Daughter in law Vs Daughter ?
By yogambal_64
@yogambal_64 (1014)
India
August 14, 2009 8:32am CST
In this modern society and so many talking about social reformation, Do you feel families treat both daughter in law and daughter in the same way, I feel there is still a differentiation between the two in many families. There are exceptional cases but very few in number.The discrimination still prevails. What is your idea about this?
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4 responses
@sblossom (2168)
•
14 Aug 09
I don’t think daughter in law and daughter can be same to a parent, no matter how the society changes. The natural blood connects between children and their parents are not impossible to be replaced by any other relationship. I think the relationship between children and their parents in law can be improved if they both want to keep a good relationship, but it’s still not same as children and parents.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
14 Aug 09
sblossom...I will have to agree with you totally. In my situation, Im the daughter-in-law. My sister-in-law is one of a kind. He had her own home and met this guy who talked her into selling the house. They moved to Florida and let the money run their lives for next few months. He doesn't work and he is still in Florida and she is here living with mom.
My mother-in-law is a different person when she is around. She treats me different when she is home. Mother-in-law will talk up a storm with me,go places with me and even laugh alot when the daughter is gone off with the boygriend. When daughter comes back,she will ignore me or act like I've said something wrong. She only acts this way when the daughter is around.
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
15 Aug 09
So she is putting up a double character and you are the victim, how sad. Thanks for your response, have a cool day.
@LucianaD (2)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I personally have a great relationship with my mother in law. We spend a lot of time together. My husband jokes sometimes saying that if we were to ever have a fall out his mom would side with me. I think in our case we have overcome that barrier. It wasn't always like that. When I first became part of the family I was looked at more as an outsider. I think in many families thats how it is. It takes a lot of work and time to get to the point I am with my in laws.
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
15 Aug 09
You are a lucky daughter in law, no doubt. Have a good day and thanks for your response.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
17 Aug 09
I think in India I have seen a big change in the way mother in laws treating their daughter in laws. My mom was not that well treated by her mother in law, but my mom is treating her daughter in law in a far better way compared to how she was treated. I think there is a big change, a generation gap in this.
I don't know whether my mother in law treats me the same way as her daughter, but I am sure that she treats me in a very good way and I sometimes think that she treats me better than how my mother treats me. But, it is a fact that I am close to my mother than my mother in law even though I love my mother in law a lot.
@bewitched13 (792)
• India
15 Aug 09
Let the society be modern or ancient, daughters will be daughters and daughters in law will be daughters in law. The basic fact is that daughters are one's own blood whereas daughters in law are add ons to the family.There can be a good relationship between the daughter and the daughter in law as sister inlaws but the mother in law will always have a discrimination. If she says she does not have one that means she is lying. It is but natural to be partial towards the daughter but a good mother in law accepts it.
How can you expect the same treatment for both? The daughter has the right by birth whereas the daughter in law gets the right only as the son's wife. Leave alone this discrimination a daughter in law can always have a good relationship with her mother in law.
