A few real friends or a million fake ones, which would you prefer?
By Citychic
@Citychic (4067)
United States
August 17, 2009 12:08am CST
Huggs to all of my true friends, so hey guys and girls, I'm over there thinking, which would you rather have, a few real good friend, or a million fake ones? Actually this topic happened to pop up in my head as I was commenting to a friend not very long ago. It's amazing some of the things that we mylotters can think of isn't it? So which would you choose?![](/Content/images/emotes/yawn.gif)
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@slogger (48)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I would absolutely choose a few real friends over a million fake ones. If you only had a large group of fake friends, you would have no one that really cares for you. When you start having troubles in life, those million fake friends would quickly turn into a million strangers who want nothing to do with your troubled life. The real friends would be there to help you through anything no matter what the issue or problem is. While at first the million fake friends might seem fun, the novelty would quickly wear off and their lack of dedication to you would become blatant.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
yes that is absolutely right, I can't argue with you over this one my dear friend slogger because you know exactly what you are talking about. It appears that you must have had quite a bit of experience at some point in your life in dealing with fiends. I didn't get out the nest until I was kind of old but when I happen see a bird fly by carrying a great message I can sho nuff spot it out in a hurry. So thanks for participating and please add me as a friend if you feel like we'll hit if off pretty well! Happy mylot!![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@quita88 (3715)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I think we'd all want true friends rather than a lot of fake ones.
I have made two good friends on mylot and that is great ! I also have a lot of friends that I haven't had a chance to really know too, but that will come.
Hang in there :)
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Thank you Quita, I feel your kind warm spirit and I am going to ask you to please add me as a friend. I have a feeling that you and I will be getting along just great. You are right, most of us would probably prefer to have real friends over fake ones if we actually had our choice in the matter. But sad thing is that no everybody has a choice depends upon their situation. God bless you!![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Hello Cupid74, thank you for the huggs. You've answered quite well in the discussion and there's really not much more that need to be said concerning it. If you want to know of a few of my views, simply read a few of the post that I've either posted before or after yours. I think that anyone with a logical mind should want to choose the real friends over the fake ones but then again, it takes all kinds to make up the world. I'm sure that if you or I were to instantly hit the lottery, we'd both have so many fake friends that we wouldn't be be able to keep up with them all
Take care dear and keep mylotting!
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Sure here's a hugg in advance, you know it takes so little to be a true friend Bhanusb. Why isn't there more love and caring goign on in this big old world?
please add me as a friend if you like my spirit. I really like your's already and we've only exchange a few words. I may not be able to respond to each one of your discussions but we can always love and support each other in spirit, have a great day, huggs, huggs, huggs!
Thanks for stopping by.
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@ranviruchauhan (1407)
• India
17 Aug 09
Friend is a very very good creature of god. In blood realtion god have not given us chance to chooose but friend we can chose and share everything which we cannnot share with our bro, mom, pa or anybody.Even good relation between bro is called "they are like friends" means friendship is far above than brothership. Happpy mylotting!!
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Hello my friend ranviruchauchan,
Let me start out by saying that I do believe in God. But that is where you and I may differ on a few things at. When God made brothers, he created something that is so special and wonderful that few if anything should ever be able to stand against it. This is just my upbringing and how I saw my parents teaching us love between each other. Even today each one of my siblings and I are very close. A few of them are scattered out. But in my heart, I still hold true to the old ways, which is "Love thy brother". Now as far as friendship goes. well let's just say to me, that is a horse of a different color. While it's still important and something to be cherished. I feel that nothing should come before family. I may be wrong but I feel that the bond of family should be stronger than everything else. This is just how I was brought up to believe. Thanks for sharing,, ,We can always try to learn something from one another even if we don't always agree!![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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@ranviruchauhan (1407)
• India
20 Aug 09
its ok, no worries. We all brothers are nice bonding and i am completely agree with you but there are many things which i cannot share with them which i can share with my friends.I am agree with all of your points but it may very between different kind of people. Happy mylotting!!
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
17 Aug 09
Well huggs right back atcha. I love the Hugg a Planet. Its a stuffed globe I got for my kiddo. A few real friends or a million fake ones....This is me right there, I have a few real friends and a million fake ones. If I had to choose I would choose the few real ones of course. I hardly ever talk to my fake friends. But my Real friends are always there offering support and listening to me.
