Do you consider your In-Laws as your Family?

i did when i was with my ex before.i treated them as my family and tried to show my care for them.they thought i am good person and liked me even i divorced with my ex.i don't think i liked them much before,just i think they are my ex 's family i should do what i should do in right way.

I have just picked up this mail as been away on hols. but do I consider my in-laws as my family? that is a definite NO. No details, but even after nearly 42 years of marriage to my other half, sorry NO.

I had two sets of inlaws & fortunately The daughter may find out the hard way that good men are hard to come by. got along very well w/them & thought the world of both sets. It was their sons who gave me trouble, lol. i think the woman is being a very wicked mil & i think her daughter & her both should be ashamed of themselves for doing that to the man. I usually stick up for the woman but in this case, i can't.

hi there zandi, of course in laws is part of the family, I am still single and I heard that In laws sometimes cause so much trouble and understanding, I think before going and deciding to marry the person you have already check the background and that includes your in laws, me, hahaha I already did and so far I am thankful we can understand each other, and they already know me so well.. Have a great day guys and happy mylotting...

What an experience!!!,, see now we know there are all kinds of people,, My thought is that the couple should sit down and sort it out,,there should be no interference,, as u say the wife is part of her mother,,then again the husband might say he has more rights over her,,,,,wish them Best anyway,,,,,,the other choice is ,, no FIGHT ,but FLIGHT

Hi. I dont think is fair leaving his matrimonial home. I know blood is thicker than water..but i think there is not much love there for his wife. As we all know, true love is worth fighting for, whatever it takes, for good and bad husband and wife should stay together and support one another 101%. In-laws are always part of the family but they are in outside, ur family always comes first.

i have many issues with my in-laws but i was raised up with the thinking that ones in-laws shouldbe considered as ones own inspite of the differences.i know it is easy to preach but if one strives to acheive peace,then lowly things will become better.

The saying "blood is thicker than water" is a bunch of bullsh!t because there have been a number of people who've come into my life and left with a few exceptions and they're the ones I consider my family because they stuck by me through thick and thin. However, they're no relation to me what so ever except to be considered family by choice, MY choice. And like my husband has said in the past, he didn't marry my family no more than I married his family. We married each other and no one else so we're tied to each other, not the members of my family or his no matter what the circumstances are. So therefore, blood is thicker than water but that doesn't mean they're better than others we call family.

good thing i have great in-laws. they love their sons and daughters in law. and i am proud of it. with the situation you have given, i don't think i could continue living with them. if they want me out, so be it. only if there is a physical contact or abuse, that is the only way we can get even with them, according to the rule of law.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I do not know, if it is coincidence in our thoughts. But it was only yesterday, when we both were invited by our younger DIL's mother at her residence in same city ofr some social gathering. My younger son had married with our consent and full blessings some seven yrs back. So a s routine, my hubby asked a question to DIL's mother, if they were satisfied with our dealing with their daughter, or She expected anything from us. Both families are different in culture. As per our land laws, minimum of seven yrs should lapse after marriege, when bridegroom's family could not be blamed in case DIL suffers. So what I think, no clapping can be done with one hand. In your case, daughter should remain with her spouse as her mother has to depart first. A good mother would not like to spoilm relations of her daughter with her husband. May god bless You and have a great time.

yes... i don't think that there's really something wrong with it. with your friend's problem, i think he should confront her wife's mother and if it wouldn't be resolved by proper conversation then just leave her alone... she won't contribute something good in the husband and wife's relationship... :)

Yes, I consider them as part of the family but it will always have some limitation.

I am going through this situation. I hate my in-laws.They are childish and greed. They is ruining my marriage. I really see no hope of a reconciliation too. I think my husband always side them. Now the relationship is tension more and more. My husband and I have no said a word for one month. My poor daughter is worried about us.She is afraid that we divorce.She always ingratiate herselp with us so that we don't leave her. So I hate my in-laws very much,very much!

I would respect my in-laws to a great degree..even if i don't get along with them. I feel like they are my family regardless of whether i like them or not and yes I would still address them with respect. However, this doesn't mean I have to see them all the time and I would make it very clear to my wife that i wouldn't want to be around them too often. Of course i would do all i could to avoid tricky situations like that and try to be in their good shoes as much as i can.. and if all fails. I would avoid yet still treat them with decent respect so that at least they know that although I might be different to what they expected at least I show decent manners and respect as a person..

