Choose Your Own Engagement Ring, Or Have Your Mate Surprise You?

When I got married, I was ok with whatever my husband gave me. I liked the element of surprise and would have and did cherish whatever he chose for me because it came from him...from his heart. I actually loved my engagement ring. It was simple and pretty. I did not find out until after our divorce that he'd stolen my grandmother's engagement ring which she'd left to me and I'd been thinking it was a friend that stole it. I learned this when I went to have it appraised. It was a rare and old cut diamond that was done in another country. The jeweler shook his head and said it was a shame because it was the setting that made it so valuable...it was pretty much worth nothing as it was. So much for surprises!

I am not a very choosy person, I think I would appreciate the element of surprise once in a while hehehe though before my husband and I got married, we agreed to skip the engagement ring because of the budget and just bought the wedding rings.

You know, I like the idea of being able to have a say in what my engagement ring looks like, but then again, I also think it's quite a surprise whenever your partner takes the opportunity to go out and find a ring that they think you'll adore and surprise you with it. Whenever they do that, I think it makes the whole proposal more romantic because it's completely unexpected.

Well, when I finally asked my girlfriend to marry me it was our fifth anniversary and I thought it would make the day even more special. I didn't have a ring like I wanted to have ecause I wanted to ask her with it tied to a white rose. I always add a rose for every anniversary. That day I had an extra white rose hidden and after I gave her the five red roses then surprised her over lunch with the white one. I planned to ask her to pick one out anyway and she did enjoy the roses and my surprise rose. We picked a simple ring with a sapphire. I thought it was a very good choice seeing as her birthday is in Sep and it's also the fifth anniversary gift. I also thought it was interesting that sapphires were the most common stones for wedding bands ages ago.

I think I would prefer to pick the type that I like, it would be nice to receive a surprise though, I didn't get any rings EVER from my lover so I guess I won't get to have surprise to get to pick what style do I want... it upsets me a lot... Anyway, it is a good and new discussion :-)

i will get married soon, a few days ago my boyfriend told me that her mother will pick the rings for us .In fact i was not happy to heard this , i think it's our marriage, we need to pick the ring which we like ,how does her mother know which stytle we like? But my bf said her mother insist to do that.she just care us.Then let her pick the rings for us now.

I always wondered how a guy can get his woman's ring size without giving away the surprise.You know me,if I Have to marry then he would pick the ring.But I think the best thing to do is to shop together for the perfect rings, the engagement ring and the wedding bands.

Well, my husband surprised me with a beautiful ring ,but since we both have similar taste it was a wonderful surprise and I enjoy wearing the ring all the time.

When my husband and I got engaged it was sort of both. Once it was obvious that we were in love he took me in to a jewelry store when we were at the mall. He asked me what rings I liked and I showed him. He made it seem more like a casual for fun kind of thing. The next day he put the ring on lay away and then asked me to marry him three months later and gave me the ring I picked out. So while I didn't really know I was choosing my own wedding ring I actually did.

My fiance and I actually got handed a flier that had the engagement ring on it. One of the small smart source type things, and his mom showed it to us... we both liked it, and so we ordered it. It was a good price, only $40.00 though it breaks my hand out so we have to put it on a chain (the ring) now. I would have not minded if he chose one himself.

I would like to be surprised like on some of those Romantic movies haha lol..I am dreamer there. Even like the one on Sweet Home Alabama where the guy takes her to a jelewry store and she can pick anyone she wants. (she was blindfolded before they got there so she didn't know) Or even have a guy surprise me with the ring. Many guys usually know what the women likes before he asks so he has an idea. Then later on she could get one she likes or maybe even a Bigger one :) I feel the surprise is worth it and more sentimental and valuable. Though, I picked my own out and it is my first marriage.

I think both people should have an equal say in the ring. I gave my partner a whole bunch of ring designs that I really really liked and then he and the women from his side of the family got together and incorporated some elements from each of the rings to design two gorgeous rings for me. One as a wedding band and the other as an engagement ring. The boy pays for the ring. It is unfair to expect him to empty his savings account.

I want him to surprise me! :D And he did! :D

i was really not expecting it that early or even expecting it at all, but my boyfriend now shocked and surprised me of giving me one, when we're still in the mutual-understanding stage.. i am somehow confused but my happiness is really there.. it's the first time in my life, and i really am treasuring the ring.. i wears it all the time, until now, it reminds me, though its not quite needed because my heart speaks it already, that I am already engaged to love this person forever. And I do! i love him for life! :)

I'm married now but I never got an engagement ring...I never saw the point. I do have my wedding ring and I wear it on a chain around my neck b/c my fingers swell terribly. I picked it out and I'm happy with it. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

As romantic as it is to be surprised with the engagement ring, I would rather go with so I can help pick it out. And this is exactly what I did when my husband and I got engaged. Plus like your husband, my husband wanted to make sure I would be happy with it. And I am! I've had this ring for the past 15 years and I still love it. I've heard some women upgrade to a new ring after a few years. But not me. I wouldn't want any other. Happy mylotting!

My husband and I picked out our rings together. At first we looked around in different shops, but we didn't find exactly the rings that we were looking for. One day we discovered a website where we were able to design our own rings. It was a lot of fun playing with the different kinds of rings etc and eventually we managed to design some rings that we both liked. We printed the page and took it to the shop, and then they made the rings for us. I am very happy that we chose the rings together.

My then boyfriend, now husband, chose my engagement ring. It's not as flashy as the ones you see in the movies or on TV but it's ultra perfect for me. I love it. Even more, he gave me another one cause the first one did not initially fit. LOL. now I have two.

I chose mine, and I didn't want to break his bank either. In fact I told him I didn't have to have an engagement ring. But now, I am glad that he insisted, as we ended up in a long distance relationship very soon afterward. I didn't want a diamond, so I chose a white gold and sapphire ring. I've got short, stubby fingers and so chose something that would work with that.

I personally think the engagement ring should be a surprise, plus you get to find out if your man does have taste. Luckily my man does!! He surprised me with the ring on my 18th birthday and still together. I think when we get the wedding rings is when I will pick that out. You already got the surprise from the engagement so the wedding rings can be something to do together.