Cheers.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
thanks for the huggs CJ, I like what you had to sa
To be honest I think there must be a lot of us that are in the same boat. But we do what we need to do to make it from day to day. Trying not to step on too many toes. Besides I always think that everyone is here for a reason. So even if they are fake, there is something that we are supposed to learn from them
. Happy mylot!
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@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
20 Aug 09
Indeed my friend, there is always something to be learned from every situation. Good or bad situation isn't the situation, it is the way the situation is looked upon.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
I can live with few real friends then have a million fake ones. Although i can have friends anywhere..we still go back to the people that we know who can be happy for us and can be there for us whatever happens and vice versa.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Yes indeedie, you are absolutely right.... Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this very important discussion daryjane, i think at a mininmum it will cause us all to begin to think a little bit more seriously about our friendships and to reexamine who we are calling a friend. A real friend would never turn their backs on us, don't ya know?
Please add me as a friend if you feel that I'm worthy of your friendship. May God bless you!
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@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
18 Aug 09
This one is so easy for me. I would have a few real friends over fake ones any day of the week. I recently found out the hard way about fake friendships and it was devistating, so if I only have a couple of real friends then I would be happy and content.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Don't worry my friend
, something tells me that soon you are going to have more real friends than what you will know what to do with. I can feel you have a very kind warm heart all the way over here. Please add me as a friend if you feel that I'm deserving of your friendship. I hope to hear from you soon and thanks for responding.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Yes, I know where exactly where you are coming from Margajoe. In that case you need to just get from them whatever it is that you think you can get and then go on your merry way, don't worry because you will have real friends to show up some day. A real friend is someone that won't take advantage of you. Please add me if you believe that I'm worthy of your friendship. God bless you.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hey Citychic! Of course I would prefer to have a few good
real friends! That's all that you need! I was always told that
if you could count your true friends on one hand then you could
consider yourself very lucky! And I must say that I can! I
have some true friends, and then I have "acquaintences". You
have to know the difference between the two! Some may start
out as friends, but then things will quickly change! It takes
alot of time for to know if someone is a true friend! I have
three true friends that have been in my life for many years
and I know that they will always be there for me no matter
what and two of them don't even live in the same state as I
do and I haven't seen either one in years, but we are always
in contact!
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Yes Opal I can certainly relate with what you're saying and I want to thank you for the fine comment. Hope your friendships last for a lifetime, even if they may only be few. One or two really good ones is really all that you need. God bless you and I hope to hear from you again sometimes. Thanks for coming through to my rescue. you are loved and thought of more than you will ever know!
keep mylotting! Because you write terrific comments that I really enjoy reading!
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I would prefer to have real friends and only a few of them then a lot of friends that are fake. I have had my share of fake friends and that has taken me through an emotional roller coaster after finding at they were not my true friends, they have no longer been apart of my life. Now I only have 2 real friends and I am greatful for them being apart of my life and being the real friend that I needed and also being there when all my other friends that I thought were my friends were not there.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
thanks for your response trisha. You know I really do appreciate ya. The thing is that you responded in such a manner as just what I was looking for. Not to say that there was anything wrong with the way that anyone else here has responded but you actually broke the discussion down and you even gave me a few of the details concerning friendships that you'd encountered in the past. Without really putting it all out there. I like the way you handled yourself in this and even though I was feeling kind of sleepy and tired during this whole discussion. You've really helped me to bring me back around. You know when one is reading over his or her discussion and it's kind of like, everyone is really saying the same thing, it can tend to get a bit monotonous after a while. But I want to thank you. For giving me something to think about and a comment well worth reading. Great job
I do hope to hear more from you and I would be honored if you could add me as a friend
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@yandongpolice (17)
• China
18 Aug 09
A friend in need is a friend indeed. Number of friends but does not line in more than fine. When you have difficulties, your friend should lend a helping hand in time. Usually you should have a little more communication between your soul, not just the drink. So I prefer a few real friends to a amillion fake ones.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
I like that Yandongpolice![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
A friend in need is a friend in deed! I've heard that somewhere before in my past and I guess it must be still true of the present. God bless youl, take care and stay friendly at all times. One great secret concerning friendship that I learned, if this, if you want to have a lot of friends, then show yourself friendly. Believe me it works like a charm every time
. See you around, my friend!
