Can you always feel how much of interest the person has shown in responding

Hello bala....It's been a long time Sometimes, I can. But there are times that I am proven wrong. Because there were some respondents that I thought were very interested in sharing their views or opinions by how they have expressed it through words. And then I respond to them. They never respond back anymore. For me, a respondent may show their TRUE interest in a certain discussion,not only by responding once. But following on that thread of discussion. I admit though that there were certain discussions that I've lost interest with. That when the starter of the discussion have made comments on my response, I don't answer back any longer. Because either I have nothing to say anymore or the starter of the discussion have clearly expressed that they are no longer interested in expanding that certain topic. That for me, is a big PERIOD.

I can usually tell a sincere response from a BS response I try to always give sincere responses but there have been a few times that I have left BS responses just so the discussion is marked and I can easily follow it I generally only do that if I am tracking a cheater or a troll

Yes, there are times when you see that someone responds to your discussion because they are truly interested and it seems like they are pumped to discuss it. And there are times when some response are just there for the sake of replying and not to engage in an actual discussions. It can be challenge to try to read between the lines of those who respond to my discussions, although admittedly there is only a number of discussions I have posted but I always want to post quality rather than quantity.

Hi Bala! Yes, I can always feel and sense the mood of the respondent while reading his responses. I try to read between the lines. Some of the respondents post equally good responses and they always remain consistent with their responses, whenever they reply to my discussions and some of the members/friends post variable responses. To my mind one's expression, style, language and emoticans used in a discussion tell lots about the respondent and his/her mood. I always welcome - to the point, quality, meaningful responses rather than meaningless and off the mark responses, which do not relate to the core issue of a discussion but are posted for the sake of it. I find some freshers posting responses, which are wide of the mark and make no sense to me viz-a-viz the post.

Hi Bala. Feels great to be back to respond to your discussion. You can always sense whether a responder is excited about the topic of discussion and responding or is trying hard to find words to express his viewpoint as if they consider it their duty. I havent noticed them in my discussions cosnciously but yes subconsciously, it comes to you when you read the response whether the response is a genuine show of interest in the topic or not. Basically the way the sentences and phrases are worded they give a fair idea of the thought process going on in the mind of the responder while responding to the discussion. If he is interested, then he is alert and doesnot keep harping on same point again and again and just keeps the idea and continuity flowing. But an uninterested person's repsonse usually is in monosyllables and what not. See mine response for example, isn't it looks genuine. LOL

Yes, I agree that with some respondants you can sense the excitement when you are reading their comments but others well let's just say you might even want to try to avoid if at all possible. Words are so dear to some of us. Sometimes I think that only a book can capture it's true meaning. Sometimes I would rather that someone didn't even bother to respond to me if they aren't doing it from a place of a pure heart. Thanks for posting this, it hit right to the heart of the matter.

yes,i do feel most of the times,some just respond to increase their number of posts but what they donot realllize is that one is paid for qualitative responses and not for quantity.

Same here. I can always tell if someone is just responding to be responding or if they are really interested in the topic. It is okay with me either way. I do appreciate all responses.

I see it too. I think there are a lot of factors that affect such reply. Some people have personal experience on the topic, some might have just heard it from other people or perhaps it was shared to them. Some just wanted to reply to earn points in mylot. But of course regardless whatever the reasons are, the important thing is to consider each of them considering that they have devoted time in responding to our discussion. Award the one that is worthy of the best response and enjoy each of them. Great discussion you have started here.

Hi balasri! You are so right! Sometimes it is so much fun to feel the excitement that you get from some responders when they are really interested in your discussion! And then there are those that are just responding just to respond! And then there are those who have no idea what the discussion is about and are responding for whatever reason and those are ones that really piss me off! I know that when I respond to a discussion I really try to give it my all! If it is something that I am not interested in or a subject that I am not familiar with I would much rather just not respond then write any old answer!

I hope you have never thought my responses were too dull! (LOL) I do appreciate what you mean, some people comment with standard phrases and it is usually quite easy to see that not a great deal of thought has gone into the topic. I have noticed it occasionally when I have received replies to my responses and the person seems to be just going through the motion.

I can usually tell a persons mood by their reponses too. Especially if they are friends that respond alot. I think it means that we are getting to know each other better..lol. I like it too.

Hi balsri, certainly one can tell the difference with responses, the ones which are given with complete lack of interest just to get their post count up, and the ones who actually have something to say which is worth reading. Often though I think the person who posts the discussion gives away their own boredom in the subject by their dull one line replies which ensure you don't want to be part of their discussions any more. I mean, if they can't work up any interest for their own topic, how can they possibly keep a discussion going.

I'm thinking that there are some here that are just randomly typing responses to try and make a penny or two. But if your question or discussion is lame, you can expect lame answers.

You can always tell the enthusiasm when someone responds, it's the empathy, knowing they feel exactly the way you do, or that you share a common interest that you can both relate to. You can the excitement just by reading between the lines, you can even feel the warmth from the person if that makes sense. Obviously you can't interpret the nuances from the words alone but you can sense that the person is on the same lines as you and are giving an indepth response which is full of joy, interest and it tends to 'radiate' as well.

Hullo Bala! Just opened my mailbox and the moment I saw your name I looked eagerly at the topic and am here. As far as I am concerned, I normally answer topics that interest me and if I am not in a mood I won't respond that day. I'll keep it pending[in fact I have even peeped into mimpi's or Deepak's discussion once, saying I'll get back later. Sometimes, if it is a friend's topic I have responded out of a sense of duty but even there if the topic is something where I can't contribute I have either left it or would say so. As far as others are concerned I similarly believe that they do not have much to say on particular topic and just pick it up for writing a few lines. My response would then be a bit mechanical and more dutiful than animated.

Yeah! Excitement! Yeah! OH brother, another one again. This could be interesting. This could be dutifully boring. Ha, ha, take care.

I think whenever someone takes the time to respond even if just to say a few words, that such would indicate a certain amount of interest. But I agree that you can distinguish when a person is indeed very interested in the topic and when a person might not really have any interest or concern in the topic but still feels the need to put in his penny's worth of comment. and i reiterate that even the latter situation can be construed as indicating a certain level of excitement otherwise, why bother at all to reply?

I think so.^_^ I mean, its been a while since I started a discussion. But yeah, I do know what you mean that the mood of the person reflects on how he/she responds to the discussion that they decided to respond to. That would also show the level of interest as well as the time and effort put forth into typing their personal thoughts and opinions. Our responses are what we say after all. Only difference is that its in print and it would be up to us if we care enough to proofread and edit our posts before submitting. Reading between the lines... kinda like deciphering codes right? Puzzles and codes are always fun for me, even if I dont get the answer.LOL^_^

Hi balasri, this is a very intelligent discussion. We can easily gauge a person's interest by his/her responses. I prefer that the member gives answers so that the discussion can be carried forwarded rather than shutting out all avenues by posting a few words. I try my best to add some of my own views to any discussion. I make it a point to answer all comments I receive, and some members carry the discussion forward by answering back giving their own inputs. It is fun when we discuss different view points - have a great weekend and happy mylotting