Is money everything in life?
By bamrahkirti
@bamrahkirti (1821)
India
August 19, 2009 4:50am CST
I am working as an internal auditor in an automobile dealership and we have hired the services of a chartered accountant who does statuary audit once in a year.He is a miser and a complete hoarder of money.On many occasions i have seen him exploiting his staff for money.Though he is a billionaire but he does not have the heart to spend money.Last night i got a call from my colleague that his (C.A.'s) only son has committed suicide.He was just 23 years old and was studying in a premier institute.To me it was very shocking and tragic and i am feeling very sorry for the departed soul.
This incident has really touched me and forced me to think that money is not everything in life.For that young boy money was not at all a problem,after all he is inherited with billion of rupees and properties.He was going to be an engineer next year and placement was not at all a problem because he was studying in a reputed institute.There was something more crucial and serious which provoked him to take this extreme step.May be he was not happy and there might be certain things which were bothering him too much and which could not be solved by money.
What is your take on this?
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28 responses
@med889 (5941)
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19 Aug 09
Of Course money is not everything in life , I have met people in my life who are really wealthy one but they also fail to understand those who can absent work just because they do not have enough money or because they are ill they take time to get well as they have to go to hospitals and not to clinics, so there are people still like it in this world, however I will also agree that there are some people who can still understand others and help them in life though they are a very small number.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
19 Aug 09
Though money can buy you material things and earthly pleasures but it cannot bring peace and serenity of mind.Happiness,inner satisfaction and contentment have to be found from within and these are the things which make all the difference in our lives.
@freecloud79 (1)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 09
Yeah I agree with u, although money is not everything in life but in the main case money is important too. Without money how can u live? how can u raise your kids?. More importantly just don't make urself to become slave of money but make money to be your slave.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Hello freecloud.
I really appreciate your views.We have become so used of thinking about money all the time that we have given up independent life where there is no tension of money and materialistic things.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
no it's sure not everything.
but it is indeed very important in life.
we can't be hypocrite to say we don't need it and we can be happy wiht out it.
I have two kids, and I must say money plays a great role in our day-to-day lives.
i know i can make my kids happy in other ways.
but wihtout money, it makes things hard...
kids do want to go to McDonalds fromtime to time.
they want new toys,...
etc..
etc...
how can i do that without the money?
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Hi Patofgold23
I know you have presented the true picture that we need money for almost everything we are doing to make ourselves and our children happy.But there are other ways through which we can keep our children happy.Playing with them,singing and dancing with them,sharing your thoughts with them,spending qualitative time with them will make the real difference in their lives and they will feel more attached with their parents.
Even if they have some problem which is bugging them,they will definitely share it with parents as they know that they are always there for their emotional and mental support.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
hey banrah..thanks for commenting back...
i'm sure just being realistic.
i know how it takes to make kids happy.
there are ways we can do that without the money..
but we can't deny the fact it's hard wihtout it.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Aug 09
Hi bamrahkirti, The case that you mentioned is very touching.The youngster must have been a very sensitive person and had some serious problem with his life to do that . Money no doubt is an important factor of life but, definitely is not the solution for everything. There are far more important things in life, mainly human relationships, which no money can buy. I feel a person having many friends and well wishers is richer than a person who has only money but no friends..
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
Hi Kiran
Thanks very much for your response.
People with lot of friends and well wishers are always more happy and contended These words are so true and real.Our parents always used to say that if we share happiness ,it multiplies and we we share griefs,they divide.
But a person living as an island is bound to feel lonely,dejected and sad and that is why that boy has taken this step.
@panks7077 (47)
• India
20 Aug 09
Well a nice question to be asked but yeah money is not everything until you are earning greatly and have reservoirs of it. But its important for those who are not even earning much to live. So basically it depends upon the situation you are into.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
My post is not about money only.Earning money is not a bad pursuit,after all we all need money to live and survive but i just want to say that chasing money all the time is bad.We should have some time for ourselves and for our family.
@gavenxie (13)
• China
20 Aug 09
Hello!I'm Gaven,an English learner.It is the first time to comment on article in Mylot.
I'm really sorry to hear this miserable thing.In my opinion,money is important to everyone,we can use money to buy what we want,however, it is only one part of our life.Something we cannot afford,such as friendship and relationship,maybe some family problem bothered this poor guy and lead him to end his life,and we can't transfer the money to a life.And I think in the family,father is located in an important position,he should take more care about their children's growing,give their children a hand to solve some mental problems in time.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
Hello Gaven
Welcome to mylot.
We have become addicted to material comforts and continuously strive to earn more to fulfill our luxuries as well.But we forget to give valued time to our kith and kin and from here the problem starts.Though money is needed to sustain but relations are more important.
