First love: He loves me......he loves me not......
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
August 16, 2009 5:11pm CST
He still loves me.....I went to my forty year class reunion and my first love was there.....we broke up under some very stressful circumstances and he has been married for 39 years to the gal he ditched me for. Several times during the years he has tried to lure me back.....but this weekend.....he told me. He will always love me! So..do you know if your first love is still thinking of you? Are you still with your first and only love? Do you wonder if they still think of you?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Wow! I guess first love can be the love of your life.I can't answer your question yet. I just found my first real love. We are still together but everything is still new. I know that if we were to part, I would want to know he would be happy with his other love. As for keeping in touch? I don't know. I guess it would all depend on if I had another love or was I still holding on.If I had another and I was happy , then I guess we could go back to being friends, that's how we started. But if I sTill wanted him, te best thing for me is to cut all contact unless he still loved me.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Aug 09
That's what I mean. If I still loved my first, there is no room for the next guy. It would be unfair to stay around if he really stopped loving me. I feel sorry for his wife.Don't get me started on marriage. For me, it would Never work, especially if I married the love of my life.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Good thinking....I don't have feeling for this guy and he is married to the one who he left me for.....it's a shame that she's been married all these years to someone who loves someone else....he really never gave her a chance to really love him!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
17 Aug 09
Oh h*ll! So he is not fat and bald? This is a fine kettle of fish that you have got yourself into. I think that possibly one always has a deep love for the first love. I don't really know as I met my husband at an early age and then we got married after I had grown up a little. I still think of him a lot - like every day - I expect that he is praying for me in heaven.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
18 Aug 09
But you do have that frisson of satisfaction that he has always cared for you. This is a good ending. I hate men who dye their hair. I dye mine but dislike me who do so.
@ellie333 (21016)
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17 Aug 09
Wow Jill, having read your book I realise who you mean and who she is. Only recently I found out that my first and really ONLY love had been trying to track me down for a few years and we have recently connected through Facebook but since last year he has now met someone who is is happy with so I am happy that he is happy. Our paths have crossed over the years and we both still have deep feeling for one another but our story was very complicated. Therefore I know he is thinking of me as I am of him but come on tell all, he declared his love for you is it a two way thing??? LOL you don't have to answer that one. Huggles. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Definately not..there have been several ocassions where I could have had him back....what I don't understand is why he still loves me...Sat. night he sat with his knees on mine and I kept trying to move and he kept putting them against me....his poor wife sat on the opposite side of the table trying to appear very happy but you could see the pained look on her face....and I was walking to my car to leave on Sunday...and he was just going back into the building and he stopped me and took my hand and squeezed it and told me.....I didn't say anything but quickly dismissed myself and went to my car and left....it's odd though...when I got into my car I cried....I still don't know why!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
17 Aug 09
i DON'T THINK ANYONE EVER FORGETS THEIR FIRST LOVE. mINE LIVED here in town but i sure have no desire to be with him. I guess they do think of u because u think of them sometimes but i'm fine where i am & i hope he is. I had a bigger love than him that i think of real often but that's over & done with to, thank heavens. Be careful Jill & don't get pulled into getting your heart broken.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
17 Aug 09
GOOD FOR U, I'm glad u don'thave any feelings for him.Thanks Jill, u are a sweetie to.
@dbabcook (388)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I am not still with my first and only true love, but we do have occassional contact with one another. I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I love very much and he does have alot of the qualities of my first love. Yes he is not my first but he is very close and I love him dearly. My first love and I spoke on the phone a while back and he informed me that he had fallen in love with me years ago but was afraid to tell me for fear of ruining our friendship, which is why I chose not to tell him also. Boy were we dumb. Lord only knows where things would have been by now had we both just been upfront with each other back then.
@linkmaster111 (74)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I'm still and will always be with my first love. I've always known that if I fall in love with someone, that would be it, I wouldn't be able to love just anyone. I know that my girlfriend an I will be together forever.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Aug 09
jillhill myfirst and only love is now gone but we were
married for 43 years. we had two children and lost one.
we went through good and bad times but we were always
in love and always there for each other. I only wish
we had met sooner and had had more years toghether but
I am so glad we had what we had.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 09
My first love didn't last very long, he wasn't right for me. We are still sort of in touch by e-mail, but not often at all. I can't imagine getting back with him even if he wasn't married.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
i was 14 years of age when i met my first love but right now, we no longer communicate. we're still friends but we don't hang out already. after him, i had three boyfriends and i know he has a number of girlfriends too... i'm happy that he's happy and that makes me feel so contented though we didn't end up together
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
25 Aug 09
I doubt that my first love still thinking of me... But one thing as for sure, i know somehow that she will never forget me... I do ever wondering if she still thinking of me or not, but thinking about her family now than me was the important things for her i think...
