If someone has hurt you

Hi jugs....I was always taught that two wrongs don't make a right. If someone hurts me what will it gain me to hurt them in return? The hurt they gave me will still be there and then I will have a guilty conscience for hurting them besides. I am the turn the other cheek person and then that way they are the ones feeling guilty and I have a clear conscience. flutterby

I've been hurt by my best friend. And all i can say to him is that day is that i forgive him, but will never forget what he's done to me. Until now, i realize i never really forgive him. I just cant. Maybe i wont. I dont know.. I bealive in karma, I bealive people always get what they deserve.

I have been hurt so many times its not funny..and its pretty much about heart breakage..the worst is when my best friend stole my boyfriend a cpl years ago..i wanted to hurt them liek no one has ever wanted to hurt anyone,but i didnt because for one ididnt want to end up in jail ,ihave a 7 yr old son i need to behere for and 2..i strongly believe in karma,,.and it found them both..he lost teh nest job he ever had and she lost her kids to foster homes..which that breaks my heart,,she needed help as a mom but i dont think she deserved to have them taken away..its been a year now and still fighting..but she did alot of bad things to alot of people and her kids as well..so maybe it was for the best.i dont know..but i do belive in karma,and it always finds you..just may take longer to get the ppl so have faith and i advise noone to hurt anyone back..its not worth it..

It is so refreshing to know that they will feel the hurt that I am feeling too. Yes I want them to feel the way I feel, but in a way that it will not comes from me but from different people hopefully. When I am hurt I always wanted to have revenge , if they will hurt me I will do the same but what will happen next? if I will do the same I will just prolonging my anger, I will never move on. I can never forget what happen.

No, I wouldn't waste the time and effort. I'd give up caring what that person thought of me (and what I'd ever thought of him/her) & be free to live my life the way I wanted from then on!

The best revenge is success. Sometimes we get hurt in life, work, relationships, etc, and getting even feels like it would be so fantastic, but, truly, you only hurt yourself with that kind of mentality. People get obsessed over revenge, like the book, Moby D*ck. (Can't write the word)

My best defense is to avoid someone who hurts me. If it's my husband, I tell him but if it's someone outside the family, I don't have any contact with them for awhile. I am a firm believer in, "what goes around, comes around." Have seen it happen so many times. I get terribly irritated when I feel used. One friend borrowed money from me 4 years ago. She is slowly paying me back but not without some encouraging on my part. If I was such a good friend, she would have appreciated me helping her at the time and promptly paid me each month. I was used and for that reason I don't have much contact with her any longer. We were good friends for over 20 years and I trusted her.

it depends I guess but I certainly would return the favour if I have the time and my mind is not preoccupied with other things unfortunately all my life I am always battered with problems so I have very little time to avenge any wrong doings against me although it doesn't matter because karma takes care of it all the time but sometimes I wish I did my own revenge anyway it doesn't matter now the universe knows what to do and I am far too tired every day I struggle with stress and financial

Revenge no matter what for me. Sure, forgiving is good and might be even better for yourself to release that anger but they have to know what's it like to be hurt like so they won't do it again. That's partly what the judicial system is about, getting punished for something you did wrong to someone. In the olden times, the law was "an eye for an eye" so you get punished the way you hurt that person. Now, it's prison time, just as well.

hi jugsjugs no not at all for I will not stoop as low 'as the person who hurt me, never not at all.what good would that do as I would just feel bAd that i had done a really bad thing. I would know that that person already knew how I felt and could care less. those kinds of people have no morals or scruples either.

revenge was never in my league because i know for sure that if i'll do it, i will be the one who's going to be hurt most since i was loving him too much... my love's happiness is much more important to me...

Hi, if somebody hurt me , my first thoughts will be to pay in same way, i mean i will want to hurt him back; but after a while, i will say; this is life, if i was stupid and let him hurt me, i must to pay. in my opinion all in this life hapened with a reason, and if i am hurt, mean that this was a sign that i must change something. Will come a time when he will pay...life teach me that all must to be payed in one day.