What will the poor father do with his millions of rupees when he doesnot have his son to inherit his money.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
Welcome to mylot.
Money is important for life but it is not the end of world dear.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
20 Aug 09
See not only money, but any kind of obsession is unhealthy for a person individually and for his/her family and friends…we call it mania and a maniac person does not stop to think about the feelings of his near and dear ones. To him/her, what he/she wants is the ultimate. And then this CA was the head of the family (most probably) and we know how in patriarchal India heads of families can be really tyrants. Maybe the way he led his life or ran after money or neglected his son in pursuit of money, affected the young man from early age. Whatever be the reason, its indeed very tragic and as a father, I think he would now have a very hard time reconciling with the fact that the very money which he was hoarding like a miser, now has no inheritor.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Hello Sudipta
Yes you are so true that now there is now no inheritor of his money and properties worth billion of rupees.I have heard from his staff that when his son was small and used to call up his dad so that he could take him out for recreation and outing ,he would not buzz from his place fearing that he might not demand anything from him.
That is so shocking to hear.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
Hello Kircho
I totally agree with you that money is needed to live but for survival we need relationships,friends and good company.
@Archie0 (5652)
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19 Aug 09
Well this is so sad thing. I cant believe someone can be such a miser that he cant see or think anything tsthan just money.For me money is important, very important.Ofcorse it is important for everyone, but i think nothing is more important than our self respect, our family, relatives and relationships as well as emotions.For me money is important but it is zero before all these.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
Hi Archie
I really appreciate your thoughts .What we really need to survive in long term is relationship and not money.
@szanne143 (34)
• Philippines
20 Aug 09
yup... we used to think that without money we won't be able to live...but in the long run if we experience something that even with money, we cannot do anything, that is when we will realize that money is not at all important... in fact, life is more important... probably with him, that's how he sees things. Money is worth nothing if the important thing in life is not with us
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
What is the use of earning money if there is none available to look after it now.
@johndevis1234 (169)
• India
20 Aug 09
the incident is very very sad and by hearing this thing i also fell that for him money is the most villainous his life he doesn't got any other amenities in life to survive.....his only father is always money he have it sufficient but he cant get the love of his parents.......i personally before this incident i go through i think that money is everything...but now i have to think it twice....for that........
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Thanks very much for your response.
You are true that due to lack of time his parents could not spend time with their child and he was left all alone mentally and physically.
Here money is not the culprit,but the real culprit is the state of mind of parents who are always spending most of their time chasing money and other earthly pleasures.
@christmas_ (121)
• Singapore
20 Aug 09
money is not everything in life but then money is important...
these days, not enough money = hard to survive
money can do a lot of things, can buy a lot of things
but some things money cannot buy -- health, time
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Thanks for your response.
Well your response is quick and up to the mark.
Money can buy us a bed but not sleep.
Money can buy us food but not appetite.
Money can buy as medicine but not health.
@pungki (8)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 09
Aftyer reading that, i think about money is not everything but in reality life form, money is important with the highest priority ,whithout money we can't move the things ,that can not be in the money is the buy true Love, sincere friendship and faith to the GODs
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
21 Aug 09
Thanks for your response.
Money is important for our living but it is not everything.It is just our stae of mind which has become slave of it.
@jennnguyen (23)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Money is not everything in life. It may make people happy but the happiness only last for so long.
The son probably was not getting enough attention and love, therefore felt out of place which probably led to depression and so forth.
@sreejithsreenivas (10200)
• India
19 Aug 09
Money is not everything in life,but is very important.With out it there is no honey or friends.Money is how we can afford all of our wants and needs that makes us happy.I think money can make me happy but not buy me happiness. Happiness cant be purchased at a store or online, but I'd definitely be happy if I was out of debt.
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@dreamjapan (409)
• Japan
19 Aug 09
Money is not the most important thing in life but is neccessary to get through life. My family are struggling just to get through each month. But we have a lot of fun together, do things as a family and enjoy challenging how much we can save.
Sometimes having too much money can cause so many problems, never having to challenge oneself, knowing that no matter what your path is laid out for you. I feel sorry for a lot of young people who seem to have everything but then seem to miss out on the most important thing in life...love!
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
19 Aug 09
Very well said
I too got carried away by money and wanted to have as much money as i could have but after this incident i realized that in the constant urge of hoarding money i am losing track of myself .
I will not be running for money anymore .Rather i will look for internal peace,satisfaction and happiness for myself and for my family.Though money is very important for our living but it just cannot equate with happiness and contentment.
