Is forgiving and forgetting that easy as said?
By malpoa
@malpoa (1214)
India
August 18, 2009 11:13am CST
I do forgive to those who hurt me after a lot of coaxing of course but it takes a lot of time and sometimes I dont even forget what they did to me. It does affect my relationship with the person. It is not that I havent tried but these things just pop up when I see or get reminded of the person in question. I once read that this is one of theimportant trait of my star sign gemini...whatever!
I can recollect things which happened to me as early as I was a 3year old child....
there was this old man in our neighbourhood who used to tease me saying I wasnt born to my mother and that i was bought by exchanging rice husks!!!
3 responses
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
23 Sep 09
Hello,
No I don't think that forgetting is easy as said, no one really does it. Forgetting is probably the hardest out of forgiving someone, because it will be stored in your mind forever, that is why it is so hard to forget. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
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@rhoday (152)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Forgiving is easy, but the forgetting part will never happen. You will alway's remember what has been done to you. We are going through that right now with my daughter inlaw. She was very badly harrassed by a man and his gang of friend's. And she almost killed herself due to that. She has now forgiven them for what they did, but she will never forget what they have done. It will be hard, she even has a hard time leaving the house because she is afraid they are going to be there to kill her or her kid's. So no forgetting is very hard. Forgiving is the easy part. Of course the man that did everything has now turned his cheeck and act's as though he is an angel. But he is still wanted by the police, and will be caught soon enough.
@malpoa (1214)
• India
19 Aug 09
Oh that was very sad to hear. Im sorry for her. It has happened in my life too. I have forgotten a few incidents but some will remain till I have memory...It leaves a deep scar which reminds of the incidents. I sometimes have sleepless nights over those incidents...I havent forgiven some people for what they did...It has always remained in my mind that I still wish I could give some kind of punishment to them. I mean how do these people find pleasure in seeing others in distress or cry? Waht type of human beings are they? Do they also get hurt? I wonder...
@mtvmtv (600)
• India
18 Aug 09
No,of course not.But not too much hard too.If you follow the mentality of forgiving you will surely feel good inside.Many people we have seen that they are of short tempered and reacts harshly with other frequently.That's what makes them hated by others.In fact to forget others' mistakes is a good manner too.
@malpoa (1214)
• India
18 Aug 09
Hmm I personally find it very difficult to practice. Because when I am in a conversation with somebody or even in an argument I take utmost care that I do not hurt his feelings. And I expect that in return. It is my nature that I behave with people in such a way expecting the same treatment from them. If I am rude to someone, it is okay for that person to be rude to me.
I have met certain people and have many acquantainces who blabber something or the other and in turn hurt thelisteners...It does make an impact.
