Who do you lean on for moral support?
By charblaize
@charblaize (1026)
United States
August 17, 2009 2:57pm CST
I have been soo upset lately, that I really don't turn to anyone for support. I may have a friend online i talk to but no one really close to me. My mother but then we may end up fighting about the situation. I feel more of my friends are ones that i don't know and have never seen before---they offer more support than ones who live down the road from me and ones that see me everyday.
If it wasn't for the internet, i really don't know who i would turn to.
6 responses
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I know just what you mean! I have nobody to lean on, either. My mom is at the other end of the country and so are my adult sons and my sister. My dad is 30 miles away but he's deaf and my step mom is there but I hate burdening her with my problems when she has so much to deal with.
I do have some very good online friends, some of whom I'm met, but they're guys and don't really understand some things. I talk with God a lot and that helps more than anyone knows. And my dogs are a comfort.
Hang in there! At least we have our online friends. If I were smart I'd get out and start making some "live" friends but there aren't enough hours in the day and I'm too depressed to do it, anyway. 
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I know I need to start talking to God more than I do. Yes, I need to get out more and make more friends, but I have such a busy lifestyle it is hard and then to keep up with them is something else. I also get depressed when I meet some people and never hear back from them.
Atleast the online friends don't know what i look like and still seem to help me through some of my tough times.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Isn't it a shame how much looks matter? I've had a very few people I knew online meet me in person and I never hear from them again. Most of my online friends that I do meet accept me for what I am--very plain looking, overweight, middle aged. I warn them beforehand but they never believe me till we meet. There's an advantage to looking as I do--you find out who your real friends are.
@here2learn (210)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I mostly keep things to myself as well other than that I have a group of about 4 close friends that I can talk to. My family is often the source of my sadness because of all that we go through so I try not to burden them more by telling them my problems.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
29 Sep 09
They always say, that you can't keep things bottled in, that isn't good for you. It is nice, that you have some friends you can talk to. Like my family, we aren't very close so when I do talk them, I feel like I am the one to blame for something that happened.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I am sorry for your loss. I know many times our family gets together when we need it most, then afterwards it just doesn't seem like they are there when you need them. my mom does come to me whenever she needs it but many times if i go to her, she don't have any answers or too busy in her life.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
18 Aug 09
Family is number one to look up to,,,,,,,,,,,, and also if u got friends,,MyLot is a good way
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
18 Aug 09
i wish my family was number one to look up.....though sometimes they are not the ones to talk with. My mom likes to make me look like the bad one. Yes, Mylotters are really good for talking and answering questions. thank you kawalnarang
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
18 Aug 09
Same here Charblaize, but only because my two closest friends live 600 and 1,300 miles away and neither have a phone :(
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
29 Sep 09
I really never got close to anyone, just like aquaintances. So what do you then if you have a situation you need someone to talk to?
@suparnodatta (362)
• India
17 Aug 09
Well i have a very good friend from my school on whom i lean for moral support every time i need it.Whatever mess i am in i can always rely on him,i know he will be there for me.Its good to know that you have made very good friends on the internet.
Cheers and happy my-lotting.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
17 Aug 09
thats good that you kept that bond through school. i have a few friends that kept their bond really well also even though they are in different states. i guess i just talked to everyone and never really kept in touch. though when there is something tragic we all seem to come together; then still don't keep in contact....
