Are there REAL PEOPLE in an online datins site?

Philippines
August 14, 2009 11:32pm CST
I begin to question myself, are there REAL people in an online dating site? I know some people becoming "somebody" instantly in an online dating site. It seems to be the trend. You can't really trust someone you meet just in the internet. Their names change every now and then, their age rises and drops like that of a temperature in the thermometer and their waistlines change numbers so often fitting almost anything sexy. I understand that we need to sell ourselves, we need to talk about good things about ourselves to attract people, otherwise we would just waste our time finding no one interested to drop a line if we talk about the ugliest things ever about ourselves. But can't we all be truthful? I mean, if we are selling good things which are true and which are not authentically ours, are we really selling ourselves? Sooner or later, someone would find out that these things aren't true and most likely we would get rejected. Then why tell all lies in the world? You are just prolonging your agony, right? If you would like someone to like you, It is still best if you talk about who you are, what you are and what you have; No overdoing it. Just plain honest talk. Why do you think it is hard for someone to do it in the first place?
4 responses
mylesnarvaez
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
hi! i honestly have no idea how it is in online dating sites because i haven't experienced exploring it. and the way you described it sounds funny but also speaks an element of sad truth. i do understand that people would like to put their best foot forward to be liked by other people. skeletons hiding in the closet is understandably not a good selling point. and sometimes people do little alterations of the truth to fit an image that they think will be liked by the other person. and at worst assuming a lie to continue being liked by other people. yeah, plain honest talk should be the way to do it... i agree. but some people think it's hard to do. perhaps fear of rejection. perhaps something else. who knows... they might be prolonging the agony... yes... i guess some people would rather live a lie for that moment. but i also believe that there are REAL people there... and like everyone else in the dating site... they are also looking and searching for other REAL people like themselves. unfortunately, more often than not, most REAL people don't get paired up perhaps because what they are searching for do not match with what other real people in the net can offer. i believe you're relatively new to mylot. hope you'll have a wonderful stay in the site and make new friends here. enjoy mylot!
mylesnarvaez
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
thanks for the best response mark. it's very much appreciated. and thanks for the compliment (i'll take it as one. -lol-) although i must say there are lots of people in mylot who really have great thoughts and views to share. many of us here really enjoy meeting real people to converse with in discussions. although i'd say, a lot of mylotters is also driven to earn a bit here or get earning leads for other sites. hehe to increase the number of your friends in the site just add them up. i'll start with myself and add you up in my list. that way our paths can cross in other discussions as well. having friends in the site makes mylotting experience better. hope you do enjoy!
bachelorowen85
@bachelorowen85 (58)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
You are most welcome myles. I already added you as a friend. Hope we could bump with each other again with other interesting discussions. =)
bachelorowen85
@bachelorowen85 (58)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
Hi Myles. Thank you for your response. Yes, I am relatively new here and I'm enjoying it so far. I like the sharing of views and ideas. It is amazing that you get to talk to REAL people online and exchange ideas with them in no time. I like the way you put reasons to things, you sounded brilliant and witty. I hope we could be friends and I hope to meet more people like you here. Have fun! =)
busibee
@busibee (187)
• United States
16 Aug 09
I don't know if anyone is real on there. My friend decided to go online to meet a nice guy, and contacted one guy and they decided to meet. It turned out the guy wasn't 20-something but 40-something (she's 19) and he bragged to her he once killed someone. How delightful! I don't think online dating is really a great place to meet the love of your life (not to say it can't happen). XOXO Busie
bachelorowen85
@bachelorowen85 (58)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
That was a very good example of what I'm saying in this discussion! To add, that was awful! Having told of a story that your date killed someone before on your first meeting, that is scary isn't it? Would you just run away from him and never look back, lol? That's what I would do if I were your friend. Is your friend still alive? I hope she is. lol. =)
kerriannc
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 09
You are so correct. I have met a guy on the internet where I have build a friendship with but found out that some of the things were not truthful but who is me to judge. So I forgive and still continue with our relationship. I have met another friend and every page you see him on there are different answers to the same question.lol Honesty to me is best I love myself and so in doing this I know I will find the right person who will love me. God never let down his children is it us who cannot wait and so we fabricate lies which often bounced back to harm us.
bachelorowen85
@bachelorowen85 (58)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
I'm sorry for the late response. After all, I am not alone in this observation. You would notice it every now and then if you visit the site regularly and when you get to chat with different people. I still suggest that you meet the person personally first before investing any emotions. Falling for someone can be very easy as we fall easily to sweet nothings. But let us all guard ourselves from disappointments. Let us meet the person first personally before we take any actions further. =)
fruitcakeliz
@fruitcakeliz (2639)
• United States
16 Aug 09
People who do this seem to me like people who are not really interested in meeting someone else, just "playing the game" so to speak. Seeing how many people they can get interested in them to make themselves feel better...though it shoudln't make them feel better, as they are pretending to be someone else. I guess i just don't understand the allure of pretending to be somethign you are not online. For me, i like bieng online because i can BE myself...just a slightly less shy version! It makes it easier for me to connect with people, and find people to talk with who like me for my thoughts and ideas and personality...i just can't fathom being fake about those ideas and thoughts and having it be any fun for me! But in answer to your original question, YES there are real people on onine dating sites. My current boyfriend and i actually met on an online dating site, though both of us were there just to meet people, not really looking for a relationship. We just somehow ran across eachothers profile, one of us sent a message, and we just kind of hit it off.
bachelorowen85
@bachelorowen85 (58)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
I would like to inject somthing about what you mentioned here. You said people who do fabricate stories are most likely the people who are not interested meeting up. That is so correct! For them, it's just plain talk and a game so to speak. So someone should be alerted. If you find the chatter is not very consistent with what he shares, you better think twice before meeting this person. Otherwise, most likely, you for him are just good for a one night stand. =)