Would you attend a gay wedding?

No I would not simply coz I am not reconciled to the idea of gay marriage. I think a lot of noise is being made about gay rights and marriages and the reluctance of the general people to ‘accept’ them. My point is that if so much noise is made about accepting the freedom of gays to express their opinion, I too have my own rights to express my own opinion that I don’t like gays…I don’t find them normal. According to me that should not create a problem though…there are many groups of people the world over who are not normal in some way or the other…that does not mean that they don’t have the right to exist, it simply means that I do not approve of their personal choices and I too have my own rights to express my personal choice in the matter. In case of friends, well as I said, my personal choice would not approve of what they do behind closed doors but at least I would not let that affect the friendship and I would expect the same courtesy from my friend. He should respect my choice to stay away from his wedding (otherwise I would be a hypocrite) just as I respect his choice in his personal matters.

I'm gay so yes I would attend a gay wedding and I hope to have one myself. With that being said, I think it's very sad whenever I hear people say, I love them, they're so great, I just think their 'lifestyle' is repulsive. Firstly, we have no 'lifestyle'. Our 'lifestyle' is like everyone elses, we're just gay. We do the same things, fear the same things, get sick, bleed, die, pay bills, get screwed by the government, etc, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. So stop going on and on about this supposed 'lifestyle' that I always hear about. You know where those ideas came from? The government and right wing nut jobs that are trying to make sure people like YOU vote against bills that protect our lives considering you guys have all the rights and priviledges anyway. Secondly, how the heck can you be friends with someone and be 'repulsed' by their lifestyle. If I were your friend I would have dropped you a long time ago. I wouldn't put up with someone that couldn't be supportive of me completely and you sure aren't. So don't complain about them telling you to chose him or your beliefs. They're tired of not being able to share a part of their life with you that is important to them. They're tired of you being grossed out and I'm sure you make comments about it all the time especially in light of the wedding. I don't run around screaming about how I'm repulsed by 'straight people' because you know if I did, I'd get heck for it but you know, it's quite alright for the straight people to, cause you know you're normal. So, my advice, get over it or lose a friend. Personally I'm voting for your friend to wisen up. We don't need people like you in our lives.

Obviously if you attend his wedding, it would be like admitting that the 'gay' lifestyle is a legitimate lifestyle that you approve of. So I would never attend a 'gay' wedding since I do not want people to assume that I believe that same gender marriages are right. And by him wanting you to give up your Christianity to satisfy him means that he thinks he knows better then God. It also shows that he really is not a friend of yours, but just pretended to be. He wanted you to approve of his homosexual way of living. I bet that if you attend his wedding, when someone says "I thought that =-===(you) did not approve of the gay life style," he will say, "Of course, she does, she attended my wedding, didn't she?"

i will if the one who will get married is a friend of mine. i am a catholic but i am not judgemental. i would love to sing a song for them as well. if he is happy then i dont have the right to get that away from him. like you said if i love that person as a friend and respect him then i will deffinitely go on his wedding. my father once told my uncle MAYBE I DONT ALWAYS AGREE WITH YOU BUT I LOVE YOU. and i remembered that always and live with it. there are a lot of people who i dont agree with but i love them dearly. we can not change people for what they are and we can not force them to do what we think is right. but we can love them together with their inperfections and their short comings.

You say that you treat him like anyone else but you woudl go to a straight persons weeding but not a gay weeding. This is not treating him like anyone else but is discriminating against him. You say that marriage is for procreation, then old people should not be able to marry or those tht cannot have children if tht is what you mean.Is it right that a couple that do not want to have children be able to get married? Is it right to let people that know that they cannot have children get married? Why then is it not alright to let two people that cannot have children the biological way get married if they can adopt children and b e a happy family?

A real friend would be happy for him finding happiness and be there without even thinking about it. You are not a friend really of his because friends accept each other up and down...for who they are. He is probably looking at it from that angle. You would go to his wedding if he were marrying a woman....won't happen...he is gay. He can't help that he is gay. You pretty much told him that you don't accept HIM or who he is. Sorry dear but if you don't go to this wedding...you will probably lose his friendship. I have gay friends and I really don't care. I would go to the wedding. Your friend has accepted that you have your own beliefs and invited you anyway and yet you are considering not going because of your difference in beliefs. If I were your friend...that'd be a very loud statement to me on just how deep the friendship ran. Sorry, Jellymonty, but I can't agree with you on this one.

hello jellymonty, Why not, if someone will invite me to attend I'll go for that is a very important occassion to their life. Being part of their wedding is such an honor. But then, in our country gay marriage is not allowed.