I too got carried away by money and wanted to have as much money as i could have but after this incident i realized that in the constant urge of hoarding money i am losing track of myself .
I will not be running for money anymore .Rather i will look for internal peace,satisfaction and happiness for myself and for my family.Though money is very important for our living but it just cannot equate with happiness and contentment. @mastinet (467)
• India
19 Aug 09
Money plays an important role in our life. Without money we can not survive for long time. Money is needed in every sphere of our life and its the money only which can lets us enjoy our life with all modern gadgets and accessories. Without money our life is like a carpenter without hands or an athlete without legs. Well money is so much important but still it is not everything in our life. Money cannot buy everything for us, like happiness, care, emotions and other such things cannot be purchased with money. Money can bring wealth but not health.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
19 Aug 09
Thanks for your valuable response.
I totally admit that without money our survival is just next to impossible.But one should have peace and tranquility of mind.I do not want a life where i keep on calculating that how much i have and what i have to do to earn more and more .I think love,peace and most important thing is satisfaction.All these ingredients make our lives worthwhile.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
in my experience, i've met some people that in my opinion and views on they are with money, it seems to me that to them money is everything in life. they will do whatever they can to have it even if they will step on other people.
anyway, to me, money is not everything in life. sure i need money to live, but i will never replace friendship, love, respect, principle, to have many money. to have enough of it will already make me happy. to have more is a blessing. but its not everything in my life.
i think what happened in this situation is that the father had been busy with trying to gain to much money for himself that he had forgotten that important person in his life, his son. maybe instead of giving his son love and attention, he just gave him material things which is not what his son really needs. the son was needing love and attention but he is not getting any of it, so instead he took his life thinking that his family will never miss him anyway.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
19 Aug 09
Hi Jayrene.
So true your thoughts are
I have also seen many people doing wrong deeds to earn money.I have a colleague who has been working in my organization for the past 12 years .Everybody said that he used to come on a bicycle since he belonged to a poor family but through wrongful acts and through embezzlement he has now property worth million of rupees.
He is a worthless man as he is feeding his children with wrongful acts.
Atleast we have satisfaction that though less but we are earning money by our hard work and toil and we have every right to use it to the best possible way.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
Dear bamrahkirti,
Is money everything in life? The answer is NO BUT
money can do many things in life!
Money can be used for good and for evils. It depends on who
are having it..if it was in the right person hands, the money
can be a blessings to many........
There are other things in life, there are other factors that
determine happiness, joy and love. Poor people got their problems,
Rich people also got their share of troubles
Assuming A is extremely rich and have a son. But they are worried
as how to find a good daughter-in-law that are not after their
wealth. It is a problem of how to trust..how to find sincerity!
For the poor family, this is not an issue.
Money can solve many of poor people's problems. But how money
going to solve rich man's problem...since money is NOT the problem.
They have more serious issues that even MONEY can's SOLVE...
All the best, hope to hear your views on my topics too :)
Assuming A is extremely rich and have a son. But they are worried
as how to find a good daughter-in-law that are not after their
wealth. It is a problem of how to trust..how to find sincerity!
For the poor family, this is not an issue.
Money can solve many of poor people's problems. But how money
going to solve rich man's problem...since money is NOT the problem.
They have more serious issues that even MONEY can's SOLVE...
All the best, hope to hear your views on my topics too :)
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
19 Aug 09
Thanks very much for your response.
You said it rightly that money can be used for good things or bad thing.It is not the fault of money if the person is acquiring it with sinful ways.
Everybody has his own share of problems and i know every problem cannot be solved by money.I have heard lot of cases when close relatives are being murdered by people for properties and wealth.It is the mind of a person who creates a demon and money is not to be blamed for this.
@lordz00 (20)
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19 Aug 09
that boy was suffering from attention and love deprivation, people tend to ask for more and ask for something they don't have, if you have love you want money. if you have money you want love. ofcourse money is not everything but it has a major part in your life, it is the source of survival but never a source of happiness and satisfaction in life, that lad had only one thing. money, and that's it, and a whole empty being and a father that he see's only as an icon of money, not a father to lean on and to hold on to, so there you go. he gave up because maybe the only person who is suppose to be there for him is not there. it is hard when you are suffering from something and there is no one beside you. i can't blame him for taking the easy way out.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
20 Aug 09
I know that it had not been easy for the boy to take this step.He might have suffered a lot.He was deprived of love and attention as i can feel because his father was always in his office working nonstop to earn and his mother was always busy in parties and kitties.
I have even heard that when he was small and when he used to call up his father to take him to some park,movie or any other place,the father would not go fearing that his son might not ask anything substantial in terms of money from him.
