What wiLL you do if your partner has a bad breath.??
By janebeth
@janebeth (2032)
Philippines
August 17, 2009 2:35am CST
hi friends,
maybe all of us dislikes person with bad breath, i remember the time when my friend asks me an advice way back 2008 that his boyfriend smells so bad every time he talks with her.. and she is ashamed to tell him that he really smells bad, but note he really loves the guy.. i just advice her to tell her frankly, and you know she really do it.. after it the guy breaks up with her.. did i advice her the wrong one.??
does it offend him so much that my friend is just being honest to him, now my friend blames me for what happen to both of them.. but i think i am just right, my friend is not my friend now.. i just hate her for being so fool with the guy, asking an advice from me then after all blames me for the result..
how about you friends, what will you do if you're partners has a bad breath??
will you be honest??
thanks for the responses...
have a great day..!!
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18 responses
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
simple...
break up with him!
ewwwwwwwwwwww
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@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
there are sensitive and delicate topics that should be carefully thought out and worded to avoid unintended consequences. smelling bad is an earthly thing. it is natural if we don't do anything. however, it has become a modern turn off because we get used with fragrance and good smell. bad breath can be caused by poor hygiene or disease. if it's poor hygiene, then it can be tackled. if it is a disease, then it can only be minimized. focus on the desired end of your action, and not on the process of telling.
@jaysumalnap (236)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Hi mensab,
In her situation there are only 2 things she can do, to tell or not to tell.
And in all angles the right thing to do and the desirable end would be, to tell the truth and that the friendship will still be there. If she just focused on the desired end and leave the fact that the problem is still there, then where is this all going? Nothing is accomplished.
To leave the problem and keep the friendship is a difficult task, to solve the problem and leave the friendship is another, to tell the hurtful truth and still keep the friendship in the end is the most difficult.
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I have been married going on 40 years and have learned to carry gum and breath mints with me all the time. When my spouse has bad breath or anyone else I just take out a stick of gum or a mint and pop it in my mouth then offer them one and most the time they take it without question. Occassionally if they refuse. I say nicely you need it. Works every time.
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I would tell them to visit the dentist or pop some breath mints. Honesty is the best answer or nothing will get done.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
me and my boyfriend says everything. as much as possible i always say everything even if its negative.. and its not offending if you'll say it in a nice way.
@bluehibiscus (702)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I was finally honest after he caught me back away from kiss. He asked do I have bad breath, I said yes but it isn't a big deal we can fix it. I told him to floss and use hydrogen peroxide 3% diluted with water for mouthwash. He did it, has great breath now. :)
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Aug 09
Oh jane, I am so sorry for losing a friend just like that. I think he's not worth your friend, with the right advise you've given him. But if you have to ask me, I will also do the same thing. I will frankly tell you that. No matter what will be the come out. Happy mylotting dear.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I would be honest but diplomatic about it. I would have told my friend to offer her boyfriend breath mints, often! He may get the hint and, if not, I'd have to tell him that he needs to do something about his breath. If he breaks up with my friend, then their relationship was not a strong one to begin with.
Since your friend is blaming you for the breakup, that friendship you had with her was not a strong one, either. She asked you for advice, you gave it to her. You did nothing she didn't ask for. It was entirely up to her to heed your advice or not.
If you want this friendship back, I'd tell your friend that if her boyfriend broke up with her because she wanted him to do something about his breath, then he was not that serious about their relationship.
Actually, if someone told me I needed to do something about my breath, I'd be grateful for that advice and do something about it because I'd hate thinking that people were always talking behind my back about my bad breath!
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
18 Aug 09
Hi janebeth,
How sensitive sosme people about themselves, it was a good advice, would kiss someone who has bad breath? its only because they have bad diet or had eaten garlic, I always tells my hubby if he had bad breath but we do keep mouth wash which we used three times a day but if your friend id no longer a friend, well she was not a friend after all also if her boyfriend broke it of with here, well he is just a fool and did not care for her, she is better off without him.
Tamara
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Tell him to brush his teeth!? hehe, my partner doens't have a bad breath, only sometimes on the morning but you know everybody does have a bad breathe in the early morning when we wake up from the bed.
If he did, I would tell him and see what he will do; I used to have a bad breathe because of my rotten teeth and dirty teeth gum, after I wnet to the dentist and got them fixed, it is all better now and I don't have a bad breathe anymore.
@jaysumalnap (236)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
I'd do the right thing - tell him the truth. Sometimes the truth will hurt but if the person you're telling to accepts the fact positively, then you have helped him/her a lot.
Most people with bad breath usually don't know that they have one. And its the responsibility of the people around him to inform him. You can't be blamed for whatever negative result that may occur because all you did was try to help.
@dbabcook (388)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Well, it's obvious that her boyfriend has issues. Obviously he can't deal with her honesty. I would rather her about it from someone I care about rather than have a total stranger tell me. Your friend didn't do anything wrong nor do I feel you did with your advice. As far as I'm concerned they have both lost out with their actions.
@Babijai24 (37)
• United States
24 Aug 09
id b like damn babi ur breath smells lyke shyt then smyle n sai naw foh real n weed laff about it...after she fyxes lol
@daphne009 (301)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Well, to me, my husband has this problem because he smokes and I used to smoke but now I don't because I'm pregnant. So for me, it stinks terribly! It makes it hard for me to want to kiss him.
@sonz_doreen (193)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Aug 09
I'd just pop some mint in his mouth time to time or better still if I'm looking for natural cures, I'll advice him a mouthwash or ask him to chew some cardomom or saunf...
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Aug 09
hi janebeth if my breath were bad I would love my partner
'or friend to tell me, as thats what friends are for. so
yes I would gently tell my friend she needs to rinse'
her mouth with mouthwash as she has a bad breath. hopefully
I will be gently enough that she will not be angry with me.
If we cannot be honest with our friends who can we be honest
'with?