no no no not me
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85147)
Shingle Springs, California
August 11, 2009 12:12pm CST
Today we went to Dearra's school to get her schedule, books, etc. They send a set of books home (they are HEAVY college sized books) and leave one set in the classroom. We were in the book line when one mother said hi to the mother in front of me. They got in a conversation and mother #2 asked mother #1 where her other child was. "Oh, they won't even come here together, so I'll be back again later." Huh? Well she can do whatever she wants with her kids, but I wouldn't tolerate that. "One trip, you're both coming, end of argument." I'm a mean one, Mr. Grinch... 
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
11 Aug 09
oh no way.they'd have to deal.
there's no way i'd make 2 trips.
that's as bad as the kid i heard tell her mother "buy me this..NOW" at walmart.
and the woman DID!
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Aug 09
"Buy me this now!" Not happening...
As for the lady who lost her son, I can somewhat understand that because she was no doubt still grieving, but the other one? Ridiculous. I would probably not have the nerve to get in that cop's face and tell them off, but I would sure want to. There's a huge difference between what you mentioned and abusive yelling.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
12 Aug 09
yikes,dfollin..
those two both sounded wacky.
knowing me,i probably would have said "fine-i'll wait!"
it is true though.i was telling my mom about some of the no-discipline type laws now,and she was just shaking her head.
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@nannacroc (4049)
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11 Aug 09
Who's the parent there? Maybe I'm old fashioned but my children did as I said and the only reason I would have accepted going to the same place twice is if one of them had been ill. I'm so glad mine are grown up, I would probably have been reported for abuse regularly as I would not and still don't, even if the youngest is in her 20's, put up with them shouting at me, not that they do now. If my children demanded anything from me while we were out, they did without. I was such a nasty mum that they keep coming back now they are supposed to have left home.
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@GardenGerty (159850)
• United States
12 Aug 09
The surest way to not get something when with me was to pester me. Even the day care kids learned that early on. I think the child that refused to come would have lost her privilege of going, and I would have registered her myself, like a baby or whatever. I would not go through that scene twice.
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@caver1 (1762)
• United States
12 Aug 09
No, no, no, not me either. We try not to make more trips than necessary. Gas costs money and I'm not spending the extra time either. The 2 years my kids were in different schools was difficult for scheduling this sort of thing. My husband would usually be able to take one child and I would take the other.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Aug 09
If i had two starting to school, two would have been there to register . Guess i'm a grinch to.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Aug 09
O.K., u can be pres & i will be vp. I tell u the way i see some kids acting they need a grinch arouns but the parents are to blame. It all starts at home.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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11 Aug 09
Hi dawnald,
I just think this mother is far too soft with here child, while make double trips when you can do one and I'll do one for her kid, give him a califlower ears, I would.
Tamara
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Aug 09
I can just hear myself. You don't like each other? Fine, you stand over there and you stand over there, but I'm not taking two trips just because you're acting like babies...
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Aug 09
Making them pay for the gas still doesn't make up for the mom's time. Maybe they should clean some windows too! 
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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23 Aug 09
Hi Alice,
Yape, thats what I mean, a cauliflower ears, a thick ears, parents are far too soft for their little pammpered children and the children knows it, some even bully thier own parents. When was a child, when my mum says NO she means NO and no back chat or we'll know all about it, mum was strict and I turned out ok.
Tamara
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@GardenGerty (159850)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I do not remember registering my kids for high school. My son says I did it at least once. I think after that, he did it himself, I just sent a check and signed the papers. I think I let him take his little sister when she was old enough. For the most part my kids loved doing things together, and I am one really lucky Mom. Their friends all liked each other as well, so that was cool.I did a lot of daycare though, and that was way different. It actually made me enjoy my own kids even more.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
15 Aug 09
I think of the question...what will her children be like when the time comes for them to raise their own children?
Surely children should be under our control and not given absolute freedom. Otherwise how do they learn to respect others and to be selfless if their every whim and request is granted.
You're not mean sweetheart...you are doing your children the most loving kindness.
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Aug 09
Naw, I know I'm not mean. And to tell you the truth, my kids thought it was pretty silly too!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
12 Aug 09
Some parents are just nuts, and how sad that the kids get away with it. My mother is still raising my 14 year old sister, and she often talks to me about foods my sister will and will not eat. Sometimes I'm astonished. In my house I serve what I feel like and the kids have to deal. Apparently in my mother's house she chooses meals based on what my sister likes, which doesn't include vegetables. Nuts!!
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I am with you 100 percent on this. I was in charge and my kids went to these type of things and no arguments. Sure they might fight in the car but in public no. Of course I had to stand between the boy and the two girls to keep the peace. Did I say I was in charge? Well I had the car keys.
@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Aug 09
When it's three against one I have to employ the car keys sometimes too!
@hmfryklund (389)
• United States
12 Aug 09
lol that is honestly one of the most absurd things I've heard lol. Why would a parent EVER make secondary trips like that just because one child doesn't want to be by their sibling? I can't think of any parents that I know that would do that, they would just make their kids accept it, because if you give in to your children like that, they rule you instead of you setting the rules.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
11 Aug 09
I am amazed that the mother actually gave the children the choice of going together or separately. This has floored me. 'Will you both get into the car right now please as we are going to school to get your cooks and schedules.' What is wrong with that? What am I missing here? who is the parent?
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Aug 09
My mom would have said, "either you both get in the car now or you can both walk there and get your books." :-)
