Is it possible to love more then one person at a time?
By 34momma
@34momma (13882)
United States
August 17, 2009 3:30pm CST
I was talking with a few friends today about this subject and I wanted to see what my mylot friends thought. Do you think it's possible to truely be in love with more then one person?
I think it's not love, but more of a lust thing going on. so what do you say mylotters, can you be in love with two people at the same time?
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
17 Aug 09
I would have to agree with you on lust, but then there may be cases where it might work. I can honestly say that it would never work for my husband, or for myself. We have talked about our definition of love, and we agree that we should be committed only to eachother.
One can say the same of gay relationships. Just because I'm personally not gay does not mean that a gay relationship would not work. There are millions of people who are gay, and things do work out.
What works for some may not work for others.
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@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
i think that one can love two persons at the same time but there will always be one whom you will love more than the other, whom you really care for and whom you cannot risk losing. we are created with more than one person to love but it is up to us to chose the one where our life really connects. i still believe and i strongly agree that lovers or couples should stay committed or loyal to each other and that there is no room for betrayal or cheating if a couple wants to have a harmonious and lasting relationship.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I would have to say from personal experience that you can love more than one person at a time. I have been dumped by guys I was in love with and moved on and fell in love with someone else. That other guy wanted to come back in my life and I still loved them also. Alot of times it is just lust for two people two though.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 Aug 09
Everyone is different. We love people differently...we love our parents, siblings, children, other rellos and we love our friends. We love our partner in a different way because we fall in love with them and even when the first attraction fades what is left is a deep, abiding love that we are committed to (hopefully). They are the one person we choose to honour and be loyal to. If there is another person we feel this way about then someone is missing out on something because this love should only be shared between 2 people, not 3. If we imagine we can love two people at the same time, then why not three, or four? How can someone give themselves totally to more than one person? And what about the ones we think we love, can they love other people as well? Gets a bit confusing eh? These are just my thoughts and observations...like I said, we are all different.
@pushkin69 (546)
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17 Aug 09
hey there. I think there can be many different types of love and we may feel more than one type at a time. Maybe true love, our sould mate type of love can only be experienced with one person, or at least I would like to believe anyway.
Sometimes lust can easily be mis-read as love and it isnt necessarily the heart that is feeling all those things!!! I have been in love and lusted after someone else at the same time before but I dont think that love I was experiencing was my one true love.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
17 Aug 09
yeah but lust and love as you even said is not the same. i guess what i am saying is you hear of people saying they are in love with two people and don't know who to choice. so i want to know is that kind of love possible to have for two people. i would so for me, no
@Babijai24 (37)
• United States
24 Aug 09
well loving someone and being in love with someone are 2 different things(this is explained on Lauryn Hill's CD The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, afer DooWop That Thing or Ex-Factor i forget which one) but anyway i still love my ex i mean im still willing to do anything for her, i picked her and her best friend up the other day and we of course started arguing which was one of the main reasons we broke it off and i tol her that she made me sick which in a sense is true then we looked at each other and smiled and our eyes said it all...love yes...in love not so much because i do not want to be with her anymore yeah she still makes me tingle sometimes but not like my new gf i am soo in love with her its just a different amount of love i guess like everytime i hear her name i smile i just cant help it i want to spend the rest of my life with her...idk if this makes any sense but thats my perspective