Where has the time gone
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
August 15, 2009 2:39am CST
Today my Daughters best Friend, who has been like my second Daughter to me for 12 years, is getting married
I am sitting here crying, crying because I wonder where the time has gone, remembering how she used to come round to our House, how the Girls used to sit and natter, how they used to sit and talk to me about things, she always used to call me her second Mum, they used to fall out, argue, but always got back together
Now the first one is getting married, she has been with her Fiancee for a few years now
She used to say to me, she will never get married lol and here she is today at 2pm walking down the Isle
My Daughter will be sending me all the Photos, I can't be there due to Health Issues again, but I have told her that I will be there with her, maybe not physically but in thoughts and Heart
So am I being foolish sitting here crying? It just feels so strange, just like it did when the Girls went on their first Night out, in my Heart they will always be my little ones.
I had a close Relationship with my Daughter and Sons Friends and it feels like it is my own getting married
Ok now what do you think Gissi as Page Boy, lol, I told her that it is a good job I am not coming lol as she would have had to have Gissi as Page Boy lol, she replied, of course he would have been lol
Where has the time gone, I would love to come home to my Son's and Daughter's Friends like I used to
I used to come in from work and always one of them would make me a coffee and we would all sit and chat for a while then they would all disappear to give me time to myself, that would last for half an hour lol, but I loved it
Do you sometimes think back ??????
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@sridharsahu (544)
• India
16 Aug 09
Hello aunty,
Today i am remembering my mummy very much because whenever i go to my house she will always say the same thing that u were telling.she says that how fast the days have gone u were so small playing in front of my eyes and know u are so big working that u are earning money and helping your father.After some years u will get married have your own children we will become old and know u have to take care of us.There was a time when we use to take care of u now it will be your responsibility.Lastly she will say that time moves very fast.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 09
Hi there
Well I say my Children are wonderful, and do take care of me when I let them lol
Since my Illness they have come over protective towards me, we live 3 hours apart but are always there for one another
And yes time does move to fast
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Aug 09
My Dearra is almost 13 and as tall as her dad, a smart mouth teenager who knows everything. This morning I caught myself remembering her at age 3, this chubby faced little kid with blond curls. (sigh)
I hope the wedding went off well and that you at least get to see pictures! Hugs...
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
16 Aug 09
Yes. I think back alot of times about alot of things in my life. It seems like yesterday when I gave birth to my daughter. She will be 18 years old in 6 more months. I remember when she started kindergarten also but she will graduate this year.
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@margerydaw14 (735)
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17 Aug 09
I can understand your feelings here, your daughters best friend was like your own daughter, so the sentimental feelings are there, just if it was a close family wedding (which it is really , as i always think you cant choose your family, but you can always choose your friends !!) and i can just imagine gissi trundling up the aisle behind the bride, nipping at the bride maids toes to keep them in line, bless him ! But like you i often wonder where all the years have gone, it doesnt seem all that long since my miserable years in my 30's, thats why i can't watch any of those shows based on the 70's. they make me feel very uncomfortable. but my 60 odd years on this earth seem to have shot by and i just wonder what , after all these years , i have actually achieved in all this time. ?
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 09
Hi there Margery
Yes I know what you are saying but well we can't stop it I guess and just have to hold onto the good Memories I guess
As for Gissi he would also stop at every seat and pee on it as he seems to think he has to mark his territory everywhere (sigh) also he would not throw the Flowers he would be to busy sneezing as he has Hayfever lol
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Aug 09
hi gabs I all the time think bAck,my son is still my baby'
altho he is fifty. I do rembmer all the funwe had as a'
faMily aNd the outings and just going for a car ride
for no good reason.You are not foolish to remember'
and cry because time has moved on. ohhow i wept the first
week I was here, I missed my own aPartment, and doing for
myself,cooking what I liked,shopping for foods I liked
and now Im treated like an invalid waited on like a princess'and really except for being homeless I really dont belong here.
'but I hAve made some friends here and now I have my
computer I can again mylot so am happier now. and when my
son comes to see me it really makes me happy.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 09
Oh Hatley it hurts me to think that you where crying, I was so worried about you
I am glad though that your Son visits, like my Children, he cares for his Mum
I am just glad that you have your Computer back and that you are back with us
Hugs to you
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Aug 09
Hi gabs! It is quite alright for you to feel the way you do!
I know that they will be thinking of you too and wishing you
were there too! And of course Gissi too! He would have made
such a handsome Page Boy, if he could behave! I understand
how you feel, although I have no children of my own! I do
have a godchild who just turned 20 and will be turning 21 soon!
