Resign from work or hire a babysitter?

Hi seanbryan, I was in your delima too when I first got my baby boy two years back. I took my mother with me for the first month. My plan was, from the second month onwards, I'll send my boy to my mom (who resides outstation) and visits every week or maybe every other week and I continue to work. But after being with my boy for the first month, I can imagine being away from him even for a second. I left my job and became a full time mother to him. I've never regretted my actions. My advise will be, if your spouse can manage the household income, it will be better for you to quit and take care of your baby yourself. But if you guys are relying on your income too, then you might need to get a babysitter in order for you to continue work. You judge it your self.And best of luck!

Hi, in this situation I will suggest to resign the work and give your full time to baby, depends if you are not in financial crisis and you can manage your family with your better half's earning, then you should quit. The reason behind this is, you will get more better job in future but you will not get the time when you can see your baby grow, kids are developing very fast in first couple of years and you should be with them for helping them to grow. Only monther can take care of baby, not a baby sitter, they will do just the job of taking care, but you will be doing with emotions and feelings. The same situation was with me, and my wife left the job for her after our discussion, She is a CA by profession. And will resume work only after the baby is 2-3 years old.

There are pro and cons in this matter I guess. If you were to give up your job and take care of the baby, it is good in a way. You can spend more quality time with your child and help your child to develop themselves. Since the mother and the infant will be the closest and communication's 1st step will be from mother and infant's eye contact known as gaze coupling. However, there is a job to be sacrifice, a career. But if you have a babysitter, you can maintain that job but the relations with your child wont be that good.

My colleague was in this dilema for the last one week and now she has decided to resign her job. She will work again once her kid is around one year old. She has her mother at home, but she is sick and she can't do a lot of work including taking care of the baby and cooking at home.

You and your partner if present are alone the only people who can decide what will be best in your situation. You said that your job pays well. Does your job pay most or all of the bills? Does your job provide good and adequate health insurance and other benefits? If you were to pay for child care, will you have a substantial amount of money left afterwards to meet your wants and needs? You will at some point, have to part from your child eventually, as they grow and develop into their own. Hope those things are helpful to you...

I totally understand your difficulty in choice. I suggest you not to resign from your job for the time being. You better to try to find a babysitter to see what will happen with your child. If this management does not make you satisfied you can consider leaving your company to experience new life style. I suppose it would be painful for you to back home just as a housewife. You will need time to adjust yourself and your partner also need time to adjust. Also be practical if you leave your company the income for your family would be down. Before it happens you should think twice. Congratulation for your baby birth and Happy myLotting.

Is it possible that you could have a friend or family member care for your' child while you work? Or...would your' company allow you to telecommute?

Only you can answer that question. I stayed at home with my son when he was born and I watched a few other kids in my home. Then I went to work at a doctor's office when he was 2 and I missed being with him at home so I quit my job and now stay home with him. I clean a few houses to earn some extra money. If you want to quit your job just make sure you and your spouse or partner can afford for you to be able to quit. You just have to look at all your options. You can find a good babysitter or daycare if you look around (if you still want to work). Being a stay at home mom/dad is a hard job but I love being with my child and seeing all the new things he does and learns.

Don't let yourself get to up tight about this, you will have three months to figure it out. Only chose the babysitter if you have full faith in her. Often you will find that by the time you pay the sitter and all the other expenses involved with working it doesn't pay you to work. But if you really like your job you might miss it enough to keep it. Take your time to choose.

If you do not experience financial difficulty, you should care your own baby. The influence of the mother is very important in the development of psychiatric baby. Affection a mother can not be replaced. Excuse me. If your career more important, it means you are not yet ready to become a mother. But, I hope your work place creche available.

ask your mother to stay for three more months or els eyou can hire a baby sitter. It would be better if you can take leave. You can enter into a dialogue with your organisation regrading the options open before you. Whether it is possible to extend your leave. It would have been better if you could be at home for the first six months. Can you bring work home from office and operate from home??? Options are there think over and roads would open up. You have to trust the baby sitter but if your child is not happy with him he will cry after you come home if you find your child in full momemtum then rest assure that he is taken care of. Even my daughter is 2 yeras now she has learnt to speak and tell problems but when she was small i had these problems. I use to judhge her habits and notice whether the baby sitter istaking care or not.

hi seanbryan, i am a working mother of two special sons (13 and 9 years old both with autism) and have a child caregiver. i always look forward for that day where i can stay home and be a full-time mom and wife for my family but given the challenge to be my hubby's partner in earning some more to provide for our kids schooling (special education-SPED) and additional intervention and therapy programs) i am always out for work. based on my experience, it was only during the 78days materninty live that i was able to give my full attention to my 2 kids and after that made extra effort to have quality time to be with them--tutoring them with their homework, school projects, attending school programs, malling, and playing with them. so, whatever opportunity that i have, i make it a point to make it more meaningful for all of us. hiring a babysitter is scary for me before. i am so protective of my baby but proper orientation and training helped a lot. of course you need to trust your babysitter because you will be entrusting your child to her and i know it's really a tough decision. it's always YOU who can discern and assert whether to resign from work if you have enough resources why not? but if you need to work and share the responsibility with your husband of providing for the family too, well hiring a babysitter will be of great help to you. goodluck and my prayers for wisdom be with you!

