do feel that manners are a thing of the past?

I am only 21 years old, married, and have two children, but I desperately crave for the old fashioned ways. I am very "new school" but my lifestyle is very old school and new school, and I was brought up with manners and to treat others how you want to be treated, and all that stuff. I am nervous that my children wont grow up that way, because of the way society is these days! Most of the people I know are so self-centered, arrogant, mean, and selfish greedy people ever, and wouldn't lift a finger to hold a door open for a pregnant woman. Cmon now, what has our world become? What is it going to be like in 10 years?... Scary.

You seem to share my feelings for this subject. I have always been taught and have taught my children to use manners, as it is important in life. And more times than not your manners can get you somewhere in life. Recently when I took my daughters out to eat my daughter held the door open for two people who were leaving. To my shock and amazement they walked through the door and looked as if they were entitled to having the door being held open for them. There was no thank you or even any kind of a smile or kind gesture. So it's not only a problem with people not holding the door but of people who do not say thank you when you do something nice like this for them. Especially to a child who went out of her way to hold the door open for you and her mother standing there holding her toddler letting you go through the door first. I just had a conversation about this with a friend of mine whose granddaughter was not taught about manners. She told me about how she taught manners to her children and how important it was in her house. But her granddaughter doesn't seem to have manners. She told me how happy she was to see my daughters use their manners and likes it when they come and play and help show her granddaughter the importance of manners. Manners aren't hard to use and they always seem to make for more pleasant conversation and interactions with other people. It amazes me that people can't see this and choose to live without them.

manners what are they??? it's fast becoming a thing of the past. i make sure kids say please and thankyou when they get something of me. back in many of our parents day you would have gotten your but kicked if you were rude to an elder, but now it's who cares. my mum was sorta strict on us but nothing that wasn't for our own good. so i'm sorta the same with my son so he doesn't become a rude child. it was funny to see, i've been with work with my work mate for 5 yrs but we've never been in public together.he can be very point blank, and rude at times, and that's what i've mainly seen of him. but he'll then do things for me at work, i get a bit frustrated with him cause he will do something making me feel a bit less. it's annoying when he does some things cause i can do it. then he got dobed in to help do something with the boss and i was helping to. it was different seeing him all dressed up and acting like a gent. my mum is rotten for getting me to help, but i'm happy to do it. so there are still some people out there that are willing to help others, and show some manners. just wish there were more.

I so agree with you. I think the young people of today for the most part are in their own little world and only care about themselves. They have the phone to their ear or in their hand texting away oblivious to what is going on around them. What has happened I think is that there are more people being raised without manners and or forget what they were taught when they were younger. Parents want to be friends instead of parents. I also believe the reason for this behavior is because both parents would have to go to work and the kids were left to fend for themselves. This is why I believe society has gone haywire.

I was taught that manners were a very important thing in life. I'm pretty old-fashioned also. I always think that manners also somewhat "attracted" girls. Honestly, what girl would want a rude guy? If he's ugly and really nice, he at least has a good aspect about him. If that guy changed his look, girls would fall in love. Girls like funny, nice guys don't you think?

Very much so! I am always finding people to be very rude, especially on the road. Drivers are not as courteous as I would like to see them being. I also find that people dont say thank you when you open the door for them. Generally, lots of people now expect everyone else to bow to them ...

hi mama bear yes manners are now often forgotten in this era. I live in a retirement center. I am not really disabled but I have a brace on one leg and walk with a cane as I have'painful arthritis. well sometimes when I come down from my room'on the second floor and the door opens onto the first floor=,some people waiting dont let me out but crowd in around me and jostle' me so that i have a hard time just keeping my bAlance. i try 'to get out as quickly as I can but my bad leg slows me a bit.' I do think that good manners wou ld make those waiting pause long enough to let me get off so theres spAce for them to get 'one,why try to knock me down in their hurry? And again there is one dear man who sees my fix and steps forward And takes my arm to guide me out safely past the people in a hurry.

You are so right people just do not have any manners any more. about a month ago i was in wal-mart and i was standing in the check out line and this young man was running with his cart and he ran right into me, and knocked me down, instead of him coming over and helping me up, or finding out if i was ok, he just started yelling at me for being in his way.. The cashier came over, and so did the person in front of me, but not even a im sorry from the man that hit me. It is like their is just no respect for any thing any more, People just do not use common sense anymore when dealing with others.

Well i thought i should opose the statement when i saw the discussion first. but when i read throught ht edescription i do agree with you. People have become very self-centered and cannot see anything other than themselves now-a-days. I think the humanitarian inside the person has been put off to sleep and this why most of the people lack manners.