How time flies! I remember him as a baby! And one day he will
be getting married! And I don't speak to his Mom anymore,
who was my best friend for 45 years because of something she
did! So it is so wonderful that you and your children and their
friends can still be close! I'm sure you will see the photos
and hear all about the wedding and feel just like you were
there! And you too Gissi! Hugs, Opal
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 09
Hi Sweetie, I am so sorry that you and your Friend fell out after so many years of Friendship
That must have hurt I hope that your Godson is still in touch with you
Mel phoned me a few times and kept me updated and when she gets the Chance she will send me the Photos by emails and I can't wait
Mel said that she cried when Vicki walked down the Isle and when Vicki's Dad done the speech
Vicki cried walking down the Isle but she did get her words out lol
It was a lovely Day for them and that is all I wanted
Vicki and Ryan are now away on their Honeymoon
Hugs dear Friend
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
This year has shot by my dear friend, although 2009 hasn't been the most happiest year for me, because I think back fondly to the year I was most happiest and sometimes I grieve for what I was then to how I am now. Back in 1998 I had everything, I loved life, lived life to the full and I cherished what I had, I had my own place, I had a great job, I had great friends (offline) I didn't know what depression was and to be honest I frowned upon those who were depressed. I was out on the pull every week, I was at my most lightest (weight) and it was bliss. Life was wonderful. I sometimes wish I could cry for what I lost, I lost so much, if I could go back to 1998 I would give up everything, but alas no time machine has been invented. My life went downhill fast after 1998 and the time I feel I have lost and you can never replace time can you sweetie?
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
15 Aug 09
Was you crying happy tears?
And time sure does fly .
and yes I think back alot ans wonder where all the time went and if I wasted any! Which I dont think so but sure wished I could have done more things but then there is only 24 hours in a day.
as like you I always had a house full of kids hanging around where ever we lived!
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@Eskimo (2315)
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15 Aug 09
Hi Gabs, I agree, just where has time gone. I'm retiring at the end of November after 42 years in the same job, and it still feels like just a few months ago when I started. We have something called phased retirement when you work less days every week (4 days, then 3 days then 2 days each week, changing monthly), and I've just realised that due to holidays, yesterday was the end of my last 5 day week.
It's a pity somebody couldn't take a laptop (or smaller pc) with a webcam so you could watch the wedding live.
I think Gissi would look great as a pageboy and would like to see the photo's of him.
Paws for thought.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
I know but they are not aloud to even take Videos so no chance I will be happy with the Photos and I spoke to her this morning even my Daughter said she can't believe that her best Friend is getting married lol
I could always dress Gissi up as the Page Boy and send her Photo lol do you think Gissi would approve
@Eskimo (2315)
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14 Sep 09
Alice - Just where has the time gone? I am looking forward to retirement(end of November), should then have time to do all the things that I can't at the moment, including catching up with old (& new) friends here. Might even have time to start some new discussions as well.
However, I get my bus pass this week, so I may zoom all over the country as well but won't be taking my computer with me. Also looking forward to more exercise as well, walking the dog and cycling. Also thinking about doing some voluntary work to keep me active. Gosh - how did I ever find time to go to work?
@AmbiePam (92865)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Yes, recently I have found myself looking back quite often. Comparing the past and present isn't really a good idea, but sometimes I do it anyway. I have been wistful at some points, but most of the time I'm glad I'm in the here and now. But I miss the camaraderie I had with my friends back then. Everyone is scattered about the state now days. The good memories I miss, the ones like you are describing. Sometimes I wish I could go back for a minute. But I like to think the future holds better things. I like to think that.
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
16 Aug 09
hiya Gabs... Sorry you had to miss your "daughter's" wedding. I know Gissi would of made a handsome page boy if he could stay quiet long enough. lol He would be talking to everyone in the church. I do a lot of thinking back and then wonder 'what if' with a lot of things. I'll never forget the time my husband brought home some frozen malts to eat. Our daughter was maybe 1 1/2-2 yrs old at the time. He opened one and sat on the kitchen floor to eat it. Our daughter came up and sat on the floor opposite him and proceeded to dig her little fingers in to scoop some out to eat. Was very cute. hmmmmmmmm......now I'm wondering if maybe she was even younger then 1 1/2. Wish I could find the picture of them sharing that malt.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 09
Hi there Sweetie, well we still have the Memories I guess and I have some wonderful Photos that my Daughter sent me from the Wedding I shall certainly be printing a couple of and frame them as they are beautiful I shall put you one here of Bride and Groom and my Daughter I really love this one
Hugs to you
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
21 Aug 09
What a lovely couple. Thanks for sharing, my friend. 
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
16 Aug 09
You are not foolish for sitting there crying......and another thing.....you probably don't realize the impact you had on their lives. I had the house where everyone hung out too....all the time there were tons of kids here. When one of my oldest daughter's friends got married we were in the reception line....I was about 10 back from the bride and groom.....I heard her say something to the next guest in line.....she said...I have to go see my other mom....and she stepped out of the reception line and headed right for me......I cried as I never knew how much I meant to her until that very moment.....many times those kids will tell me how much they loved being here....at the time I never knew it....now when I see them so many of them still call me mom....She probably loves you as much as her parents....for being there...for opening your home and arms to her! You deserve a good cry!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
21 Aug 09
As we get older, the faster time flies on by us. That's what my mom used to say when I was quite a bit younger and I didn't believe it but now that I'm older and see it happening, I believe it. Just this past Monday was our 18th wedding anniversary and we wonder, where the hell did the time fly off to? Makes me want to slow down and smell the roses more often.