Hello, He is your friend and for him he wants you to share in his happy day! I hope you and him can work something out . Yes, I would go to one . I have a gay friend as well and was invited to his weddings , but I couldnt get the time away from my out of town work.

to me it shouldn't matter if you agree or not. it's his choice. but if he always been a good friend and always had respect for you, then i think you should go out of respect for him. i'm into the whole gay thing, but i do have gays in my family and if they asked me to be there i would be there for them.

I have gay people in my family, and I would attend their weddings. Sometimes you have to compromise, if you value someone's love or friendship. Can't you just pretend you're at a birthday party or something? Please reconsider. Maybe you'll learn something, or even enjoy yourself, who knows? I wouldn't throw a friendship or family relationship away just because someone is gay/lesbian. But that's my own personal opinion.

Hi jellymonty, if a gay friend was getting married and was kind enough to invite me of course I'd go and probably have a splendid time. I cannot understamd your own reasoning as presumabley if this person is your friend then you must meet up socially and if you are happy to do that then you should be happy to cheer them on while they marry. One of the nice things round here is that people in general are much more tolerant in their views, whilst in this area if people are gay they don't flaunt it. But when I told my local friends that two men from England were coming here on holiday and just recently married I had a collection of invites ready for them from the locals. They were even invited to come along with me to the cafenion which was strictly local and generally does not want foreigners to go in as it's the sort of place which is just to go to to relax and gossip with friends.

I think I will attend this wedding. Our country don't allow gay or lesbian marriage and I have never been to one before. It might be fun and interesting to experience. Well, gay people don't choose to be gay. So I won't be so hard on your friend if I were you. Going to a gay wedding doesn't make you any different, go, just because he is your friend.

if he was a friend, i would go and attend his wedding, im happy for him! so all i have to do is support him all the way!!! i am there to witness the happiest day of his life!

If I were you, I would. If you do not agree with his lifestyle because " You don't get the point of two blokes getting together" I don't know how you can consider yourself as his friend. Also, Gay weddings are so controversial and most likely, he and his future spouse will be facing rejection in the eyes of most, and for me, as a friend, I would rather be there as a support for him.

Sure why not it would be very intresting to see a gay wedding thats for sure. So I would deffintley attend one even though it would be uncomfortible to be at one. But hey as long as there is cake and good food it dosnt matter lol.

Honestly, I think you should attend. Attending won't mean you're okay with homosexuality. It'll just show that you still value him as a friend even if you don't agree with his lifestyle. Even if it makes other people think you're okay with it, so what? It's your own beliefs that matter, not what other people think about what you believe. Anyways, as for myself, if I was invited to a gay wedding, I'd probably attend. If my friends want to get married, I'd want to show up to support them, regardless of who they choose to marry.

why not??? they want to be together..i would be happy for them=)

Three conditions: At least one of the two should be my friend, or at least their parents or siblings are my friends or my acquaintances. Second: they should not mind inviting me. Third: The food should be good. More seriously, I think if we wouldnt like others to look into our closets, we should extend the same to others. Its their private life, what have we got to do with it, and what will we be losing anyway, other than an otherwise good friend. Nah. I will atend come what may.

If it was a close friend of mine, I might hide my feelings for the day and be happy/supportive for my friend. Truly, I don't mind gay or lesbian people and have had friends in both catergories. The part I have a hard time accepting is "wedding". For me, "wedding" was always synonomous with "marriage"; "Marriage" was always "man and woman". Other than the terminology/vocabulary issue, I am a-okay with the idea. I just wished there were separate terms like "domestic partnership" and "civil union" to differentiate between the two. Again, for me, it just seems more appropriate and fitting than "wedding" and "marriage". I wish you the best and hope that you are able to work through this issue with your friend.

I to am not a fan of the gay lifestyle but it is a personal preference. I have and have had gay friends and even though that lifestyle isn't for me I personally value my friendship with my friends and would still be there for them.