If your family tell you that your love relation is not good for you..

I have been in this situation too. My parents did not like the first man I married. But they didn't tell me why and I was rebellious at the time so I didn't listen and married him anyway. we divorced less than five years later. Now I am married to a much better man and still do not get along with my ex. But now I am older and more mature. Now, I might listen to them or at least ask why they don't approve and what makes someone else better. And I would not turn away from them, we can still love each other even though we don't agree on something.

It depends really. Most of the time, whoever we find and want to spend our lives with is rarely 'good enough' in the eyes of our families, and at that time we have to think sensibly ourselves and follow our hearts. Other times, the family may be right and be wanting what is best for you. We all have our own minds at the end of the day and should be mature enough to decide what is the right thing to do.

my family have tried to tell me when a guy was not good for me and I wouldn't listen to them. Part of me regrets not listening to them, but we all learn from our mistakes. Now I try to take into consideration what they say, but in reality it is up to me who I date.

hello icesmile.Well my teachers always told to me that our elders have seen more rainfalls than we have done.They know when its going to flood.Our parents wont deny us if we marrying a perfect person, but if they think we are wrong somewhere then they will surely object our decisions.And i have seen live examples of such things in my life including my own life, i agree that i have made wrong and worst decisions of my life but my parents have always been there to make me walk on a right path.thanks to them :)

it has happened to me and i didnt listen. how i wish i did but its over now and finished. its when i realized that family will always be there for you when you find that you made a mistake and will always be behind you when you want to stand again. am lucky i have this family. ann

you decide who you love, think for yourself, you are your own person.

I don't need to listen to them on this one, because I know exactly what I am doing. We treateachother with respect, there is no abuse, rarely any fighting, and we have a totally equal relationship. The only objection any of them had was the age difference, and they got over that in a hurry.

It's really tough to be stuck in that situation. I have been there. I think that when it comes down to it, your family can't decide who you are suppose to be with. if I was happy in my relationship, then I wouldn't listen to them. I would stay with the person I am with, because this is my life and I need to make my own decisions for myself. I don't want people living my life for me, then I wouldn't ever be happy. however, if this person was abusive, and it was a bad relationship like that, then I would be grateful for family stepping in. not in a nosey way, but a helpful loving way.

I think everybody should know your parents preferences before getting into love. That way you don't have to disappoint your parents once you start loving a person. I think it is bad to make your parents sad because of your love because your parents will have dreams about you. Please understand them also. I won't love anybody whom my parents won't like.

I met my husband when i was 14, my family did not like him at all, and did what they could to keep us apart. but they did not, and now 8 children, and 11 grandchildren later we are still together, and my family have changed their mind about him. If i had given up on my heart, I would have missed out on being with the man of my dreams. I am so glad that i did not listen to them.

Hi icesmile! To be honest with you, I have experienced that kind of situation wherein my family doesn't like my boyfriend for me. You know what, it is really very hard to be not totally attached to the person whom you really love for 3years and have another relationship. When my mom told me to cut our relationship, it was really hard for us (my boyfriend and I), there were tearful nights, there were days that we would secretly see each other. At first, I was not able to see the reason why they need to tore us apart, that what was wrong with him that he is not accepted with our family. But later on, I have realized that they are correct and that I was just blinded with the reality because my love for him was great, BUT, it was still hard for me to let go. Even today, there are times I would really be missing him so badly and there are still instances that we would see each other. I would say, I have not really moved on. Maybe the right time will come that a new guy will come in to my life and my family would accept him.

Well for me I am in a similar situation where my Parents and Family members does not like my fiance, but for me I don't care it's all about us and not them. You must choose for yourself. It has been seven years and they still don't appreciate it, but I don't care. I am getting married within the next four months and am not telling anyone, because they are not with us. So please tell your friends not to listen to his/her family because it's not about them.

A lot has been said about love. Whether or not its right or wrong it doesn't matter because love is never about what is right and what is wrong in the first place. You cannot choose who you'll fall in love with that's why "love is blind" as the cliche goes.When a family member or the family itself is against the one you love, you cannot just agree or disagree. Its just a matter of communication, an open mind and heart, you have to weigh things if whether or not fighting or letting go is worth it. At the end of the day, it is your decision to make.

then i would try to convince my family and i think they wil agree i wont leave my love nor wil i leave my family

Finding a true love is hard now a days.So,if the family is insisting to leave it,then they should give valid reasons.If it comes to be the character of the partner,then I have to inquire and found out the genuineness of the complaint.If it is money oriented,say,'you can get a rich girl',then I am against it.We should not allow money to spoil any relationship.We can earn money but not true love.Cheers!

hhhhmmmmm ya this happened with me & i lost my love

I think this is a hard question. I also suffer from this problem. I have a boyfriend now, but my parents seem not like him very much, and they ask me to stay away from him. However, I love him very much. So I am really confused about this.

the first time is i want to hear why my family not accept my boy friend, if that make me a good reason, so i will not make this relationship is seriously, and convince my family, this relationship just having fun. i just want to have seriously relationship with my parents blessing.

Good topic. I had been in this situation. Finally I protected my love. I was married with my husband though my parents said the love relation was not good for me. At that time I didn't think my love substituted.But now I change my mind. The reality and the time change the all. So I suggest my friends that you had best to consider what your parents say when you make the important decision in your life.

ok i just want to tell u my opinion.. umm.. we have some problem if u really complicated with this matter... but all we need to do is find out why they have to manage our life to find a right couple for us? and then why dont we try to ask our couple to prove that they are the best for us? prove them to our family.. i have situation that my girlfriend is moslem but i am christian so its going to be hard to ask permission to her parent to make a wedding day approved. this is my life and i will go anything which is good for me.. thanks .. good luck =)