Is It Wrong to be Jealous When Your Parents Love One of Your Sibblings More?

Your parents suffer from the disease called "favoritism" alright. I think every family experience this even in our home. I am the third one out of five siblings so i also endure the pain of being the middle child *middle-child syndrome* Being the middle child has its own advantage and disadvantages. For me, the advantage would be less pressure if i did not do well in my class unlike my achiever sisters. Second advantage would be less attention when committing a mistake and last but not the least, being able to be "invisible" once in a while. The disadvantage are also numerous. To name some, sometimes my works are not having the same consideration as my sister's works. Just like what you have mentioned about not being able to be asked "what's the problem"*due to invisibility*. It is not bad at all to feel jealous cause emotions are state of mind. All you have to do is to embrace the bright side of life by focusing on the advantages your experiencing. My eldest sister is the favorite too. Even tough she comes home late *almost mid-morning*, my parents still listens to her and accepts her wholeheartedly. I think your parents are not that concerned about you is because they have strong faith on what you can do and can tolerate minimal supervision unlike your sister. I might not be correct but hey! You can think of this as the reason to ease the pain you feel inside.

NO! Parents love should be equal and unconditional. Then again like you I feel my brother gets favouritised more. It could just be a figment of my imagination. Lets take an example though. Ok I win a $200 scholarship for sport, do greaet in my end of year exams and get a musical excellence award all in the space of a few weeks. My brother gets a class award which one person in every class gets and my parents suddenly say "lets go celebrate james's success" that felt crummy. Good luck winning on the favouritism fellow under loved one.

hello archie or archana, if i am not mistaken, it is natural for you to feel left out when your parents adore your younger siblings and this has been going on for ages. Very rarely will you find parents loving all their children equally and being non- partisan. However don`t feel too bad about it,just take it in your stride. when you were young i am sure your parents must have loved you too but this happens with every generation. This is not to say that your parents don`t love you, they must be loving you and if someting should happen to you, incase you fall sick they will be extremely concerned for you. So keep you chin up and don`t pay much attention to it. Instead of being jealous shower your love on your siblings and be happy.You are a good girl and i am sure you will get over these feelings soon.lol.

I'm very sorry Archie that your parents are not paying as much attention to you and that you are being left out. Maybe you could try to talk with them and tell them how your feel. Can you have a counselar confront them with you or you could talk to a counselar yourself. I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do. Yes, you are ok about being jealous; I don't think this is something you can help. I hope things get better for you. I hope you have good friends you can lean on about this.

By being jealous, aren't you the one being hurt???? Let's turn this around. Give unconditional love to your parents and brother and sister.When you see them,give gifts. It doesn't have to be anything big.Something personal is better yet. Let them all feel your love!!!! Spread the hugs around!! The love you give will return to you.If you think your sister gets more love, be happy for her. She probably needs it more.If it is really true, that doesn't make you less a person or less needed in the big picture of things. You will always be special all on your own!!!!

Do not sad.Both parents lovetheir children.They are more concerned about your sister.Perhaps it is because of her age is really small,or need help.Because you are the eldest son of the family.Than his brother.Older sister.Has been the adult.Do not need to worry about their parents too.You should help parents to take care love your brother.Sister,Think about the mentality of the balance.Understanding your parents.

It's a natural thing to be jealous of situations like that... don't feel bad! :) Honestly I think it may be because if you are the oldest, you have more responsibilities and may be able to tend to yourself more in their eyes. My niece lives with me and they treat her like she's my little sister. Even when I was younger and we're only 4 years a part. Whenever I'd ask for something they would ignore me or say no or expect me to do it on my own. I think in certain cases it could be a type of favoritism but in this case I think it may have to do with with being the eldest. Being older in the household seems to make people expect more from you.

Hey there...What I feel is there is nothing that your parents have a partial love on you and a full fledged love towards your sister.I guess your sister needs much more care and attention.May be she has some health problems that your parents do not want to let it out.And they feel that you are grownup and they have got enough confidence in you that you can handle yourself without any support.Remember one thing,you feel this indifference of love because you don't know how much care your parents have taken when were sick at your childhood.Its the same care that they are sharing with your sister now.The thing is you are taking this in a negative manner.Try to be an optimist then you will feel the difference.

I don't feel its wrong. I felt like my parents love my big brother more by their actions and how they treat me. It is understandable to feel a little jealous but as long as you don't hate your sibling then their is nothing wrong. The very fact that you are alive and well proves that you're parents loved you enough to raise you. If you can maybe you should talk to them about it if they don't feel that you are overstepping your ground. I spoke to my parents and I noticed a huge change in how they treat me and my big brother.

If your parents show more love to your siblings than they do to you it´s natural to be hurt. And with hurt comes along jealousy. It´s normal that you want the same. You are not bad. You are responding acording to how your parents are treating you. Relax and seek love elsewhere. Good friends can become part of your family. Take care.

