what if...

@chaime (1152)
Philippines
August 11, 2009 4:40am CST
what if your partner wants to make love and you're not in the mood, what do you do? Do you just let it happen or do you say to your partner that you're not in the mood. And if you do, how do you feel afterwards even if you let your partner get his/her way?
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Margajoe
@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
11 Aug 09
If I just let my partner have his way , I will feel used. I won't feel well afterwards. So, I normally tell him no. When I don't want it , I don't want it. He agrees with me and told me, he does not want me to think I have to do it for him. Then he would rather wait until I want it. He claims it to be more fun when I want it too. I appreciate that. Maybe because we are older, we think different than younger people.
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chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
yes I totally agree, I feel this way too and I'm glad that my hubby understands me as well. Yeah i guess you're right that older people think differently than the younger ones who lets their hormone get away with them.
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chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
Yeah, when I first got married, I thought this too. but as my marriage progressed I realized that its actually okay to say no, if I'm not really in the mood and I'm glad that my husband understands that it's not always the right time to make love....
Magikrose
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
14 Aug 09
Honestly for me it depends on how my husband is going about it. If he is trying to be romantic and gentle then I will let him but make him work a little bit harder to get me in the mood. But if he is being a perv and just groping me then I will tell him that I am not in the mood and he will back right off till some time in the middle of the night which is when he will be romantic about it then I will let him.
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chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
Yeah, I guess it would be great if your hubby can get you in the mood.
ranraj88
@ranraj88 (3)
• India
11 Aug 09
just for her satisfaction i will do best... hA HA HA HA......
chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
hahaha.. well... that's good to hear
Ammudoll
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
6 Sep 09
No I don't force him, but sometomes I do because he want and likes to be pampered and he enjoys if I ask him and pleases him to do it. That's only suring fun times. So far we didn't had such experience of not in a mood, when ever we meet we do it with full energy and pleasure.
chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
good for you then, good for you. some of us are not as lucky as you though.. :)
bat85823
@bat85823 (22)
• China
12 Aug 09
ok,if I was not in the mood,then I will tell her the truth that i really can't do ,I think she will understand if she love me.every thing and every problem we can say to each other and then we can found a solution.
chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
yes, its good to be honest and its good to be able to talk
blisfully_undecide
@blisfully_undecide (28)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
i dont have any problem with this coz i can easily shift moods it will just depend on his charm..LOL
chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
18 Sep 09
good for you. that you're able to shift moods.. it's not so easy for me
johndur
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
31 Mar 12
if she wants it i always gives in...i may be faking it but i always make sure that she is happy and satisfied everytime we do it...no matter if im in the mood or not...
aerous
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
31 Mar 12
I think there is no big deal if I am in the mood or not? The important was to give what my partner asking for to avoid any misunderstanding...that is an obligation that each partner must responsible and obligated to make it happen to satisfy our partner
pacpacboom
@pacpacboom (151)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
communication is very important between partners. Likewise, understanding and listening plays important roles in a relationship. i believe that you can always talk about it and try to understand each others' feelings.