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Depression drains you.
@rudynahcapone (50)
United States
August 13, 2009 11:42pm CST
City girl moves to the countryside, I'm talking about yours truly. Don't you think that's depressing? Oh well, maybe a little. There may be days when I totally miss the old things I used to enjoy back in the city where I was born and raised. Here I am, adapting to my new environment. It's hard. I just got married to the man I've had a long distance relationship with for almost 5 years. Love conquers all, it's evidently real now. There are hours I feel depressed, and it is totally eating my energy up. But come to think of it, I chose to move to the less noisy side of the US because I wanted to build my own family and lessen the agony of being apart from my man. I confess that I am depressed due to homesickness but relieved at the same time. Relieved that I don't have to deal with distant communication. Telling you all that depression drains you could be true. Deep in my heart, however, I say I am happy. I'm just perhaps encountering this hard phase of paradigm shift. How do I deal with it more graciously? How do I not drain my energy too much? Help.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
14 Aug 09
You need to find some new interests in your new area so that you won't feel so depressed and homesick. Make friends, get involved with your community. You should also take the time to explore your new environment...either on foot or by car...but get out there and see what there is to see. Five years ago my husband and I moved 1,000 miles away from my friends, family and support system. I went through a period of depression and regret, but over time I felt that less and less. I love it here now would never want to go back to the hectic life I lead up north.
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@rudynahcapone (50)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I am starting to gain new friends here. It's more than 10,000 mile distance where I moved away from. Different culture, different environment, different language. Language isn't a problem to me because I am excellently good at speaking in English even if I'm Filipino. Our medium of instruction in business and education is English anyway, thus making us very competitive around the globe. It's just harder for me to deal with being away from the city because I've been exposed to a lot of events, parties, hosting gigs, etc. I was an active public relations, media practitioner and host in the place I come from. So, it's not surprising to be a little lonely to settle in a small town in Louisiana. I'm versatile, I know. Maybe things will get better in the coming months. Once I find a job and all, I will be less depressed.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 09
they tell me LousianA is a very interesting state. maybe you'should read up on it.and too getting a job will involve you wih new p eople and you will probably make some nice new friends which will help a lot.
@dlr297 (5409)
• United States
14 Aug 09
The countryside is a beautiful place to live and to raise a family. I will admit that it does take some getting used to, but once you do you will love it.
We moved here about 6 years ago from the city, I had to learn to drive because everything is so spread out, where in the city i could walk every where i needed to go.
@rudynahcapone (50)
• United States
14 Aug 09
It will probably take me a long time. I've been used to be doing things here and there, hosting events everywhere. So, it's a lot of adjustment for me to be living in the countryside.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Aug 09
keep telling yourself why you are there, And do find someinterests in your new area. find new friends and find new things to do.
I love the country myself and its peaceful and you could grow
your own veggies and fruit too if you so desired.moving is always
hard ;you have to adjust and that takes time. let your husband know and let him help; you adjust.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
15 Aug 09
I'm not really sure how you can make the transition more smoothly and whatever. I know what you mean about moving from the city to the country, though. Occasionally, in the summer, I'll temporarily move up 3 1/2 hours from my city (Minneapolis) to a small town of 800 (called Menahga) - and it's torture! I LOVE the hustle & bustle of the big city - and having something constantly to do, and having all of my friends within 5 miles of me. I really do like it, and I couldn't imagine myself leaving it.
I don't think there's anything you can do about your home-sickness. Maybe just keep in touch with the friends/family you know that still live there, and visit it once a month (or less - depending on how far away it is). I'm sure it's something that you have to deal with one day at a time, like you're doing. And eventually it will get easier. Good luck to you.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
15 Aug 09
Depression drains you............
Hello there rudynahcapone, as you can see from my Avatar I am a citygirl myself. I think I would really miss it if I ever had to move into the country. As I've been a citygirl for almost all of my life. Anyhow if you find that the country is zapping you of your energy, what you need to do is get outside more. Walk around and why not start doing some gardening? Gardening is great for helping to keep your mind off things. You should also get yourself lots and lots of bananas. Recently I learned that bananas are good for fighting depression. It has a secret ingredient in it that will zap those feelings of depression away quicker then you can swat at a fly. Take care and have a happy life.....
PS: Add me as a friend so that we can chat more later....... Happy mylot.
@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
your depression i think is just a transition period. you are adjusting to a lot of new things. the cure to depression is contact with people and having something to do. so you go out there and do meet people, watch events or simply take a walk or do some shopping. or go to a nearby college and take a workshop. building relationships is the only way to go.