It is human nature to have a favorite in the family, but I believe that parents should not show this to their children no matter what. They should treat all of their children equally simply because all those children are their children. There is also a risk of psychological problem for those children who are not favorites. The parents may not realize it, but having favorites could leave some of their children emotionally wounded for their whole life.

I think it is human nature to be jealous when your parents love one of your sibblings more than you. We all want love, we all need love, and we will be happy if others love us. But sometimes love is hard to say and hard to measure and compare.

i think it's normal to feel that way...i grew up very independent that's why my mom attends to my other sister more than she does to me i felt so bad through the years thinking she loves me less but I only realized everything when I became a mom myself... we could never have favourites... we just have to be there for all of them, and more, if they need us most

Oh wow!!! Do I completely understand where you are coming from with that one. I to am the oldest. I have 2 younger brothers & 1 younger sister. My mother especially has always shown more favoritism to my younger siblings than she has to me. I have always suffered from a bit of jealousy myself and always thought that it was bad of me but as I have gotten older I still feel the same way and cannot get passed it. I have brought it to my mothers attention and of course she denies it so I finally gave up on it. So, you are not the only one.

I feel it will be natural for you to feel jealous because you will feel left out. and i think a parentshould show equal love among their children. becauseits not fair to the child.

I think that it's very natural and human to feel jealousy in your situation. Just think, though, that your parents may not love you any the less: it may be that, in their perception, your sister needs more care and protection than you do. It is impossible to say why this is ... it may be because you have already made your acceptance of someone or something else as your carer. Even though you think that your mother and father don't know about this, you don't, perhaps, know what their relationship with that person is, either. Be humble, be accepting and, above all, love and trust what is in your heart. It will guide and teach you how to love and not to be jealous.

hi I think thats only normal when you feel your folks favor one of your siblings more, and they should try not to do that,it really hurts. my younger sister was retarded and often I felt like the second fiddle. I loved her of course but sometimes I talked to my parents And they were so busy with her they didnt hear me. I know now that they loved me too but were so concerned about her and they just thought I was okAy so dont bother with me right then.Parents should really try harder to make all their children feel special. I hAd one day when I and my little son would do speciAl things, ANd another day I would take my youngest my daughter and we had our special day.daddy of course baby sat so we could do this. I had always wished my pArents would have thought of that, as it really helps.

Hi, Archie. It is not your wrong. As you said, we are human, and we have feelings, sometimes we just cannot help feeling so! I do think parents play an important role in education. The education here is not only about the studies, but every aspects. I think the parents should treat every kids fairly. It seems parents always treat the youngest the best and that makes the elders feel left out. When i was small, my parents, especially my mother always put pressures on me to have good results, even i have already got distinction, but she was still not satisfied, she beat me all the time for this. But she seldom scold or beat my younger brother because of his poor results! How unfair it was! Sure i was damn jealous my brother could have so much concern from my mom. When i grew up, i asked my mom why she treated me like that, she said she had difficult life and stressed, and she knew that i could make it better, so she did that to me! I think, when we cannot change the things, then we must always keep this in our mind and tell ourselves do not do this to our children. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

it is wrong to be jealous but it is also natural to be jealous if your parents love one of your siblings more. as i see it, if the parents do have a favorite one, it is their fault to lavish more attention on that child and not on the others as well. it is really hard to ask your parents why they favor your brother or your sister because you know their answer would be defensive and your questioning might be construed as something you harbor against them. however, if this goes on for sometime, especially if it reaches the teenage years, this favoritism will be difficult to reverse and relationships among the siblings will deteriorate. there is also a major downside to the one who is the favorite... chances are, he/she will be maladjusted to the outside world. i know that from experience. i was the favorite.

Your parents suffer from the disease called "favoritism" alright. I think every family experience this even in our home. I am the third one out of five siblings so i also endure the pain of being the middle child *middle-child syndrome* Being the middle child has its own advantage and disadvantages. For me, the advantage would be less pressure if i did not do well in my class unlike my achiever sisters. Second advantage would be less attention when committing a mistake and last but not the least, being able to be "invisible" once in a while. The disadvantage are also numerous. To name some, sometimes my works are not having the same consideration as my sister's works. Just like what you have mentioned about not being able to be asked "what's the problem"*due to invisibility*. It is not bad at all to feel jealous cause emotions are state of mind. All you have to do is to embrace the bright side of life by focusing on the advantages your experiencing. My eldest sister is the favorite too. Even tough she comes home late *almost mid-morning*, my parents still listens to her and accepts her wholeheartedly. I think your parents are not that concerned about you is because they have strong faith on what you can do and can tolerate minimal supervision unlike your sister. I might not be correct but hey! You can think of this as the reason to ease the pain you feel inside.