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@sharryCD (121)
• China
19 Aug 09
I don't think the number of friends we have is so important. In my opinion, we should find the real friends instead of millions of fake ones. Maybe some one will think that having a lot of friends will make their life colorful.But have they ever considered that counld he/she rely on his/her friends.We say a friend in need is a friend indeed. The real friend is the one that accompany us when we are in trouble and depression. Find real friends is really a blessed thing in people's life.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
That is so true. Well according to the mylot game it's a good thing to have a lot of friends, so we have to play the game wisely, we all will know inside of our hearts if we have true friends or not. A true friendship isn't something that can be faked. As it's like a rare and precious jewel, we come across few real friends in life. Please add me as a friend if you'd like. I would love to see more of you around and to hear more of your godly wisdome. Bless you friend!![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Aug 09
citychic I would always prefew a few real honest to goodness
friends anyday than have a million fair weather friends.
I have a few here in mylot that showed up when I returned
after having had nine months of bad luck after badluck and having
my computer stored.They welcomed me back and made me cry at
'the honest caring they showed. a few read friends make you'
happy while the others you could care less.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Thanks for sharing Hatley, that was just beautiful and i'm glad that you made it back safely. You know we all have ups and downs sometimes in life. But the downs are only around to make us stronger and better. They say what don't kill us make us stronger. Anyhow I'm glad that the friends you'd made at mylot showed strong support once you came back. You know Hately, often there are more people that love us than what we will ever really know. Not all are fake friends but the good ones surely will come to our rescue won't they
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@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
17 Aug 09
A few real ones. I'd say right about now, I have only two or three real friends. It took me many years to see the stress that the fairweathered friends and users were doing to my life.... But if ya swallow poison, you gotta get it out. So over the period of a couple of months, to hinder temptation, I changed phone numbers, changed screen names in my IM programs, changed my myspace settings, removed and blocked people from my IM's. I hated doing that to people I care about, but people who only take take take and never give aren't friends.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Yeah, I hear you loud and clear on this one zoey7879. And you gotta do what you gotta do. Personally I would have been just wee bit hesitant about having all of those fairweather friends in the first place. But you know we live and learn Zoey, and really that's about all that we can do. On social networking sites, it's a very different thing. Luckily most of the sites can be used for whatever purpose we as the user choose to use it for, most of the time. I guess it simply comes down to knowing what we are getting ourselves into. For me Zoey, i will call just about anybody a fried but most of my real friends will always know who they are. take care and have a good day. ( tip of the day: A good understanding between two friends is one of the best things in the world
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Please add me here as a friend if you don't mind.
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@Letitia30 (64)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I rather have a few real friends than a bunch of fakes and wannabes around me. Fake friends have no loyalty and they really talk about you behind your back. Those fakes can't be trusted. I always wondered if you don't like me than why do you insist on hanging around? Not to be trusted. They can get you in a lot of trouble, too.
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@seanbryan (349)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Aug 09
Hi citychic!
No doubt i would prefer few real good friend than a million fake ones. "Real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out and she is there for me when she'd rather be anywhere else". Everyone needs a friend to share with it times of joy and moreso in times of trouble. Fake friends aren't there when you need them most so why would I seek for them?
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
That is absolutely right Seanbryan. And what you've said was simply beautiful. Real friends are probably harder to find than a needle in a haystack but once you find one, oh my, you'd never want to let it go. I can probably just about count all of my real friends on one hand. And yet I've heard that in life if you even get one or two real friends you aren't doing too bad!
Simply due to the fact that they are so hard to find.
Please add me as a friend
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@mtvmtv (600)
• India
17 Aug 09
Not only me but most of us will prefer real friends.Fake ones are always avoidabe because they are like unwanted insects of the society.But we can't overcome them as they are every where in the society like air.Well,even a single real friend is far better than an army of fake ones.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
20 Aug 09
yes I agree with you mtvtv. Oh well, I wanted to write something more prolific down here for you to read but now I'm starting to get kind of tired and when the brain starts to feeling this way, all that i can say is, thanks for your response. You're right and I agree. So maybe this time I will just say, we'll have to finish the discussion later. Take care and please add me as a friend if you feel that I'm worthy of your friendship. God bless you![](/Content/images/emotes/wink.gif)
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