Liking with mixed signals
By MinkeyBuddy
@MinkeyBuddy (42)
United States
August 15, 2009 11:11pm CST
Hi everyone, so I'm just wondering what people think about this. There's a girl that I like but I'm sort of getting some mixed signals with her. Most times I get the vibe that she likes me. For example, I can't seem to bump into her without having a short chat, she seems to like it if I get hair out of her face when eating, she seems like she smiles a lot. But then I've also gotten some negative signals, like when she talked about how she was talking to some guy on myspace and wasn't ready for a relationship (she said didn't know what she wanted then), and whenever I try to talk to her and initiate a longer conversation she'll take forever to respond or not talk to me. Also it seems like she's the type that only seeks you if you have something she wants, which is what one of my female friends has told me (Isn't that also like being shy?). Anyone have some ideas about this?
6 responses
@yourbetteroffasian (178)
• United States
17 Aug 09
All you have to do is go straight up to her and ask what's up? what's happening to you? Do you like me or not? You have to not be scared and just go up and ask her. You have to have the guts to do that and she'll give you the correct answer, probably not us. So, good luck with your girl and I hope you get her!
@shivamkapila (764)
• India
16 Aug 09
Mixed signals are problem occurring in every relationship from several years ..no one can understand how it comes in your life and also destroy some of the relationship as well
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
16 Aug 09
To remain in the dilemma of confusion it is better to just ask directly from her, may be she is waiting for you to pop up the question.Secondly all girls are not manipulative, it is possible she is shy. But honesty is the best policy in life, so better ask her about what her future plans are and you might get the answer you are looking for.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
this makes life and building a relationship very interesting and challenging. do not dwell much on your thoughts and perceptions. try to untangle them by spending more time with someone you are interested in. from there, you will uncover many things that may have been cause of your confusion or deep thought. just enjoy those moments you are with her. then things will become clear. goodluck.
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
16 Aug 09
If she talks to you for only a few minutes that's you're signal she's just not that into you. I'm sorry to tell you this. If a girl likes you; she is going to let you know. And she is going to want to spend more time with you. Now there are ways to tell if a person is really shy. When you bump into her is she the one that always leaves first? Ask her out for coffee or a movie or lunch. If she likes you in a romantic sense time will tell. But don't waste much time on someone unless you know there's possibility of romantic love there.
@kg1406 (61)
• United States
16 Aug 09
Hey there buddy.
Well I kind of have been in your situation. Well i think she might thing of you as a close friend. When a girl really likes you or thinks of you as more than her friend she will initiate conversations, find ways to like bumb into you, casually flirt with you and once in a while maybe flirt with another guy to get your attention. But if she is ignoring you and like sometimes she starts flirting with you and then stops after you let her borrow money or give her something she needed then shes using you. Don't waist your time. And if you really want to which i think would be better ask her. Tell her HEY IM GETTING THESE MIXED SIGNALS THAT YOU MIGHT LIKE ME, SOOO WHATS THE DEAL IM CURIOS. That way it shows your confident, and have guts and girls like that.
I HOPE THAT HELPS SOMEWHAT
