Case of the disappearing lingerie....

Just talk to him about it, and ask that it doesn't happen again. If he is aware you know that should handle it. Cheers.

I would be honest and straight forward. I would explain that although you can understand his actions they are not appropriate. If he wants to continue this habbit he will have to buy his own props and not ruin your under garments.

Directly, of course. Find a time when you're both alone and tell him you've noticed your things turning up in his laundry. You know he's a normal young man with perfectly normal instincts and the need to act but not on his stepmother's underwear!! Offer to buy him some items? Or a magazine? How old is your step son? Throw the used items away, don't offer those to him. Step mothers shouldn't be the object of lust, and I doubt that you are but your undies are attractive.

He seems like a sick individual....stealing his step mom's panties.....God knows what he will be doing with them...I dont think he is wearing them. Only way to tackle...confront him....and make it clear if this ever happen again you will kick him out of the house.

This is a sensative situation, especially if the stepson is a young teen. It is a situation that should be handled with some tact and probably by the boy's father. I suggest that the best way to handle it would be for the father to discuss with his son that he is taking things that do not belong to him, and that he does not have the right to do "things" to other people's belongings. I certainly would steer clear of telling a young teenage boy that he is "sick and disgusting". I seriously doubt that is the correct way to handle the boy.

maybe you could just move your delicates to a safer more hard to get location- I'm sure he'll get the hint that not only do you know whats up but that you don't appreciate it. That way your message gets across and neither of you have to have that embarassing conversation!

It is very sick. He must have got very serious problem that I think. If possible, speak with him or his dad.

Tell him to do things more constructive, like gardening or going out to the library to read books and things like that. he'll get the picture and stop taking your personal belongings. If that doesn't work, tell him that you'll have to discuss this with his dad.

First of all, I doubt there's anything wrong with the poor kid. I agree with handling it directly, though. Just explain that you've found some of your missing things in his laundry, don't judge, and let him know it better not happen again. Chances are, he'll be so embarrassed that you caught him that it really won't happen anymore. As for the 'used' lingerie...if you're uncomfortable wearing it again, and I would be too, just toss it. Nothing says you've gotta keep it around.

Maybe you should speak to your husband, and let him speak to your step son. Because the boy might not like it if you talk to him directly. I think that is the way I would do it. I also believe that your husband need's to be aware of what is going on.

Maybe when you have a moment alone with him, just mention that you know and dont like the 'stealing', and as long as it stops, you'll never mention it again. Trust me, it will be highly embarassing that you've found out and im sure he would appreciate you not telling anybody else.