In most cultures and societies people understand that a man and women when married make up a new family. However this does not preclude them from honoring or caring for elderly parents when the time comes. Remember those same parents raised, nourished, fed, encouraged and cared for the sons and daughters they bore. They stood by them, loved them, helped them and defended them. The bible for those who believe in God and Christian behavior tells us in the 5th commandment to Honor our mother and father that your days may be long upon the earth. Exodus 20:12 Deut 5:16 These laws commandments were not just given to Moses and the Israelites they were given to all of mankind. Chirst summed them up in the two great commandments which did not take from or change the original 10 it only enhanced them because he condensed them into to primary commandments Matt; 22:37 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind. Vs 38; this is the first and great commandment, Vs39 the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. vs 40: On these two commandments hang all the law and prophets. Christ did not do away with the 10 commandments he merely condensed them as an outline. Romans 13: 9-10; Ephesians 5:31 A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. This means he leaves his parental home to make his own home with his wife and children. Eph 6: 2 Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment with promise and vs 4 Fathers ( this also applies to mothers) do not provoke your children to wrath) I Timothy 5:4, If any widow has children or grandchildren let them learn to show compassion and repay thier parents for this is good and acceptable before God. So the bible shows yes adult married children should care for and provide for parents who are elderly and alone or widowed or divorced. However the parent to has to consider the son or daughter have an equal responsibility to their husband and or wife and children. The best is to sit and discuss what can be done and how not fight and bicker. This persons mother has no right to demand he/she leave his/her spouse and care for her. However the he/she does have some responsibility to care for mother as well but within reason what is going to work for everyone without financial burdens or other problems. He/she first has to stay with his spouse,/her to let no person come between him/her and the spouse. Mom needs to realize her son/daughter does have responsibility to care for her in her old age but it does not mean he/she leaves their spouse and children. If he/she can make a place in his home for her that would work that is one solution or move mom closer to where they live. If he/she has siblings they too should pitch in with solutions to help. There is usually a solution that is compromisable for all.

Yes. some of them but not all of them. I claim some of them as my in-laws because they are good people. there are some of them, I do not even claim though because they are nothing like the family I have. There is corruption and I want no part of it.

Sad to say, this happens in quite a number of families; where the mother (and/or father) would tell the son that his wife is not good for him, or not taking care of the kids properly and so on, thus creating a lot of unhappiness between the couple. It is really bad, if the man is forced to take sides - mother or wife. Why can't mothers/parents be happy that their son and grandchildren are taken care of? A mother should be happy that her son (or daughter) has a good marriage, with a loving spouse and happy children. Or is it because the mother feels that no one could take care of her son/daughter as well as she does?

No he should absolutely not leave his marriage because a man should consider his wife his first priority or he should not be married at all. I am sorry but personally I do not feel any responsibility to take care of my parents when they are old. It could be because I do not have a good relationship with them but just like in-laws you cannot choose your parents and if they give you a hard time growing up why should you be obliged to put up with them later in life; you need to free yourself sometime! My ex’s mother gave me a very difficult time when she decided I was not good enough for her precious son who never, ever did anything to defend or help me in regards to his nasty mother. You are right there is no rule that you like your in-laws or that they should like you and that is fine, you should not have to spend too much time with them and your spouse should put you first always; if he is unable to do that he should return to his mother because he is not ready for marriage.

First of all the wife should have some brains to overcome this kinda situation.Its her hubby who would take care of her as long as they are together.She should manage herself from taking care to her mom as well as loving her hubby.She cant leave either of the two.So in my thinking she should really manage both sides equally well for her ownself to leave in peace. I have no problems with my in laws as mine is the final word & they agree for that.So no issues.

Yes, we have too in order to prevent fights and arguments. my mom has always been good with dealing in-laws most specially if there are conflicts involving with the in-law wife and my brothers. am glad she's not selfish either, they used to recent or hate her but in the end they realize how lucky they are to have her as Mother-In-Law.