Could you help your loved one in this way.............................?

No I couldnt let them take pills to die. BUt when in the hospital my hubby had told me years ago that he didnt want to be put on all those machines to live So I had to sign papers at 4 am to that effect that he didnt want those machines hooked up to him. and they put him in a room as he was in a coma and gave him comfort meds. And then fianlly they sent him home. Hospis came in with bed and things and brought him home but he did last long less than 30 mins. but at least he was home! Now we have the same with my mom and we have all ready filled out the paper work not to resisatate)sp). SHe has had 3 strokes this year 2 in the last 3 weeks and she keeps raling. Alto she sleeps alot and hardly eats. BUt she dont want to be force feed. We beleive she is ready to go on and be with our dad. SO we just watch her decline but then too she made the age she wanted to be 89 years old!

This is probably one of the hardest discussions I have responded to. Im torn as to what I would do. Noone wants to see a loved one suffer and I dont want to be where Im suffering and nobody helps me out of the pain. Yet you dont want to lose that loved one either. My husband and I have had these conversations too. We never really end up with answers, just looking at each other wondering if we would have the strength I think. It is really hard to say what you would do, unless you are actually in that situation.

If that was my partners wishes then yes I would help him die as I would hate to see him suffer if he did not want it. It would be a very hard thing to do but then he would be in peace and out of pain. At the moment I am watching my partner's brother-in-law suffer he has MS and is coming near to the end it is terrible to see him like that he has just had to have a feeding tube put in his stomach as he can no longer eat. It is very sad to see him deteriorate like this.

Yeah it is a tough one this, but then who wants to suffer with a terminal illness? I have seen a lot of this on tv of late, people flying to another country to end their own lives because there is a place there where it is allowed but then when the surviving relations come back they are arrested as if they are criminals. There is also a group against this that says it is wrong to take your own life because life is precious, but its not precious if a person is dying slowly in great agony is it? Anyway to answer your discussion, sorry I went slightly off there, I guess that if my hubby was really really suffering and had no quality of life left and felt he had no dignity then I would certainly consider it, but only through the place I mentioned where I know he would go peacefully and under proper supervision etc but it would certainly be the hardest thing i ever did.

That's a real tough one. I don't know if I would have it in me to help that way. I don't know if I would have it in me to see them suffer so either. I think that I would have to consider if I did..and they were gone..I would be left to suffer the consequences here. I just don't know about this one my friend.

yes even i feel that life is beutiful gift given by god and one should not ruin it by doing such things. This is absolute unnecessary and useless.

Yes, I would help my loved one if he ever goes through something like that. But of course, there must be limits. I mean, he can't be like this forever. Call me selfish, but he should care about me too. I know, I know, he's in pain, but if he really loves me the way I love him, he would come around and be his old self again. Why would he throw away his life for one person when there are still others who care for him? But I accept that his recovery might take some time, and I'll wait patiently until that time comes. I guess the difficult part is knowing how long I would wait. I think that depends. If I see and feel that I'm getting through him, then I'd wait. But if I don't get through him at all, then I'd try harder, but I only have so much strength.

As I heard in the lyrics of a song, I would do anything for love, but I won't do THAT! I love my significant other, but I really don't think I could assist in that way. It would hurt me too much. I would prefer to find a way to help them. It's sad that this happens to people. I don't know how I would feel afterwards.

I personally don't think that I could assist a loved one in ending their life. I guess it would really depend on the situation though. It's hard to say until you are actually in that particular situation though. But I don't think I could go to the extreme of ending the life of a loved one.

I dont believe that I could assist anyone in killing themselve's. That would be more like murder. I think if my husband was bad off I would sit there with him until the last breath, there is no way that I could help him to die. He has been there with me through alot, lately. I cant imagine ever turning my back on him when he needed me. But I also would never dream of killing him.