Is The One U Love Worth Fighthing For?
By mrshughes
@mrshughes (352)
Philippines
August 19, 2009 4:11am CST
HI friends! I just want to share something, i have a friend who just run away with her boyfriend since my friends family do not like the guy. Her boyfriend is my cousin and i know him very well. His the most irresponsible guy ive ever come across in my life. He has no work and there is really nothing going on with his life. He is just happy to sit around and do nothing. But he is a very good looking guy! And that is his best assets!
And i already warned my friend about him, but she is so blind to all of that!
And the next thing i knew is she run away with him. And i just feel she made the wrong decision...i dont feel his worth fighting for?
I would certainly fight for the one i love only if i think his worth it! Would u fight for the one u love?
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14 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
19 Aug 09
when it comes to them being lazy and not doing anything with thier life no they are worth it.
but soem guys knows all the right things to say to female to get them to stay with thier worthless self. most likey he must got her thinking she can't find anyone else.
so it's pretty much no matter how much you warn her, or anyone else. until she get tried of carry his worthless self she not going anywhere.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
Yes u got it! I've looking for that word infatuation. Yes i agree with u infatuation can be very deceptive...and we often think of it as love at first sight when we were young.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yeah u are right friend. But hard to explain that to young generations. Sometimes we learned life in a hard way.
@MCWoods (28)
• Australia
25 Aug 09
Yes! The young ones do tend to believe that what they are experiencing when they meet a boy (or girl)is love. But in most, if not all cases, with teens it is just infatuation.
Love needs to be nurtured and allowed to mature before any drastic actions are taken.
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@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Looks deceives. Well, i am happy and bless that my loved ones is not like your cousin. He is responsible and very loving guy. I am not after with the looks i am after with his character and attitude. I am not telling that my hubby is ugly, ofcourse not. Well let your friend realize what she did. As long as you gave your advice to her, that is enough. Just let her know that you are her friend.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Exactly. Yes im always her friend. And im happy for u. Real beauty comes from within.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yes my husband is a very nice guy. Im so blessed to have him just like u. We are the lucky ones. We fight and argue sometimes. But aside from that we have a very healthy relationship..plus we have a love son. God bless my friend.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
25 Aug 09
Love is blind!No,no...lovers are blind and we can't blame them.Most love starts from the outer looks and don't care for the inner potential.You should have warned the parents of your friend in the beginning itself.Now it is too late to worry.Yet,we all shall pray that atleast the boy shall gain responsibility now onwards.Let your friend and love become the motivation for him to succeed in life.Cheers!
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yes u are right. We all do some stupid mistakes in life when we were young. Looks matters so much in our younger days...but now we see so much of life...outer looks mean nothing to us anymore...its now whats inside the heart. I can only wish good for them. I stop worrying now...they knew what they are doing...and hope it will turn out good for them.
@bird123 (10654)
• United States
21 Aug 09
True love is always worth fighting for. Is this true love??? You are not the one who could know.Only they will know for sure. Life is about learning and growing as people. Looks like there will be learning with this couple. If it does turn out to be true love, just watch the changes in both of them. If it isn't true love, growing and learning comes with all relationships even bad ones.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
I see what u mean. Yes u are right life is about learning and growing as an individual. We learned from our past mistakes. Yes true love is worth fighting for...for the right person i supposed.
In my friends case...i hope its true love and i wish to God they know what they are fighting for.
Acctually i got a call from her today...asking if what her parents said about her?
And what do i think of her? I told her to do what makes her happy and i will support her but if she feels shes doing the wrong thing then she should come back to her family coz they are so worried about her.
@hmfryklund (389)
• United States
20 Aug 09
I feel so bad for people that do this, fall for the wrong person and are head over heels in love with them, and in the end they end up not being right for each other, and things get ugly. I feel you should fight for the one you love, but in situations like this, I dont know. It just doesnt sound good to me!
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Yes hard to understand people sometimes. Love is so powerful.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Wow! Im very happy to hear from u...yes i think love is worth fighting for.
@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
19 Aug 09
That depends on the situation.
If the one I love flirts and goes with other women, then they can have him. I won't fight for a man who likes other women more. That is his problem.
AS for the situation you described. Maybe yes, when you are so in love and think everything is perfect. You are blind to the truth. Well yes, I think I would.
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@aprces (1082)
• China
19 Aug 09
Exactly as one wishes or hopes for me,I just run away to my girlfriend's home.Properly speaking,I am knocking this words out in my GF home
Frankly speaking,I'm a little irresponsible,but not completely.I have no job too and still depends on my parents.I know that' too bad for me.I just begin my web earn plan just days ago and I don't know whether it will be feasible or not.Now my GR is working at company
At this such moment,your friend will do nothing about your advice,now her brain is hot and can't be accepted anything.If you do more for her and try to think about what is best for her,the best way is let it be,let her go ahead.Once she find herself is wrong,then she will be turn round
It's not the key that you don't feel his worth fighting for,the key is your friend,she believe this at that moment.BTW,I consider that many good looking guy are always playboy or parasite.That must be taken a scientific statistics research,I guess that'll get something regular
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
Wow thank u for being honest! Yes u are right, there is nothing we can do but let it be. But as a friend, im just concerned about her. All i can do is wish her good. Hope my cousin will change and starts to be responsible in life.
And for u, im glad u start doing something good in ur life. Dont waste ur life doing nothing, keeps ur brain working and do something good in life even just for ur own benefit. Wish u luck my friend.
@mkrishna22 (465)
• India
19 Aug 09
well, you never know in relationships how people might change. you might be right in your observation that your cousin does not do much in life, but who knows this relationship might just act as a catalyst in life for him. if his feelings for her are true, this might just be the motivation and driving factor for him to become something in life. i might be wrong, but strange things happen in life.
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Oh i would love to think that way...i hope he'll change. I wish them good in life. I wish it will work out good for them.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
Its very nice of u...for most people love is always worth fighting for!
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
I would not fight for love........
not anymore...
I did that when i was young...
and I have been paying for that one stupid mistake until now........
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
I do not know ur story my friend but i feel sad for u. Sometimes too much love can be so dangerous...and it hurts deeply. But dont close the door for love...im sure there are people out there that loves u without u knowing.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Yes I would in a heart beat, I have in the pass, in this case if he is as bad as you say, she will come to realize it after her feelings all caught up then she will cry her eyes out, and hurt, its sad that when we are young I am assuming she is young, we are hard headed so we don't listen when people try to give us advice, we have to learn the hard way, I just hope she don"t turn into one of these woman that make the same mistakes over/over/over again.I must say when I was younger I listened to people when they advised me about something, I may have continued to see him, but run away with him No, it was probably his idea, I wish her the best, keep us posted on how things turn out for her.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Yes. Young generations nowadays are very aggressive in life. They want theyre own way all the time. But we all do some stupid mistakes in life. I can only wish them the best...i told her that whatever happens im always here to support her right or wrong...life is everday learning process for all of us.
Whe we were young its very difficult to differentiate attraction from love. Real love from puppy love.
@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
Wow! I had a little kitten before..she just came from nowhere and we adopted her. My son loves her to bits. But one day my hubby run over her with the back wheel of the car...we were horrified but that was accident.
I have photos of her and my son playing. Im looking at it now. WE missed her so much.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Well that is so nice, thats pretty much all you can do is be there and hope for the best, it is funny what you say that about love, you think when your young I really love this man, only to meet someone later on and say wow, so this is what love really feels like, I have been there, only to be young again only this time to have the knowledge that I have now, my kitty will not let me type lol, he keeps climbing on the computer, just like a child he wants my attention, well I will end this one for now lol