Do you dislike hearing about others people happiness? does it make you jealous?

United States
August 13, 2009 4:17pm CST
so does it make you jealous when you hear about people good fortune? because i personally have a best friend who is just prefect! she has prefect teeth hair clothes everything i want. and everyone thinks i'm jealous of my other friend because shes popular and has alot of friends and is funny. but thats not the case i'm jealous of my other friend who made like 7 after school activites!! i feel like she no longer has time for me. shes also funny but not too funny and she has a little more friends than me. i'm preppy and not everyone likes that. so anyway i just dislike hearing all the good in her life. like she just told me today she tried out and made the volleyball and dance team! and i'm little jealous of that because everything she sets out to do she makes it she does it and she better than me in everything! like i get straight a's and one b she gets all a's its like that all the time its annoying i feel like i can't take it anymore sometimes. i should be happy for her. but its hard to be when your green about that person.
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• Hong Kong
14 Aug 09
Being with perfect people is a really really hard job. They like showing off their stuffs something. I got a friend. She is rich, has good body shape, has fashion sense and guys like her. She always tell me that what she bought, where she went and what she saw. I think she is nearly perfect. But I have learnt not to compare with others. I think I should be happy that I am me. If I am not me then I wont have my family. These are the things that only I can do. So dont think how good is her. Just think you are a girl too. You dont have to be her. Just be yourself. And that last thing I wanna say is~~ Happy mylotting^_^
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@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hmmm, just be yourself. Start by find out what you want, and move toward your goal. Don't bother about other thing. Appreciate who you are and then you will be content. Once i also like that, but don't let it ruin you. let it inspire you to be what you want. She might be better in everything, but you are who you are. You cannot let her or anybody else define who you are. Today I read about an a man that I always like, and I read he already own a successful business and I look at myself. Not a match. So i decided to do something about it and work hard toward my goal, toward what I want to get. Good Luck to you
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• Romania
18 Aug 09
Hearing about others' achievements makes me a little envious, but in a good way, because I get the motivation to follow my own goals and be successful in everything I do. I'm sure you're better than her at other things and instead of being envious you should focus more on the activities and subjects you enjoy.
• United Kingdom
13 Aug 09
No, I'm not jealous of other people's happiness, I tend to create my own happiness I think that this is the best thing to do. Everyone is at a different level in life. We each have to decide what makes us happy and keep on aiming towards that. You say you have a best friend that is perfect and I'm thinking that there must be something about your best friend that is not so perfect and she's probably not telling you what that is! There's always a tendency to be jealous of someone you think may be doing better than you in life but that's just a misconception I think. I'm sure that this person has many imperfections of their own. Andrew
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• United States
15 Aug 09
Oh wow! You seem like a really good friend with a pure heart! My friend gets a bunch of A's in her classes too! I convince myself that it is because we have differnet classes and mine are harder, but I know deep down that she is just really hard working and dedicated to school, whereas I am a slackers who gets by with mostly A's and a few B's.............
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
25 Aug 09
I guess no bodies perfect in this world... Possessing almost anything we want perhaps doesn't always makes us as a perfect person in life than others... I think your best friend was nothing more than a lucky person but i doubt that she always get whats her wants...
• Pakistan
14 Aug 09
No.. I dont feel any jealousy with happy people... but I like to see Happiness around me... I wish All peoples will be happy forever...
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 09
justbeingtiffany although jealousy is all too human,no I dont feel jealous when I hear of other peoples happiness.It gives me a happy feeling for them. why should I mind? But in your case I would get sick of Miss perfect too As she is actually gloating over telling you of all her Achievements as if to say look you are such a loser compared to me, I 'am little Miss Perfect.
• India
14 Aug 09
Hey, its human to be jealous! Whatever she sets out to do , she makes it...so find out what she is doing right.....Its great to be in the company of successful people- you can learn a lot from them. Though she does things better than you, that does not make you inferior. You are as good as her. Good luck.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
I love to hear about other people happiness. It does make me jealous but in a good way. It motivates me so I work harder and live better (even the people that I am jealous with doesn't work as hard as I do~~~) I often becomes jealous of my younger sister. She's landed with a permanent job as soon as she graduated and married a few months later. It make me want to do better in my job and life too.
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
I actually dislike hearing about another person's success.but,later,I see no point in being jealous.s/he got his/her fair share in life earlier than me.I just tell myself,my time will come.jealousy is part of human nature.it's inevitable and unavoidable.
• United States
13 Aug 09
Perfect people are annoying...but generally I love to see people being happy, hearing their accomplishments and offering encouragement.
@vandana7 (100638)
• India
15 Aug 09
U want honest answer? Well, if it is somebody who is not as well off as me, who has suddenly become happy - I feel, well I have one person less to be bothered about. And when it is somebody who is higher up getting still better, I think well, I can ask them a favor if I need, and this may not seem much to them now. I only feel jealous when somebody who is in the same stage as me, or has been my competitor goes ahead. U wanted honest answer, u got one.
@MizFel (89)
• Nigeria
14 Aug 09
I ve been in that situation but its not like its gonna change things trying to hate a friend. it would keep hunting you if you think about it more and more. its not gonna affect her cos she has no idea how u feel.:) my dear, i think the problem here is that you pay more attention to other people's good sides and yourself the least. And am sure u can't possibly say that you dont have anything good to say about yourself. Common if try writing out a list of the things you love about yourself. And write down what you hate about yourself. Trust me the goods would be more. The best thing people like about others is cos they love themselves and are proud of the way they are dat wat makes one perfect. Just try to do you very best to the fullest and dont let the words of your friends pull you down!