Time Out or Spanking?

Very good discussion topic. Need more like this. Both are approiate and need to be carefully used or they become meaningless. I once worked with a student who was given a time out for everything he did wrong. His time outs were for days a a time. When he was in High school he figured o out that he was grounded, Time out, until he was 45 years old so what the heck. I have found that short inconvient time outs work best. Spankings should be reserved for thiose things that are sever and you want stopped righ now. I have found that a quick light spanking can be more effective that a hard slap causing pain.

I think both are good. It all depends on the situation. I was spanked as a child and I turned out great :). I didn't dare act up, especially in public...if I even started to act like I was gonna do something I got "The Look" and knew better. I think the biggest reason people don't spank their kids or get on to them as much as they should these days is because they are scared that they are going to get into trouble and/or get their child taken away from them. This is really sad because I have a friend that refuses to get onto her children at all because her kids while at school are given numbers to call if they are abused and they threaten her with it all the time if she doesn't get them everything they want. So when you see children that are straight demons you can thank the system that has struck the fear into people about disiplining thier children.

I'm divided. If spanking is done it should be done without anger, and surely limited. Time out takes more work, but should be enforced, not wishy washy, as should restrictions of tv, phone or computer.. Mostly I find people are given to extremes.. ten years of tv or phone, etc banning.. so ya have to back down or be Attilla the Hun! I do think it's ok to change one's mind, as in "I was angry when I said ten years, so we'll make that a week", or a day or two, whichever best applies as to the age of the child or severity of their wrongdoing. - You see folks who discipline their kids not at all, or ones who barely want their kids to make a peep or move.. Either way, strict or way lenient.. I think each are a cop out. Children want to have fences and bounds (reasonable ones) they can feel 'safe' in. All I know, lotsa angry, anti society, or violent kids seem to pop up.. but each extreme I mentioned, and movies and games can be contributing to that, plus abuses, at home OR school.. and both parents are way busy working in order to pay the bills. It almost seems like a conspiracy was carried out against, kids and family. Hope all the angry kids don't become recruited into extremist groups, for their sake and everyone else's.

I think it totally depends on the situation. Im not a mom so i cant elaborate more. But i dont think I would spare the child and spoil the rod. Sometimes a spanking is better than a time out especially when the child is too small to understand the smae.

I think kids need a spanking now and then. When I was a kid that what was what kept me in line. Im not saying beatings are good but a spank every now and then could'nt hurt.

when my children are bad i give them a time out. But that also depends on how bad they are and what they did. If it is something as dangeris as walking in the middle of the road they get a spanking. tThey know better. My oldest is 6 and his brother is 4. I have 2 other children as well who are under 2 so the 4 and 6 year old is showing the example for the younger two.

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YOU HAVE TO BE CRULE TO BE KIND. AGOOD WACK ON THE BUM NEVER HART ME. THE SMART ONES SOON GET IT BE GOOD OR GET WACKED.

i'm sorry but i spank my kid. time out means nothing in my house. he understands that if he does something bad he will get a spanking.

Spare the rod, spoil the child. I am a firm believer of spanking. I was never spanked, I was whupped! My kids wouldn't know what to do if I told them to take a time out.

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foolishness is bound in the heart of a chidthe rod of correction will drive it far from himi believe in this sayin quoted from bible

Spankings for the right things, but not to physically hurt them to more or less put fear in them. You don't want to leave bruises and such.

there are worse things than spankings.. lol.. my children jsut arent old enough to recieve the type of punishments when they cant use the computer, phones, cars, or have to clean somethin yucky!.. they dont cross me too far yet.. but theyre still babies to me! usually preteen starts to be time for "actual" punishments and groundings,, cant really take away what they dont have yet! but the whole idea of a punishment is to learn that your mistakes have consenquences right? and the punishment should suit the crime to i think .. so spanking or hitting a child cuz they like yelled or took something they were supposed to or got a detention or something just doesnt seem to teach them anything except .. "well mommy hits me when shes mad... when im mad i can hit (sibling, other child, whoever)" i feel very strongly about this one..

I give time outs to my daughter who is two years old. Growing up the child of an abusive father, spanking just doesn't sit well with me. I realize that there is a difference between "hitting" and "spanking", but I just don't think it is effective either way. My fiancee spanks our daughter if she gets out of hand and wants me to back him up when he does, but I just can't. It bothers me that much. In my mind, it's not okay to hit your kids, in any sense of the word.

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There have been times when spanking is appropriate. A quick whack on the bottom is a quick reminder of the fact that you have done wrong. I would give my children the opportunity to right themselves, but if the offensive act was repeated they would get a smack. I did give time out in the corner. Never longer than 15 minutes to ponder what was more important.

I was spanked as a child and I was terrified to misbehave. I turned out ok. Nothing urks me more than being at a store and a little beastie is screaming it's head off and the mother does nothing about it. Spank it! Put fear of god into the child. Jeez. Just because you can't control the little brat doesn't mean the rest of us should have to hear screaming/temper tantrums while we are trying to shop.

i dont agree with hitting children. you should start discipling them from a young age (without violence). if you do that, then you most likely wont even need to get to the point of hitting them. so many parents think its ok to be easy with their kids when they're young, then they wonder why their kids are so bratty and disrespectful when they get older. its called early discipline..dont wait til its too late!

we do both, sometimes a time out is just not sufficent enough. I prefer to use the time out first