What you will do after you know the truth?

Dear Icesmile Don't lose your smile. Try to keep smile on this pain. God will help. I believe. But do something from yourself also. Both of you try to seat together face to face and talk clearly. Asked what does he want. If you find he is not assisting you don't force him. Do whatever you can do to make him understand. If still he cheat you of give pain take assistance of your country law. After all I believe don't take pain more and take wise decision to quite from himself. I know it is not so easy. But you have to strong enough to handle the situation. Bye . Good night.

It's really hard. But first, you have to surrender everything to God. You have to f you want to leave your partner, then leave. If you wanna stay, I guess you have to talk to him and tell everything you feel. You have to have a cheerful disposition in life. Books that tackle heartbreaks will be a great help for you my dear. You will never feel good in revenge. Just try to forgive him. Don't let yourself be depressed because it will swallow you. Be strong and accept that it is a part of life that should make you a better person. You will find someone who will love you. Just have faith in God and everything will be just fine. Good luck and God bless your heart. Happy my lotting to you!

I think sometimes we do need to be prepared to take any pain from any relationship. Nobody can guarantee we meet the right person in our first time. So we have to suffer from any pain then go on to reach the last destination. Even the truth is very cruel and not acceptable we still need to be a strong and accept it. For any relationship the most important is that to keep you happy at the first position always. So even the relationship is over at least you can protect you from big hurt.

dearest ice, ive been away for a while and have many things to catch up with and now i see this. i can feel the anger in your discussion. but there is nothing that could be resolved when one is angry. and pain will not subside when one wants revenge. take it from my experience. it took me almost a year to get over a broken heart and there was no peace in my heart then. and when i looked back, i saw the damage and the neglect i have caused to my loved ones who have been there all the time and giving support. let go ice, and move on. dont be desperate over spilled milk. he is not worth it. ann

Not much you can do when the Truth hits you in the head...You just sit there and hopefully learn...if you don't then you can expect the same lies to come around.

i would try to console the person who didnt i trust before i heard the truth,if he is innocent,i would beg pardon.

Well it depends on how he cheated on me and with who. I'd find a way to humiliate him first before breaking up with him. I'd have to make sure that he truly was cheating though and then I'd make sure to get him back in the worst way possible that wouldn't land me in jail or in some type of trouble with the law. I'd want to make sure he was hurt in some way before breaking up with him so I'd let them know they wouldn't get away with doing that to me.

Hi, Icesmile! First, he wasn't stupid because he was caught. He was stupid to do anything to be caught at! Revenge is hardly the answer. It just makes a bad situation worse. Dignity requires eliminating all signs of this person from one's life and moving on to someone much, much better!

hi I'm sorry that your partner has cheated on you. I am always surprised that women seem to fight over the same men while others sit alone at home. Know you will not get your dignity back however do not transfer your feelings towards all men, we are not all the same.

I'd just want out. There is this wonderful little thing that I say to myself that always helps me in cases in which I've been wronged. "What comes around, goes around". Believe me, it does. They may not pay for what they do right away or even by my hand but these things have a way of working their way out.

In this kind of situations, for sure is better to finish this relationship, just because next time he will cheat somebody again. Who cheated once will make this again and again, no matter what. Is hard, of course, i know very well what mean when somebody cheated on you. And is very hard because you can t trust in this kind of peoples again, so a lot of people will pay for him mistake.

I can't get past cheating, so I will break up with him, better that then argue everyday, I need to know why, why did you feel the need to do this to me, to us, there is a reason he did it , but we will never really know what that is, some woman can handle it, I can't so I move on,Great post, what I have learned throughout the years is a man can cheat on us, but if his woman cheats on him, he can not deal with it, why in my opinion is just the thought of another man touching his woman is too much for him to handle, but he is too stupid to realize that is exactly how we feel.