litle son awakes every night
By Bootsy79
@Bootsy79 (45)
Germany
August 13, 2009 2:52am CST
Hi guys and girl
My wife and me have a little son. He is 3 years old by now. Since we moved to another city he is awake every night. He screams like a mad one. If we ask him what is going on, he answers things like, i am so sad or, i am frightning. But if we ask him about what he is frightning he don`t know. We don`t know it too. Sometimes he screams as long as we keep him into our bed. What can we do? I really want to help him but i don`t know how. Do you have any idea? Thanks for answering.
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13 responses
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
When you moved in your house did you have it blessed? For some reason same thing happened to my cousin before and when they have their house be blessed my cousin stopped having some night mares and since then she's having a good sleep every night.
Or in other explanation maybe your 3 year old son is still not used to your new home,maybe he's still wadering about it. And maybe he's sad because he misses you old house and the friends he have there.
Just always keep an eye on your son and my advice is to never live him alone every night because he might have any nightmares anytime.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
Oh yeah I think that telling him good and happy bed time stories before he sleeps will help him get rid of the scary dreams his having. Sleeping besie him will also help because he knows his safe beside his parents even when he's sleeping.
I hope your son gets better,he's too young and really needs good continuous sleep at night.
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
Oh yeah I think that telling him good and happy bed time stories before he sleeps will help him get rid of the scary dreams his having. Sleeping beside him will also help because he knows his safe beside his parents even when he's sleeping.
I hope your son gets better,he's too young and really needs good continuous sleep at night.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Hello,
I always watch Haunting on Discovery Channel and this might make me think silly, but let try it.
Try to video tap in your baby's room. Have you note anything weird is going on in your new home? Or in day time, you son is talking to someone but you don't see that person? you know talking to himself?
Or buy some candy and put those in his room... sometimes, there are some invisible people, that we called ghosts love to play with your son. But he scare of them
Another thing, he might need you to be close to him... try to bring him to your room and let him sleep. Whenever he falls a sleep, then you can take him back to his room.
My children still sleep with me(one is 4 years old and one is 17 months)... my husband is on the floor. We have 3 bed rooms but my children are still want to sleep with me. so I give them all the comfort as much as I can...
hope u find resolve
@AngryKittyMSV (4317)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I've been through this with my own kids, it sounds like your son has "night terrors" which are actually harmless, even though it is very scary for parents to witness. My daughter had them for a bout a year, she'd wake up screaming and crying and was completely inconsolable, it seemed she wasn't even aware that we were holding her! It was so bad one night that about 20 minutes into her screaming I called the emergency nurse who told me about night terrors and ease my fears. I was advised to find something to distract her, like a toy or anything that would catch her attention and break the cycle. What I ended up doing when nothing else worked was I'd strap her into her carseat and just drive around the neighborhood until she either calmed down or went back to sleep. With today's gas prices, I don't recommend that though. LOL
Now my son has them sometimes and I just try to get his attention onto something else with either a toy or some crayons or take him outside for a moment to get some air. Thankfully, his night terrors aren't as bad as my little girl's were. They DO eventually grow out of it.
Here is some more information about night terrors that may be helpful to you:
http://pediatrics.about.com/cs/sleep/a/night_terrors.htm
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Aug 09
My best guess would be that your son just isn't used to the new place that you are living now. My little boy is 2.5 years old and we moved a few months ago, and now he doesn't want to take naps during the day because he tells us "I wake up at night." We don't have any proof that he does actually wake up because we've never heard him, but I really think him saying that is due to adjustment into our new place of living.
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@merlinsorca (1118)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I've read somewhere that there are things called night terrors that are like nightmares except... You don't remember why you're so scared. I've read that you don't have the dream of something scary, rather you just wake up feeling scared for no reason. Since it's usually caused by being overtired, you should ensure that your child gets to sleep early.
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@longdoreen (5)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Hi
I have 3 children 9,16,18 and they made it. The best thing I can think of kids have to adjust to their new surroundings. Find things that he likes that surrounds him. My kids when they were little. I use to tire them out outside. It's something about that night air.
Then it was times when they were scared to sleep in their room. I did one of two things. 1. I would give them a bath in camomile( it calms and relaxes them) and then let them sleep in my bed until they went to sleep. I tarted slowly-I moved them out of my bed to a smaller bed that I had my husband put up next to ours. Then once I got them ajusted to that then once they went to sleep i would move them into their room. Granted they woke up. But i would sit up and hold them in a rocking chair and put a blanket that I slept with so they could still smell your scent.( trust me a kid knows)
2. Do all of number 1 and make sure your kid is full before he goes to sleep. Even if you have to eat with him.
You may be tired but you will get through it- I did. Good luck.
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@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
13 Aug 09
The poor little guy is probably just confused, about his new environment.
I highly doubt he has a spirit visiting him .For if he did it would not be a bad one,it would be of comfort.Keep trying to talk to him about it, maybe during times when he is at ease.He will settle in soon enough,he is missing his old home at this age they know nothing else ,when we decide to relocate. Getting to the bottom of his fears or sadness may take a lot of patience and time. If you could somehow make a game of questions and answers and add that in at some point ? .