See....i can understand that its Your job but how did u think that your baby will stay good in your hand of baby sitter...not his/her mother.......by giving your baby to baby sitter u will just through him in the unbearable pain and agony.....and the child will never understand the love of his/her mother.....so i suggest just take leave and make him/her a complete person.....you can earn money later.......in life....but baby grew up only ones........ Thank You

This is a tough decision and I remember dealing with it myself. Leaving my job to care for my baby meant taking an entire salary out of our budget. That alone was a huge adjustment, not to mention the added expense of another mouth to feed. This really is a personal decision but you do have options. Some women who believe they want to be stay at home moms actually return to work after a few months because taking care of a baby isn't always that easy, especially when it's 24/7. Is there anyway you could do your job part time and work just a few days a week. What about working from home but having a babysitter in your home while you work? Have you thought about leaving your current position and trying a work from home opportunity? I don't know what it is you currently do for work, but you should check out elance.com. They have many different types of jobs that you can do from home. There is everything from virtual assistants to designers and writers. When I had this issue, I chose to stay home but I started a family daycare and took care of other children while I cared for my own baby so that I could still contribute to the family income. It wasn't easy but it worked. I feel it's true that nobody can love your baby like you do, but there are some very warm and loving child care providers out there. When I had my daycare, I took care of a baby just a couple of months younger than my daughter. I loved her like my own. Eventually when she started talking she began calling me "Mama" and she cried at night when her mother came to pick her up. It was heartbreaking for the mom but she said at least she knew her daughter was well cared for and truly loved all day. I was recently interviewed by US News and World Report on creative child care solutions. Unfortunately, they only used a piece of the information I gave them, but there is lots of information available on my website. I even offer a free ebook called "Seven Things to Know Before You Hire That Babysitter" just because I believe it is important information for every parent to have. I also haveIf you'd like to take a look, my site is www.babysittingworld.com. I truly hope you are able to stay home with your baby if that's what you really want. Best of luck! I hope this helped.

When you baby is born you will get an idea of what it would be like to be a stay at home mom. Some ladies love to get there at home caring for their baby 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Others like to work part time and some even like to work full time. Their baby is cared for my a child minder. In my home country child minders are approved by inspectors. Each one is qualified and most are experienced. If you feel happy as a stay at home mom that would be wonderful for your baby. If not you will need to interview the baby sitter and be sure she is ideal to care for your baby. Good luck.

This is a very tough decision. Is it possible for you to have a longer time to take care of your baby? Here after a woman has her baby, legally she will have about 6 months from work. Especially you earn well from your company and sometimes it is difficult to find another well paid job in a short time. However, hiring a babysitter is also another concerning issue because you are not sure whether the babysitter is responsible or not. Perhaps you can see whether any of your relatives can help you to take care of your baby when you go to work. You can pay for them. At least they are trustworthy than a babysitter. I love China

That is always a hard choice to make. When I had my kids, I was working at a very good paying job as a small claims auto adjuster. I already had an 8yr old at the time that the others came along and was lucky to have my mom and dad around to help out with that. They were older and had other children they were caring for as well. It would have been too much to expect of them to add to it. I quit my job and became the babysitter for my own children as well as others. I also worked at night part time when my husband was home. It is a tough choice and one that only you and your husband can make to decide what is right for you. If you opt to hire a sitter, start looking for and interviewing sitters now until you find one that you are comfortable with. Good luck and congratulations. This will all work out. These things always do.

It is better for mommies to stay home with there kids. It is more good to raise the wonderful children by her own. Some babysitters are good and honest while there is risky sometimes. Mother's knows best for her young.

if your earnings is much more higher than you pay for a babysitter, then i will suggest you hire one. is good to have your own career. but later when you have 3 or more kids, then you may consider to quit your job and full time take care of your kids. this is my opinion.

NO don't resign from your work you know is hard to find a work maybe you can file your leave for 1 month for your baby but not resign maybe your company will approve your leave of absent in 1 month tell to your company that you like to take care of your baby for 1 month and you will file 1month leave of absent i think your company is will approve your leave of absent after 1 month hire a baby sister to your baby what you think this is my advice to you do you think my idea is great after 1month go back to your work..