..I have had one distant relationship in the past.. it was kinda hard..
we went on and off for five years...and no matter how I try, the distance makes me feel so unsure all the time...
I really hope it will work for you coz a lot of long distance relationships don't succeed...
i wish you luck girl!
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
12 Aug 09
How funny! I have had a handful of serious "relationships" in my life. I have dated many, remained friends and still keep in touch with a few. I really didn't keep track in my younger years, so am not sure of numbers. I don't think that really matters much. I am a child of the 60s and we did things a bit differently back then.....:-)
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
hmm,,,maybe it's more like you lost count..lolz! tnx quin!!!
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
hi patofgold ..
one and only one .. one boyfriend and one husband and it is the same person
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
12 Aug 09
The number of relationships that I have had in my entire life, I can still count on one hand. I am middle aged and have one grown daugther. I just don't think it is necessary for me to go through my life sleeping with every guy that buys me a drink or says that he loves me. I have never had a "fling," they can reek havoc on your life, for life such as an unwanted pregnancy or an Sexually transmitted diease that may or may not be curable.
The pride in being in a monogamous relationship has given its place in society over to polygamy and one-night-stands. That is not the kind of legacy I want to leave for my loved one.
Today, some people seem to now live in the moment not caring what to tomorrow may bring.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
hey tnx for d response angel!!! your husband is lucky to have you!
@deod08 (166)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
i am 22 years old, and i dont know how many relationship i got into. With flirts, i duno but with serious i got 5 relationship. The longest was almost 2 years
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
5 serious relationships at 22 years old?
i guess they don't last that long eh?
it's okay you're still young.......
the right time or the right person may not have come yet
@qtquiggs (50)
• United States
24 Aug 09
well I let me start my telling you that i am 36 yrs old. I have had only two serious relationships. maybe been on 10 dates but nothing serious out of those.
the first one ended the night before we were to get married. I called off the wedding for money issues but i reliezed that i no longer loved the guy and had fallen in love with the fact i was going to be someone's wife. i am glad that we did not get married because i dont plan on getting a divorce so i would have stayed married unhappy but married.
The second relationship is the one i am in currently. We met on an online dating service and i adore him. he could not be a better man. we are going 7 years.
and to be truthfull i have never had a fling.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
hi qtquiggs.......
i'm glad to hear you're happy with your currrent relationship...
keep it up...every relationship takes time and hard work to build it up through the way.
it's amazing you met someone online...
i thought it'll never work.
i dated somebody I met online..we were in-love for 5 years but he changed.....
it's a long distance relaitonship so i guess that's one factor.
i'm almost 31, and i don't think i will ever get married.......