Just make sure its during the day ,when you are fishing, for your answers. If it has been more than a year that your living in your new place ,it could be a bit more serious ! Be sure no one has touched or hurt your son first off. Be sure to listen to everything he says he may let it out without you even realizing . I would hate to see your son go to a doctor at 3 for this ,unless he has been harmed by another adult in some way you are not aware of. Until you can get to the bottom of it ,just keep reassuring him he is safe , that mommy and daddy love him. Soon enough he will open up ,as he may feel a bit betrayed by you two at this time ,with this change . Listen ,Love and Laugh as much as you can, so he does know he can trust you as he always has Then he will come to you with his problems.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
13 Aug 09
sorry to hear your having trouble with your son.
ok this may sound far fetched, but i'm a believer in the other side and spirits. you may have seen shows on discovery, about people who go ghost hunting/spirits what ever you want to call them. there could be a spirit around that is waking him up and he can't explain it cause he's so young, it may be a good spirit but it's scary when your so young. i'd suggest finding a good psychic that can help you find out if there is anything around and get the spirits to leave for you. then smudge the house to cleanse it.
hope this is of some help especially if there is no medical reason why your having trouble.
best of luck.
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I to believe in spirits also but ,I think in light of the circumstances you, are wrong to say this. I use to have a grandmother type spirit visit me every night when young.
She would read me a bed time story then fade away. We all know kids are more in tune with the spirits but this boy has just had his little world turned around and most likely does not understand.If it was a spirit scaring him ,it would also be trying to intimidate or scare the parents ,because of its disturbing nature.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Hello,
I agree with you... cuz when I moved to my new home. my daughter was so scare and she never wanted to be alone. sometimes she screamed in my room. I went in and found her shaking. I asked and she told me that she scared. I thought it was just new thing to her but a few night later... I saw some mist ran pass through the hall way. then I asked my neighbor if they know anything about my house. then they told me that an old man was dying in my house (old and sick)... at first, I was so scare and then I didn't want any psychic comes over, so I did some traditional thing that my grandma used to tell me. And I also said, "that I just bought this house and put a lot of money in it and want to live here with no harm. If you also live here, please let us also to clean and protect the home for you. and if something that you want to let us know please give us a dream with detail."
I believe in this so much cuz my several dream that I had are true and he just let me know something will happen and what I have to do. When I have my second daughter... I can't sleep in my other room cuz the kid was staying up all night... so I switched and she slept all night...
Thing work good for us now and I dont want to miss this up at all.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
14 Aug 09
my partner's nanna showed up one night, he saw her coming out of our son's room. when he was only months old, never been able to explain it but we know she's around. good to know who's looking after us, it may be just something simple. like changing of rooms as suggested.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Aug 09
hi bootsy that is rough but I think perhaps its the strange
new city and new apartment or house. Hes only three so he probably doesnt have the words to really say, this is all so strange and it scares me daddy,I want my old room back. I sort of think he is
sad at not being in the old familar belongings, just imagine if you moved and disliked where you were or were frightened by it and you didnt know how to tell your parents, you would probably cry to as he just doesnt have enought words yet to really tell you, and as
young as he is he probably doesnt know just what is bothering him,jus that its all new and scaryto him. talk gently to him, make sure he knows you love him , and once asleep tuck him back in hie bed in time he will come to adjust but right now its all so new an sort of scary I think.
@MissAmie (717)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I agree that it's just because of living in a new place and having different surroundings. This same kind of thing happened to me as a child. My parents divorced and my mom and I moved to a new house with my step dad when I was in 4th grade. I absolutely hated it. I cried every night...and keep in mind, I was 10 years old!
To be honest, I never really felt comfortable in that house and don't to this day. I was very happy to get married and move into a place of my own even though it was tiny.
@Archie0 (5652)
•
13 Aug 09
Hey hi bootsy79
I think your son just does not like the new place.
children have this habit of getting used to the new place a bit late.why dont you try some new things yourself which will make your son go to bed properly at time.
I think you should buy him some good story books or picture book with lots of colour effects.
Or try to give him some warm milk adding some honey, few drops of almond oil[pure], turmeric a pinch and try to give him, he will get a peacefull sleep.
dont worry he will soon be used to the new schedule.
@abhaykrovidi (16)
• India
14 Aug 09
hey,
cant say exactly wht is his problem.but can say its surely because of change of place.but when we take his screaming and frightening , i suggest you to change your house to some other new house, may be he dnt like or feeling ny negetive waves in this house.or change your place of sleeping and see , can he adjust for that.and keep lovely cool music when he abt to sleep.or tell him some stories to change his mood.hope you get solution for your problem soon.
radhika
@levymartinez (30)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
I think you should teach your child to pray before going to sleep. I don't really believe in spirits although at the back of my mind I know they exist. Somebody must have a very strong faith to God to overcome fears and any problems. If you will teach your son that God is strong enough to fight evil spirits just by praying I think he can go to sleep well at night.
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