When you are in deadlock!

you know what? when im in deadlock i do the very same thing. i come here and whine and moan all i can because my friends will help me out. but then, i do tell them exactly what all my sons gf has done and said to me and get all the anger and hurt out i can. then it dont seem so bad. so tell us, your friends everything that its about. like i do.

you sure are a fighter,but i donot know about your current situation as i have logged in after a long time.positive thinking does help,worrying wont help you or anybody.

Problems donot stop coming to you .. and deadlocks happens very often to me..But I dont know I just think of impact that problem can do on me ..then I feel am either over exaggerating things or somethings wrong..Though I dont get a solution out from this sort of impact analysis , but I kinda be present to my problem and that makes me relaxed.. I guess it is lil bit tough things which even i dont get it.. What I mean is be present to the situation and it will make a lot of differnece to the problems..

I am very sorry to hear that you are still going through this situation. I have been in your situation before and it is no fun at all. I do not think you are a moaner. I think you have real issues in life and nothing seems to be going right for you. I hope it all works out soon though. Keep trying. You will find the right person to help you some day. Good luck.

Hi subha, Many a times we will find ourselves in situations that feel like deadlock, yet the first question to ask is, 'who claims it a deadlock', upon which the question 'Is anyone else saying its a deadlock?' would lead to more and more questions and likely answers. Its important to realize that deadlock means that the situation is not going anywhere, in other words none of the variables have even the slightest notion of changing, including us ourselves. Think about this, Bob plays a game where he sets the direction of a rocket, in the hopes of getting it through a doorway. So he sets it at 35 degrees, launches the rocket, and it hits the wall. On the second try, he adjusts the wings slightly, sets it to 35 degrees and launches. Again it hits the wall. So he tries multiple times and hit the wall each and every time. For some reason, Bob has this great fear of changing the launch angle, thus convinces himself that changing it would only lead to more problems. Even more unfortunate, Bob didn't take time to realize that only by overcoming these problems one by one would he eventually get the rocket though the doorway. From this short story, you can see that Bob establish for himself a comfort zone, a safe area, out of which is the horrible unknown. Sometimes we need to venture out into the unknown, take the courage to do something different than we normally would, and be brave enough to reap the rewards.

Guess what? I always find myself in such situations and become really temperamental till the problem gets solved. I think the best way is to leave the problem aside for a while and then look at it from another perspective after a day or two. I'm sure you will be able to get a soluion when you are out of the problem. So, be mentally "outsidee" the problem and you will be able to solve it effectively :) All the best

There is nothing in any work place that is going to satisfy everyone, things are the way we want them because we are not the top dogs running the job, yes they tell us that it will be fixed or they will make it right, but then go on as if no one ever spoke to them, they are there to get the most they can get out of a person with the least bit of doing any thing for that person to make work much more easier on that person. You say people call you a moaner, maybe that is because every post you make on here, something does not suit you. You are not the boss, you do not make the rules. Don't you get it, they aren't going to fix it, they don't have to, and the more you moan and groan about it the more I am sure they will let it go as long as you are putting out to their satisfaction. I think you should learn to explain what is wrong and why you think it should be changed. Or what the situation is that is causing you the problem. We can not know what you are fighting for or why it is in deadlock if you don't explain the situation to us, all we can see is one more post of you moaning about something being done. If maybe you did explain someone might have a soluation that maybe you could use to help you get what you need. Believe me when I say I am not being mean,we only go by what you type in here. You say that you met with the very top man who assured you that it would be taken care of, but them referred you to someone that already told you nothing could be done about it. That right there should tell you to get over it. Go on do your work and forget it. They don't care. Could you explain what the problem is, so that we can see what you are fighting, I know last time it was because you didn't have a wastepaper basket or a phone, I can see where a phone would maybe stop you from doing your job, but a wastepaper basket, get a sack, bring one from home. Do you find every thing wrong because you don't feel like you should have to work. I am just trying to get to the problem so that maybe we can help you in this situation you seem to have.