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@donmafia44 (35)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 09
In the bible it says something about the days getting shorter as the coming of the lord nears
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@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
15 Aug 09
Hi gabs dearest,
Yes, I do think back sometimes.
In my opinion this is not so much due to age but with the fact that we see our children grow up.
It seems like yesterday to me when my daughter was little with little problems lol.
Now her problems are "a lot bigger" and she has almost turned into a woman.
I sometimes get nostalgic about the old times when I could comfort her with a hug.
I imagine that I feel pretty much the same as you do once she's left home.
Even though it's said that thinking about the past is a waste of time, I think there's nothing wrong with it, especially if the memories are positive.
Congrats to your daughter's best friends wedding.
I hope you'll feel better soon.
Look after yourself...
Love and hugs
XXX Dana
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
Yes it was easier when they just had little Problems and a big Hug would sort it lol
Now it takes a lot more, I am feeling fine, my Girls Friend had a wonderful Day and she looked beautiful as Mel sent me a Photo of her
Love to you always Dear Friend, I have sent you an invite to Gissi's Fun Place if you want to join it xxxx
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
15 Aug 09
No you're not foolish twin dear. Time goes way too fast my friend. And usually life keeps us so busy with its twists and turns while those little ones grow and grow. And when we finally have a break, we stop, look and get the shock of our lives.
In any case, I think that gissi would really be the best page boy hehehehehehe he would probably love it too - Oh! the attention :)
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@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
15 Aug 09
Well, the past is always painful even if it has been the best. One cries thinking about the good things; and one cries thinking about the bad things. For this reason, I try my hardest not to think about the past.
Recently, I lost my grandmother. Not that I was in close touch with her. My grandparents had half disowned my mother because she married the 'wrong' man. The man was, of course, really 'wrong." But, then, relationships with the grandparents was strained. I was still fond of my grandmother who used to visit us; and I would cuddle up to her and go to sleep. Well, now she is no more. And I went up to the hills with my dog and howled ... I was that miserable. So, yep, the past is miserable; so let it rest in peace. Look forward to the future, but don't dwell on it. Enjoy the present; it is the best.:)
Cheers and happy Mylotting
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
Yes Sweet it does hurt, there are many things that happened to me in the past from an early age on that is burried and will always stay buried but it is the happy Memories that I do like to think about it, even if it makes me cry there are few and far between but they are there the happy ones
Love to you Sweetie
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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15 Aug 09
Hi Gabs,
Congratulions!! on your daughter's best friend's wedding, I do understand how you feel as she is like your second daughter. Whern your children grows up right before your eyes, you do feel like they are your children and its normal for any mothers to have a good cry as you are doing but you are there in spirit as for Gissi, yes he would have made a lovely page dog/boy lol!, I can see him with a little blue ribon and jacket, what a sight he would have made.
I remeber when I my friend children were young, they used to be in out of the house with all their friends, it was like Piccadily Circus and I was forever telling them to sop banging the door the in the evening when my friend's daughter used to lie across me and wants me to rub her legs, thats just pampering her, she used to love that and her brother used to love me playing with his hair, I use to do a lot of babysitting for my friend and her hubby, they call me their second mum and even buy mother day presents. When my friend daughter got married few years ago, I cried, she was so beautiful in her wedding dress, when she had a mother daughter photo taken she asked me to be in ther picture, so there was three of us in there, now my friend's son is married also with two children. Yes how time flies and make me feel rather old, lol!! hugs.
Tamara
xxxx
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
Oh that was so sweet Tamara but yes I felt old today to, the Memories just went through my mind and I saw them in my mind what they where like when they where little lol and they where like Sisters lol always fighting lol but always stuck together xxx
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 09
hi gabs .. such beautiful memory .. i am almost 40 and got married late so i dont have the opportunity of having a child yet, but i will treasure the memory like you have ..
but i do have some little memory about myy love life with my der husband ...
thanks for sharing .. take care of your health Gabs
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
15 Aug 09
HI Gabs; How are you and dear Gissi??
Time does fly doesn't it?
My friends son her first born is due to start Kindergarten next week,
and I just cannot believe it..
as you said Where has the time gone too??
I think back often on a lot of things over the years like my nieces
and nephews and how old they all are now..GGEEEZZZ!!!
some are married, some are not but good grief where oh where
does the time go too?
They are having my 30 years Class reunion this weekend, I'm not
going of course...PPFFTTT!!!
Didn't go for the 10 year, didn't go for the 20 years, and for sure
am not going for the 30 years reunion...I could care less.
didn't like most of the kids I went to School with anyway why
would I want to see any of them after 30 years?? No thanks!
Those that I am still friends with we of course stay in touch
and see each other as often as possible...
Nope I could care less about School class reunions...LOL!
am I bad or what??
take care dear friend;
dry your eyes now...
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Aug 09
Hi there Sweetie
No you are not bad lol why be a hypocrite by pretending lol so you do right as I would do the same
But yes it seems like yesterday those Kids where little, now some of them have their own Children, some are getting married and it just feels so strange
Hugs to you
